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I did a search of this site and was excited to find SOME reference to this topic … but then i just had to laugh when guys are sweating over being 28 and hitting on 20 yr olds!! That’s no ‘Age Gap’ …. being 65 and hitting on 35-45 yo women sorta is though!!
What i have found, which i am sure holds true for all males if they are honest about it … is that while the body accumulates the visible signs of ageing …. the internal ‘guy’ still sees young women (any legal age!) as desirable!! The internal guy NEVER ages! … which can become somewhat problematic when one finds oneself single again at 65 yrs of age and NEEDING to get some healthy intimacy into his life!!!
I find myself in between a ‘rock and a hard place’ -- single again after my third marriage (of 20yrs) .. was first married at age 25 … then again 30 … and finally at 40. So basically i have been the ‘married guy’ all my life. Before my first i was always too timid and unsure of myself to actually hit directly on women and so let things just happen as fate would decree.
Having this site to me is truly a wonderful thing … if ONLY i had have been aware of this advice when i was young and single … i am sure my social life would have been a hell of a lot different. But in those days … well, it was ALWAYS a mystery to me how men ‘picked up’ women!!
So here i am at 65 -- fit, trim and healthy … the big issue however is that I am in no way shape or form attracted to women in my age group!! I still see the world through the eyes of a 25-30yr old … i prefer the company of younger (much younger) people … and now that i am single again i need to get intimate with younger women!!
I only started with this 'girlschase' information about a week ago .. but have devoured it incessantly as so many things just ‘made sense’ and ‘struck a chord’ …at last, i thought, a ‘hand-book’ on how to get women into your life!
The thing is … went out by myself last Friday night … couple of low key joints ... started to work on developing some sort of game!! … at 65, do you believe it!! Was not fussed about the results … just focussed on the process. However, at the end of the night … dropped into a quiet bar on my way home, half an hour before closing time, walked up to the bar to order a night cap only to be confronted with a jaw dropping young lady serving behind the bar …. i seemed to go into automatic mode … applying what i had crammed in over the past week or so … I could see myself as an observer and i was monitoring the situation, even if with my limited knowledge.
To cut a long story short … i was amazed at how effective doing ‘the smile’ and ‘the eyes’ right was … and because i am a natural conversationalist the ‘deep diving’ just happened as a matter of course. I could see that she was affected and that I had touched her soul somehow … it was a most wonderful experience … GOD, i even cracked half a ‘boner’ standing there at the bar … with with somebody who has ED issues this was a most encouraging event *ahahaha*
So the half hour gone .. bar closing … she now busy roaming and tidying up and me finishing my drink and having to leave! So much wanted to do ‘the close’ … but then the AGE GAP MONSTER entered my head …. and i now saw myself as some ‘dirty old man’ trying to hit on a ‘young kid’! .. Needless to say i did not close … however upon leaving the premises i made sure i walked right past her, where she was tidying up, and as i walked by leaned over and said: “it was an absolute pleasure to have met you!” ….. upon which she stumbled a reply mirroring the same and adding … “I hope I see you again!" … by which time i was half way out the door and on my way!
Analysing it later … after having caught my breath, because that brief encounter was certainly one of the INTIMATE kind … i comforted myself by telling myself if i had have tried to close we would have had a clash of frames because, as she told me during our banter and deep diving, that i reminded her so much of her ‘grandfather’ … but said in a loving way .. not used as a sarcastic tool.
Does anybody else find themselves in this situation?? I would love to hear from anybody who has a strategy for working a massive age gap into their game!!
… and Chase … if you read this … is that moment gone? Or would you, in my situation, go back and try to close?
Thanks.
PS: the 'jaw dropping young lady' behind the bar turned out to be 20yrs old --- now THAT fellow 'girl chasers', is an age gap!!!
What i have found, which i am sure holds true for all males if they are honest about it … is that while the body accumulates the visible signs of ageing …. the internal ‘guy’ still sees young women (any legal age!) as desirable!! The internal guy NEVER ages! … which can become somewhat problematic when one finds oneself single again at 65 yrs of age and NEEDING to get some healthy intimacy into his life!!!
I find myself in between a ‘rock and a hard place’ -- single again after my third marriage (of 20yrs) .. was first married at age 25 … then again 30 … and finally at 40. So basically i have been the ‘married guy’ all my life. Before my first i was always too timid and unsure of myself to actually hit directly on women and so let things just happen as fate would decree.
Having this site to me is truly a wonderful thing … if ONLY i had have been aware of this advice when i was young and single … i am sure my social life would have been a hell of a lot different. But in those days … well, it was ALWAYS a mystery to me how men ‘picked up’ women!!
So here i am at 65 -- fit, trim and healthy … the big issue however is that I am in no way shape or form attracted to women in my age group!! I still see the world through the eyes of a 25-30yr old … i prefer the company of younger (much younger) people … and now that i am single again i need to get intimate with younger women!!
I only started with this 'girlschase' information about a week ago .. but have devoured it incessantly as so many things just ‘made sense’ and ‘struck a chord’ …at last, i thought, a ‘hand-book’ on how to get women into your life!
The thing is … went out by myself last Friday night … couple of low key joints ... started to work on developing some sort of game!! … at 65, do you believe it!! Was not fussed about the results … just focussed on the process. However, at the end of the night … dropped into a quiet bar on my way home, half an hour before closing time, walked up to the bar to order a night cap only to be confronted with a jaw dropping young lady serving behind the bar …. i seemed to go into automatic mode … applying what i had crammed in over the past week or so … I could see myself as an observer and i was monitoring the situation, even if with my limited knowledge.
To cut a long story short … i was amazed at how effective doing ‘the smile’ and ‘the eyes’ right was … and because i am a natural conversationalist the ‘deep diving’ just happened as a matter of course. I could see that she was affected and that I had touched her soul somehow … it was a most wonderful experience … GOD, i even cracked half a ‘boner’ standing there at the bar … with with somebody who has ED issues this was a most encouraging event *ahahaha*
So the half hour gone .. bar closing … she now busy roaming and tidying up and me finishing my drink and having to leave! So much wanted to do ‘the close’ … but then the AGE GAP MONSTER entered my head …. and i now saw myself as some ‘dirty old man’ trying to hit on a ‘young kid’! .. Needless to say i did not close … however upon leaving the premises i made sure i walked right past her, where she was tidying up, and as i walked by leaned over and said: “it was an absolute pleasure to have met you!” ….. upon which she stumbled a reply mirroring the same and adding … “I hope I see you again!" … by which time i was half way out the door and on my way!
Analysing it later … after having caught my breath, because that brief encounter was certainly one of the INTIMATE kind … i comforted myself by telling myself if i had have tried to close we would have had a clash of frames because, as she told me during our banter and deep diving, that i reminded her so much of her ‘grandfather’ … but said in a loving way .. not used as a sarcastic tool.
Does anybody else find themselves in this situation?? I would love to hear from anybody who has a strategy for working a massive age gap into their game!!
… and Chase … if you read this … is that moment gone? Or would you, in my situation, go back and try to close?
Thanks.
PS: the 'jaw dropping young lady' behind the bar turned out to be 20yrs old --- now THAT fellow 'girl chasers', is an age gap!!!