The essence of "A" Arousal

[___M]

I'm a future-oriented guy, engineer, just met PURE hedonist girl-- she loves to talk, express, swipe social media every 3 minutes, drifted when heard facts or serious things.

On the first date we met in the mall for dinner and I invited her to my place, played her some songs on guitar and she just sings non-stop on girly voice but I didn't kiss her that night because the ball not big enough. *

I know she reacts with Arousal the most, so I post this thread to discuss.

How can man arouse women? what is the essence in the man who is great at arousing her?

It has always been my weakness and I want to get rid of it for good.


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(EDIT*: but I usually don't have a problem on "making a move" and getting laid on the first date- didn't kiss her that night is acceptable for me for now. It doesn't happen very often.
"Arouse" I am seeking for is arouse before the escalation (for me it's the first kiss on the bed)- mostly while on a date- "making her wet before she's on my bed.")

 

[Derek da man]

but I didn't kiss her that night because the ball not big enough

Always go for the kiss at the end of a night or when saying goodbye. You should aim for a peck on the cheek and if she's comfortable with it remain in her space use some seductive eye contact for a couple of seconds and if she doesn't withdraw then the kiss is on. When you do this move half-way towards her and as you do this use your body language/hands/etc to invite or draw her into your personal space. Don't rush into hers as this results in her defenses going up. Once she is in your space draw her to you so she is close, don't lean too much towards her, you want her close and in your space so she feels the attraction.

How can man arouse women? what is the essence in the man who is great at arousing her?

Try reading the article below, it changed how I see and use attraction. Basically once you are close to a woman you should assume attraction is on until it is proven otherwise. Just being close to a woman will trigger attraction as that is what nature does. It's more down to us messing up the attraction by what we say etc than generating it in the first place.

Just Google "60 Years Of Challenge - Complete Game Revision System" and see what you get. It's usually at the top of a search result and is about 30 pages long but well worth the read.

It has always been my weakness and I want to get rid of it for good.

I'm still working on this too and will be interested in others suggestions.

 

[Skills]

I'm a future-oriented guy, engineer, just met PURE hedonist girl-- she loves to talk, express, swipe social media every 3 minutes, drifted when heard facts or serious things.

On the first date we met in the mall for dinner and I invited her to my place, played her some songs on guitar and she just sings non-stop on girly voice but I didn't kiss her that night because the ball not big enough.

I know she reacts with Arousal the most, so I post this thread to discuss.

How can man arouse women? what is the essence in the man who is great at arousing her?

It has always been my weakness and I want to get rid of it for good.

You had a girl back at your place and you didn't make a move, that is the fastest way to get friendzone... once she agreed to go back to your place she agreed to sex pretty much...when I got started I used to go the massage route...easy to escalate and transition.

 

[___M]

Just Google "60 Years Of Challenge - Complete Game Revision System" and see what you get. It's usually at the top of a search result and is about 30 pages long but well worth the read.

Thanks, man! Actually, it already sat in my Ipad for a long time that I forget to read. Will check that out soon

 

[Fuck This]

As a future minded Guy, sometimes you have to set aside little blocks of time to Live in the NOW. get your Shit is order and say : "the next 24 hours are mine and I'm gonna make the most of it." And have your Cinderella time...

Now as a Future minded guy you have to schedule it ahead of time, get everything done before hand so you canimmerse yourself in the "NOW" and do it. And in that moment don't hold back on following the attraction impulses that women reflect back to you. that means isolating and going for the kiss in the middle of the dte or party....Set the tone as sexual and that's how you get same night lays.

There is a joke that you "can't drink all day if you don't start in the morning" . Well you can't fuck all night if you don't kiss her in the Afternoon...

 

[___M]

You had a girl back at your place and you didn't make a move, that is the fastest way to get friendzone... once she agreed to go back to your place she agreed to sex pretty much...when I got started I used to go the massage route...easy to escalate and transition.

Yeah that's on me. Usually, I will close and spend a night with her on the first date- but sometimes, some girls, I just shy and didn't go for escalation. Anyways, I don't have much of a problem in escalation that leads to sex or making a move... but BEFORE that, before the first kiss and while in seduction time that I really want to improve- making her wet before she's on my bed.