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Hi Guys,
Recently, i just realize that i have a problem relating to all my Western friends here. I believe that this is down to three things. That is
1)Language crossover (slang and uses over a certain native country)
2)"Chatting" vs "Statement"
3)Trying to be smart with words, in any way, whether unconscious or conscious
I note down this three problems when i communicate with guys here on Girlschase. Let me share what i learn on point 2.
In point 2, We have "chatting" vs "statement". "Chatting" means that i am talking to you here. Trying to gauge where you at, know what is your problems and then relate to that problem without necessarily attending to the problem. "Statement" means that i am talking to you here, but rather than just trying to gauge where you at and know what your problems is, I am intending to solve your fundamental problems, gauging where you at, solving your surface level problems and also putting things as "this" and "that". It is like me putting a map on the table, and i am showing you to see this, and to see that.
What i did here on Girlschase recently, was trying to do the "chatting" and "statement" approach at the same time. I think it comes off terribly.
I need to relate though, especially now here, when there's only words to communicate. The idea is to figure it out step by step, where it gone wrong.
Zac
Recently, i just realize that i have a problem relating to all my Western friends here. I believe that this is down to three things. That is
1)Language crossover (slang and uses over a certain native country)
2)"Chatting" vs "Statement"
3)Trying to be smart with words, in any way, whether unconscious or conscious
I note down this three problems when i communicate with guys here on Girlschase. Let me share what i learn on point 2.
In point 2, We have "chatting" vs "statement". "Chatting" means that i am talking to you here. Trying to gauge where you at, know what is your problems and then relate to that problem without necessarily attending to the problem. "Statement" means that i am talking to you here, but rather than just trying to gauge where you at and know what your problems is, I am intending to solve your fundamental problems, gauging where you at, solving your surface level problems and also putting things as "this" and "that". It is like me putting a map on the table, and i am showing you to see this, and to see that.
What i did here on Girlschase recently, was trying to do the "chatting" and "statement" approach at the same time. I think it comes off terribly.
I need to relate though, especially now here, when there's only words to communicate. The idea is to figure it out step by step, where it gone wrong.
Zac
