the girl who I am trying to get back

[DKD]

So I texted a girl I am trying to get back and no reply. I want to give it one last text and see but I got no idea what to say. Shall I go for the same text as before (Hey, been a long time. Hows work ? Sorry been busy, lets meet up) ?

 

[JMP_123]

Sounds like you're covering a lot in a text to someone who isn't replying in the first place. Unless she's legit interested she wouldn't entertain meeting you out let alone not responding to a text. Does that make sense?

JMP

 

[DKD]

Sadly it does man. It just clicked when I read your comment. But do you recommend any follow up text to fix this up ?

 

[JMP_123]

If text messages could solve things we'd all be richer and get more ass I assume lol. If you were dating and lost her it happened for a reason, if you hooked up and she disappeared it still happen fr a reason. She knows exactly what your number is and that she has already ignored you once. What would make her change her mind now or turn her interest in your favor all of a sudden? Nothing really to be honest.

I just say all these things in a realistic and tough love manner. I also say them b/c if I lose a chick for mysterious reasons I just look in the mirror and realize there were probably things I could have done differently. If I were you i'd drop trying to bug her. Because if you leave her alone and don't see her for week or months, then at least the possibility to reconnect is still there. If you bug her with petty texts to no answers she's more prone to not forget that and not want to rekindle shit. Hope that makes sense homie.

JMP

 

[mkivtt]

Well, you have nothing to lose by trying one last time. Since it's pretty much done for, you can send whatever the heck you want.

I would call. You'll probably get her VM. Here's a good example of something to leave:

We had fun for a while but now it seems impossible to text or even get you on the phone. Normally I'd move on, but I really felt we shared a connection and had potential. So I'm going to give this one last shot before deleting this number from my phone.

You're busy, I know that. As am I... but I will MAKE time for the right people. I think it would be a loss for us both if we went our separate ways. What do you have to lose? Find 90 minutes and call me.

Or:

Hey, it’s <name>. You know what, let's just barrel through this. I know it's uncomfortable to meet new people. But let's just, you know, barrel through because this is important. This is how all our loved ones got into our lives, all the people we love and all our friends. Let's just get through the initial weirdness of meeting someone new and if we don't end up liking each other, at least we know we tried. So let's hang out. Ten minutes. Call me back.

In both cases you demonstrate you won't put up with her BS and are ready to move on. It depends though. If you were doing well, and she just disappeared, she may get back to you if you try one of those. But if you were needy, sending a lot of texts without responses, being an AFC, it's already a lost cause and nothing you do will change that. Good luck.