A big part of the focus of this site is how to have a "sexual vibe," not get "friendzoned," etc. I know personally, it's taken me a few years since finding this (mostly brilliant) advice to realize that, as with all things in life, balance is important.
What am I getting at? I think it's important to know three things:
Specifically, I've found that if I'm so focused on getting laid that I "filter out" all non-sexual opportunities with women, I actually miss out on some pretty cool experiences.
Moreover, one of the best ways to meet and attract women as sexual partners is to be surrounded by women. While that's common knowledge, I've found that it's actually better for this purpose in many cases to be surrounded by female friends than lovers.
Consider the following two guys:
1. The guy with the "player" reputation who's constantly showing up to stuff with a different girl on his arm, emits a sexual vibe, and charges the air in every room with electricity. Everyone loves to hang out with him, and he makes any party vastly more entertaining. Women seem to melt around him, and he takes many of them as lovers.
2. The guy who displays strength by setting iron-solid boundaries, focuses on uplifting the people around him, and is well liked and respected by both men and women. People know they can depend on him, and they go to him in times of need. Women regard him as a fantastic relationship prospect, but only a few sleep with him.
Which of the two guys do you think will attract more high-quality women?
Which do you think will be more successful in business/life in general?
Which do you think will be introduced to more people/expand his social network more effectively?
Which is more fun to hang out with?
Which description fits you better, and which do you find yourself more drawn to?
Obviously, the two are not completely mutually exclusive. And, which type will be more effective at getting sexual partners depends on the type of woman you're targeting. The key is how to balance the two to have the most fulfilling lifestyle.
But, ever beyond that, I think that it's important to have a healthy balance to one's social life. As a general rule of thumb these days, I try to maintain something like this:
What am I getting at? I think it's important to know three things:
- How to be sexually charged
- How to make friends with people (including girls)
- When to take which approach
Specifically, I've found that if I'm so focused on getting laid that I "filter out" all non-sexual opportunities with women, I actually miss out on some pretty cool experiences.
Moreover, one of the best ways to meet and attract women as sexual partners is to be surrounded by women. While that's common knowledge, I've found that it's actually better for this purpose in many cases to be surrounded by female friends than lovers.
Consider the following two guys:
1. The guy with the "player" reputation who's constantly showing up to stuff with a different girl on his arm, emits a sexual vibe, and charges the air in every room with electricity. Everyone loves to hang out with him, and he makes any party vastly more entertaining. Women seem to melt around him, and he takes many of them as lovers.
2. The guy who displays strength by setting iron-solid boundaries, focuses on uplifting the people around him, and is well liked and respected by both men and women. People know they can depend on him, and they go to him in times of need. Women regard him as a fantastic relationship prospect, but only a few sleep with him.
Which of the two guys do you think will attract more high-quality women?
Which do you think will be more successful in business/life in general?
Which do you think will be introduced to more people/expand his social network more effectively?
Which is more fun to hang out with?
Which description fits you better, and which do you find yourself more drawn to?
Obviously, the two are not completely mutually exclusive. And, which type will be more effective at getting sexual partners depends on the type of woman you're targeting. The key is how to balance the two to have the most fulfilling lifestyle.
But, ever beyond that, I think that it's important to have a healthy balance to one's social life. As a general rule of thumb these days, I try to maintain something like this:
- Max of two serious relationship prospects at a time
- No more than two to three causal-only sexual relationships per serious relationship prospect
- At least three female friends for each sexual relationship
- Minimum of one sexual partner and four female friends at any given time
