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Hi,
I've met a few girls online, a few introduced by friends, and some from facebook groups.
The problem is that they flake a lot on dates, I usually get chatty with them, and then I either ask for a date right there in the first few interactions, which gets me "but we don't know eachother", or I delay it, trying to build some more rapport over a few days/weeks. This sometimes produces not answer at all (or the kind of chat in which she puts no effort and I have to ask questions to make her actually write something), and other times it gets her talking nicely.
But no matter how nicely we talk, they never talk to me first, Should I leave her more space? I usually talk to them every few days, 2, 3, sometimes a week.
So in these chats I set up dates, the problem is that even though they agree half the time, they flake afterwards.
We set up a date, and in the day we arranged, they come up with an excuse and just disappear.
A few excuses I got:
"I didn't have battery and couldn't answer, I didn't thought you would be there"
"A friend just called, I forgot I had to do some homework"
"My cellphone was stolen and I could not tell you" (was true)
"I woke up with a giant pimple in my lip and it hurts" (wtf?)
etc, etc.
It usually goes like this, "lets met at this place tuesday" "okey see you there
" they dissapear, then excuse, then ask to reschedule a few days later, then disappear again.
What should I do after I organize a few dates and they end up like this?
Should I stop talking to them, and wait them to talk to me? would waiting a month "reset" the chasing so I could make another try? (maybe they are just busy now) Or would so much waiting get things too cold. I remember you these are girls I don't know yet, some are friends of friends, a few added me themselves. They are girls that I might find at a mutual gathering, If I got in the right parties, would that be better?
I've met a few girls online, a few introduced by friends, and some from facebook groups.
The problem is that they flake a lot on dates, I usually get chatty with them, and then I either ask for a date right there in the first few interactions, which gets me "but we don't know eachother", or I delay it, trying to build some more rapport over a few days/weeks. This sometimes produces not answer at all (or the kind of chat in which she puts no effort and I have to ask questions to make her actually write something), and other times it gets her talking nicely.
But no matter how nicely we talk, they never talk to me first, Should I leave her more space? I usually talk to them every few days, 2, 3, sometimes a week.
So in these chats I set up dates, the problem is that even though they agree half the time, they flake afterwards.
We set up a date, and in the day we arranged, they come up with an excuse and just disappear.
A few excuses I got:
"I didn't have battery and couldn't answer, I didn't thought you would be there"
"A friend just called, I forgot I had to do some homework"
"My cellphone was stolen and I could not tell you" (was true)
"I woke up with a giant pimple in my lip and it hurts" (wtf?)
etc, etc.
It usually goes like this, "lets met at this place tuesday" "okey see you there
" they dissapear, then excuse, then ask to reschedule a few days later, then disappear again.What should I do after I organize a few dates and they end up like this?
Should I stop talking to them, and wait them to talk to me? would waiting a month "reset" the chasing so I could make another try? (maybe they are just busy now) Or would so much waiting get things too cold. I remember you these are girls I don't know yet, some are friends of friends, a few added me themselves. They are girls that I might find at a mutual gathering, If I got in the right parties, would that be better?
