The biggest problem with learning seduction - not coming across as genuine

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Okay so I'm learning all that is on GC and have read everything multiple times, etc.

I'm going out approaching and speaking with girls. And I'm doing all that is said here - being confident and being the lover, being mysterious,being sexual, etc. But it just feels like I'm faking it. I don't feel it's genuine and I bet the girls can feel it to.

The must feel when a guy is genuinely all that and has abundance, etc and when a guy is faking it and pretending.


I know what you're gonna say that this comes with experience and that I should just go out and approach and sleep with women. I'm doing the approaching but I feel like I need to fake those thing sooooo well that It seems as reality. Cause I get that without appearing confident and having abundance, being the lover - you don't stand a chance with any woman.

So any advice on how do I make it feel more genuine - like I'm all those things, until I get there and I don't need to pretend anymore?

You don't have to say fundamentals - I know and I'm working super hard on every piece of my fundamentals - upgrading them every single day. I need other suggestions.


Maybe visualizing that I'm all those things?



I actually have a theory on sth I'd like to try. I call it the Fight Club theory, I wrote a post on it. https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=6591

 

[Marty]

Amy Cuddy: "Fake It Till You Make It"

 

[Mr. oblivious]

All I can say is that experience is the only way you become more genuine cause you will beable to respond to all kinds of situations by your own ability instead of regurgitating GC content and you will also find your own style cause some of the styles you may be implementing may not suit you so it will come off not genuine

 

[Flames]

I don't really get the 'faking till you make it' you are whatever you are at that moment in time.

Your trying to be more confident ok? So you can't run before you walk. Your acting 40% confident that's your current state, tommorow you might manage 50%, the day after you might only get 30%.

Making an effort isn't 'not being genuine' you only think that because you see being confident as an emotion rather than a skill that is learnt. When you've done something 100 times before you automatically have confidence you don't have to try to be it. Think of something your good at or know a lot about do you struggle to talk about it? You may say well I struggle to talk about anything but then that's the same thing you haven't learnt the skill of talking yet. You'd still be confident answering questions about your chosen specialist subject.

You want to be good at something? Practice, that's all I takes.

 

[Drck]

When you go out, just forget all of it. Don’t try to be confident, sexy, lover, alpha, mysterious,… Don’t try to seduce her. Don’t pretend anything. Forget it. Be nothing, know nothing, have no clue about seduction. Just be a normal guy. Be a regular person. You see a girl – why not go and talk to her? She is a person too. This way you’ll get the experience, exposure. This is your experience, and there is no way you can get girl without it.


On the other hand, when you are on your own, that is when you pretend, that is when you read and study, that is when you work on your fundamentals. That is when you are trying to be confident, that is when you are setting your frames. This is your knowledge. If you want to be successful you need lots of knowledge.

Later on you’ll simply combine your knowledge and experience.

We are all faking it. When you were a child and couldn’t walk, you were faking walking by observing your parents. You got up, you fell many times, but you kept getting up till your faking became real walk. You were faking words, tried to make similar sounds like your parents did. By constant faking you learn to speak. Now you are faking seduction. Just keep faking seduction by getting up and walking towards the girl, talking to her. But don’t fake your personality, don’t fake being somebody who you are not.


There are ways that can help to overcome shyness:
* Systematic exposure (abundance mentality): You simply go out and talk to more and more women, until you become comfortable
* Meditation: you learn to meditate. Meditation will lower your anxiety
* Confirmations and frames. Example: “I used to by shy but now I am comfortable approaching and talking to many girls”
* Visualization: If you are good with visualization and NLP, imagine that she is just little, small, cute, silly and sexy while you are really big. She is so little that you can put her in your hand. You are much bigger than she is, and no matter what she does she can’t really hurt you in any way. Imagine you have a protective shield in your hands and around you, and she can’t hurt you in any way. Anything bad that she throws at you is reflected away from you by that shield. Behind that 10 inch thick shield you are confident, you are always comfortable, confident and happy – regardless what she says or does. Behind that shield she is always silly, cute and sexy girl, no matter how she acts…


But no matter what you chose, you still have to go out and talk to her. Don’t get lost in knowledge and imagination, practice is much more important….