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Hey guys, sorry to post another question once more.
As of now I'm trying to improve my text game since I'm using apps (and once you get numbers you need to text anyway) and I have this weird problem..... I ALWAYS get analysis paralysis because there's too many possible responses/paths/permutations I can take when choosing to reply a girl's text. I need some kind of framework to be able to operate without confusion, so I was wondering if anybody has this problem as well?
As an example:
Her & Me - *some basic back n forth about music/guitar etc, she seems fairly engaged with emojis and at least she bothers to reply with questions lol unlike many other girls. so I decided it was time to ask her out (can't text too long, am I right?)*
Me - I might even consider playing it for you someday
What's your schedule this week looking like? Let's grab some food or a drink.
Her - Aww *emoji* make sure u bring ur guitar out haha!
This week is packed, am going to Bangkok tomorrow, probably when I come back?
**okay not too bad, at least she suggests an alternative**
At this point, several options come to mind... I could be like "sure, just for you" along those lines, "so troublesome, but if its for you then its worth it"
or even like "sure, if you give me a good enough reason, i'll even throw in singing for you as a package" etc etc
You get my point. There's multiple paths/permutations to take - how do I know what is the optimal message?
In the end, I said (because I didn't want to take too long to reply)
Me - Sure, if you give me a good enough reason, I'll even throw in singing as a package *emoji*
Sounds good, have a great vacation and I'll see you next week. Did you take many days leave?
**at this point I think it wasn't all that great. obviously I am new to this and I don't even know my fundamentals well enough to know what is correct/wrong. I'm guessing I didn't comply THAT easily, and I kinda flirted a little, but I think it was wrong to be vague about the meet up and starting a new topic randomly.**
So ultimately my questions are: (1) what would YOU respond? I'm truly curious to see how other veterans do this the right way - I want to analyse the correct patterns / concepts in action.
(2) how do I overcome this "perfectionist" mentality? e.g. each response must be optimized, making her laugh or flirting in some way etc.
(3) currently I have a simple framework, please correct me on this.
based on the GC articles I've read on and off in the past week, in any given situation, a text should (a) indicate your clear interest in her (b) be building rapport between you and her. Therefore, any text in any given time should have the goal of:
(1) making her laugh - because girls love this, makes them feel comfortable and also builds rapport (b)
(2) flirting with her - expresses interest which is essential to move forward and satisfies condition (a) and also builds emotional connection, thus satisfying condition (b)
(3) screening/qualifying her - this is for when you cannot think of a line that makes her laugh / is flirty, then you just ask her questions as you normally would, which still contributes to condition (b) of building rapport and building emotional connection.
I hope this framework makes sense and will help anyone out there! More importantly, please give me your input (especially on the framework and thinking) and I am sorry this post is so long - I just have to nail my concepts precisely or else I will not be able to rest until I understand everything clearly.
HUGE THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR YOUR HELP!
Cheers,
S.
As of now I'm trying to improve my text game since I'm using apps (and once you get numbers you need to text anyway) and I have this weird problem..... I ALWAYS get analysis paralysis because there's too many possible responses/paths/permutations I can take when choosing to reply a girl's text. I need some kind of framework to be able to operate without confusion, so I was wondering if anybody has this problem as well?
As an example:
Her & Me - *some basic back n forth about music/guitar etc, she seems fairly engaged with emojis and at least she bothers to reply with questions lol unlike many other girls. so I decided it was time to ask her out (can't text too long, am I right?)*
Me - I might even consider playing it for you someday
What's your schedule this week looking like? Let's grab some food or a drink.
Her - Aww *emoji* make sure u bring ur guitar out haha!
This week is packed, am going to Bangkok tomorrow, probably when I come back?
**okay not too bad, at least she suggests an alternative**
At this point, several options come to mind... I could be like "sure, just for you" along those lines, "so troublesome, but if its for you then its worth it"
or even like "sure, if you give me a good enough reason, i'll even throw in singing for you as a package" etc etc
You get my point. There's multiple paths/permutations to take - how do I know what is the optimal message?
In the end, I said (because I didn't want to take too long to reply)
Me - Sure, if you give me a good enough reason, I'll even throw in singing as a package *emoji*
Sounds good, have a great vacation and I'll see you next week. Did you take many days leave?
**at this point I think it wasn't all that great. obviously I am new to this and I don't even know my fundamentals well enough to know what is correct/wrong. I'm guessing I didn't comply THAT easily, and I kinda flirted a little, but I think it was wrong to be vague about the meet up and starting a new topic randomly.**
So ultimately my questions are: (1) what would YOU respond? I'm truly curious to see how other veterans do this the right way - I want to analyse the correct patterns / concepts in action.
(2) how do I overcome this "perfectionist" mentality? e.g. each response must be optimized, making her laugh or flirting in some way etc.
(3) currently I have a simple framework, please correct me on this.
based on the GC articles I've read on and off in the past week, in any given situation, a text should (a) indicate your clear interest in her (b) be building rapport between you and her. Therefore, any text in any given time should have the goal of:
(1) making her laugh - because girls love this, makes them feel comfortable and also builds rapport (b)
(2) flirting with her - expresses interest which is essential to move forward and satisfies condition (a) and also builds emotional connection, thus satisfying condition (b)
(3) screening/qualifying her - this is for when you cannot think of a line that makes her laugh / is flirty, then you just ask her questions as you normally would, which still contributes to condition (b) of building rapport and building emotional connection.
I hope this framework makes sense and will help anyone out there! More importantly, please give me your input (especially on the framework and thinking) and I am sorry this post is so long - I just have to nail my concepts precisely or else I will not be able to rest until I understand everything clearly.
HUGE THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR YOUR HELP!
Cheers,
S.