The "I'm not into boys right now" excuse

[shaneawi]

I set up a date with a girl and the day before she texted me that she is anti boy right now. She said every guy she's talked to has messed her up mentally and she wants to focus on herself.

Is this total bs and her just politely rejecting me? I've never heard of a straight girl who is anti boy at the moment

 

[Smurf]

I smell bullshit.

How exactly did your interaction go? I could infer more from more detail.

Remember no girl is anti boy. Not even some lesbian ones

Jake.

 

[shaneawi]

I got her number. We set up a coffee date. She flaked but tried to reschedule with me. I rengaged and set up another date. She said she was intrigued when I told her it would be an adventure. She texted me the day before and said she's been emotionally hurt by guys in the past and doesn't want to dated right now. She said she wanted to get to know me but needs time to herself right now.

Should I try again in a few months. I think I went wrong when I left immediately after getting her number instead of making her feel comfort around me once so got the number

 

[shaneawi]

This was her text to me

"Idk if i can go tomorrow. Havent really been myself lately and Im just anti boys right now. Every guy I ve talked to has kinda fucked me up mentally and emotionally and I think I just need to focus on myself right now. I defenitely want to get to know you just right no wisnt a good time for me."

 

[Bboy100]

Honestly, this sounds legit to me. Her text seems authentic. Plus, this is a very specific reason. Usually bullshit excuses are more generic (e.g. "I don't have time right now" or "I already have plans" or "I got called in to work" or "I can't"). Jake is right that no girl is anti-boy under normal circumstances. But shit happens and there can be periods in life where we want to stay away from dating. Sounds like this is what's going on with her. To be honest, there's probably not much you can do. Cause if you wait a long time, she'll forget who you are and she won't have much incentive to meet up with you. Even when she's figured her shit out. But if you continue pushing rn, you'll only encounter more resistance. I'd just move on to a different girl.

 

[shaneawi]

I went to the gym where she was working. I smiled, said hi and kept walking. She followed me to the weight room and started a conversation. We chatted for a bit. I told her I wasn't sure if I would be in town because I got a job offer in another city. I gave her a hug and said call me when she was ready.

She immediately asked me when I was free and I said text me and I'll let her know soon after I check my schedule. I got a text five minutes later saying she was free after Wednesday next week.

Was she testing me? How did she go from being anti boy to wanting to hang out in a matter of one day?