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Been reading girlschase and making occasional approaches with occasional success for a while, but just now in the past few weeks getting really good results, really getting after it and naturally refining my intuition (a direct result of some spiritual growth and a slight breaking down of a lot of my ego/self). Wanted to share a unique experience that I'm sure all the more experienced guys here have had in some way or another.
I'll give the backstory/LR first, if you want to skip to the relevation thats the last paragraph
I was out watching a mutual friend's/person I know from work's band play this bar with no intention of approaching girls, but then I see this one gorgeous girl and eye her down quite a few times (we made eye contact for a good couple seconds before we each slowly pulled away at one points). I tell my friend about her and he urges me to approach; I plan to but see her talking to some friends. I wait until she's alone, then walk over to her but see her notice my coming over and making a wtf face so I puss out. The rest of the show I was feeling pretty shameful after wimping out and not approaching, but the night goes on.
After the show I get invited to an afterparty (small one at apartment), and my friend points out the girl I meant to approach is there (he thinks its hilarious and is giving me a good ribbing). Not knowing anyone there, I talk to a few of the guys there trying to get comfortable with the place before talking to her. After that conversation I finally nutted up and talked to her opening with (and I said this with utmost confidence) "hey I'm christian, sorry for looking at you so much at the show, I just thought you were really cute and I'm sometimes a little shy" she was taken aback and we started talking for the rest of the party. she was into me the whole time but threw some resistance, when the party was winding down she was telling me she had plans to meet this guy at the bar her and her friends were going too. she then tried to pawn me off to her fat friend, which I laughed off asking "why are you trying to pawn me off" (I could tell she wasn't serious), and said we (me her and her 3 friends) should go to another bar without the guy she had plans to meet and she agrees. we walk around a bit and stop at her friends place (never went to a bar) before I took her home and spent the night at hers.
after we hooked up we talked about how we met and she remembers making eye contact, but not how she made the wtf face (she definitely did make this face and I think had I approached at this time I likely wouldve been rejected). she also told me her ex-boyfriend (relatively recent breakup from 2 year relationship) was the host of the afterparty we met at. throughout the night and morning said things like how in awe that "a guy like me would stay up this late for me" or that she was surprised "a guy as cute as me would want me for more than just sex" (even though we ended up having sex lol, i just had told her that it didnt matter to me whether we had sex or not which was strangely true). this was peculiar to me because this girl was a 9/10 in looks to me and by far the most attractive girl I've ever been with and she was acting like I was investing a lot in her when i pretty objectively wasn't and alluding to me being out of her league when that clearly wasnt true. one thing I was most proud of was how she complemented my eye contact a bunch even asking my at one point "how is you're eye contact is so intense. i dont understand how its possible"
Important part
the unique experience was that in the morning she actually thanked me, telling me about some of the things shes going through and how "i dont think youll understand how much this meant to me." and shit that really hit for me. being so used to the societal programming against seduction/straight guys expressing their sexuality, with seduction being such a taboo subject that I cant more than allude to with almost all any of my friends. of course the whole "guys are scummy and dangerous etc" propaganda of course. but here I am, using seduction to give this girl an experience to change her for the better and making a positive impact in her life. I certainly had no intention of doing this, nor will I going forward (wanting to would just taint the process), but it feels reassuring to know this path we're all on is fundamentally one that brings joy into the world and not the other way around as the powers that be suggest.
I'll give the backstory/LR first, if you want to skip to the relevation thats the last paragraph
I was out watching a mutual friend's/person I know from work's band play this bar with no intention of approaching girls, but then I see this one gorgeous girl and eye her down quite a few times (we made eye contact for a good couple seconds before we each slowly pulled away at one points). I tell my friend about her and he urges me to approach; I plan to but see her talking to some friends. I wait until she's alone, then walk over to her but see her notice my coming over and making a wtf face so I puss out. The rest of the show I was feeling pretty shameful after wimping out and not approaching, but the night goes on.
After the show I get invited to an afterparty (small one at apartment), and my friend points out the girl I meant to approach is there (he thinks its hilarious and is giving me a good ribbing). Not knowing anyone there, I talk to a few of the guys there trying to get comfortable with the place before talking to her. After that conversation I finally nutted up and talked to her opening with (and I said this with utmost confidence) "hey I'm christian, sorry for looking at you so much at the show, I just thought you were really cute and I'm sometimes a little shy" she was taken aback and we started talking for the rest of the party. she was into me the whole time but threw some resistance, when the party was winding down she was telling me she had plans to meet this guy at the bar her and her friends were going too. she then tried to pawn me off to her fat friend, which I laughed off asking "why are you trying to pawn me off" (I could tell she wasn't serious), and said we (me her and her 3 friends) should go to another bar without the guy she had plans to meet and she agrees. we walk around a bit and stop at her friends place (never went to a bar) before I took her home and spent the night at hers.
after we hooked up we talked about how we met and she remembers making eye contact, but not how she made the wtf face (she definitely did make this face and I think had I approached at this time I likely wouldve been rejected). she also told me her ex-boyfriend (relatively recent breakup from 2 year relationship) was the host of the afterparty we met at. throughout the night and morning said things like how in awe that "a guy like me would stay up this late for me" or that she was surprised "a guy as cute as me would want me for more than just sex" (even though we ended up having sex lol, i just had told her that it didnt matter to me whether we had sex or not which was strangely true). this was peculiar to me because this girl was a 9/10 in looks to me and by far the most attractive girl I've ever been with and she was acting like I was investing a lot in her when i pretty objectively wasn't and alluding to me being out of her league when that clearly wasnt true. one thing I was most proud of was how she complemented my eye contact a bunch even asking my at one point "how is you're eye contact is so intense. i dont understand how its possible"
Important part
the unique experience was that in the morning she actually thanked me, telling me about some of the things shes going through and how "i dont think youll understand how much this meant to me." and shit that really hit for me. being so used to the societal programming against seduction/straight guys expressing their sexuality, with seduction being such a taboo subject that I cant more than allude to with almost all any of my friends. of course the whole "guys are scummy and dangerous etc" propaganda of course. but here I am, using seduction to give this girl an experience to change her for the better and making a positive impact in her life. I certainly had no intention of doing this, nor will I going forward (wanting to would just taint the process), but it feels reassuring to know this path we're all on is fundamentally one that brings joy into the world and not the other way around as the powers that be suggest.
