The Ladykiller Chronicles

Kvothe

Cro-Magnon Man
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Friday did one approach. It turns out I had previously approached this girl. I should have told her I did remember, but I played it off as having forgotten her name. I also should have said that at least I was consistent and had good taste. She left pretty quickly which was a bummer.

Today did about 7 approaches. Most of them I went in and gave the compliment, then bounced when I saw that the girl wasn't too receptive. I should not do this, I should try to keep pushing unless she clearly wants me to leave. This way I can get girls who are more "yellow".

I did get two numbers from girls. The first I stopped her and told her I thought she was really cute. My conversational skill was rusty, but my vibe was good. It felt kind of interviewy with me asking her questions. Found out she worked here in the city and was originally from New Orleans. Worked there as a teacher before changing jobs because she hated it. Now she's in something else.

Second girl was better. Told her I liked her style and traded some words. I ran out of things to say in like 5 seconds, so I told her that I was just walking and her coat stood out to me in the dreary weather. She told me she was in design, and that she was off to a writing class. I told her that she didn't strike me as a writer. I could have made the interaction so much better by following that with "you just struck me as the type of girl who likes moving around a lot and is more energetic" with a smile. This would have been great. Except instead I followed it lamely with a non-reason for why I thought so, but that I thought it was cool for people to reach outside their normal routines (except even worse than that). I asked her what sort of story it would be, then joked saying she'd be writing about living in a big city and meeting all sorts of interesting and strange individuals. Asked her to grab drinks and she seemed down, but we'll see.

2020 Totals (6 weeks complete):
Approaches: 58
Numbers: 5
Dates: 1
 

Kvothe

Cro-Magnon Man
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2020 Totals
Approaches: 58
Numbers: 5
Dates: 2
Kisses: 1
 
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Kvothe

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Went out in the evening to day game, but was freezing and could not do any approaches.

Went out at night with my roommate. He recently discovered GC, so I'm excited to start going out with him.

First bar we went to no one was there. Just drank a little and then moved on. Did the same thing at another bar. Eventually went to one spot. Did a short approach, was fully rusty, so it was a super boring conversation. Basically an interview.

We went to another bar nearby. As we were entering this asian girl started talking to me, but I got distracted and lost her. My roommate was interested in a girl, so I gave him my drink, and told him to say hi. She had been eyeballing him, so he decided to approach. I used the bathroom, then went to my roommate. He had approached, and I introduced myself. Started talking and was a little too talkative potentially. Honestly, my roommate and I realized midway that we were interested in each other's girl, but could not communicate that we wanted to switch. The girls left, but it was still cool.

My roommate went to use the bathroom before we left to another bar. I noticed a girl looking at me, so I smiled at her and she smiled back. Went up to her and just said hi. She introduced herself to me, and told me she was heading to another bar. She gave me the name, and said I should come there. I said I had one other guy with me, and asked if there was room in the uber. There wasn't. Next time, I'll just ditch any friends. Talked tot he girl, grabbed her number, and said we'd try to meet later. Number was fake unfortunately I think. Lesson is that I should seize the moment.

We went to another bar, and there was a girl in a short red dress, and she stared at me as I entered. I ordered a drink, then while it was coming, approached. Told her she looked fucking stunning. She said you too, and I started talking. I tried moving her and her friend wayyyy too fast though. Not enough comfort was built, so she and the friend declined, saying they'd come by later. Obviously later never came. I ran into her later and tried talking, but the window had closed. On the bright side, I'd rather lose a girl to moving too fast than too slowly.

My roommate saw a girl he was interested in. I was feeling extremely confident by this point, so I just opened her and was received really well. Introduced my roommate to her, and met the girl's friend. Was able to hold my own in the sarcasm department. The girl told me she wanted to give me her number, so I got it, but I wasn't too attracted, so no plans to text.

Overall, solid night. I'm feeling so fucking attractive right now, so I expect some fun times coming up.
 

Kvothe

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So yesterday night was much less exciting than Friday night. Went out solo, and was having a real hard time opening girls. Cold weather combined with feeling shitty about my failed date on Wednesday added to that. Went through my routine of grooming, and meditated for 5 minutes before heading out around 10:30.

First three bars, almost every girl has a guy or is in a large group of girls. I basically spend 45 minutes walking to a bar where I can talk to girls. Order a drink, and feel totally shitty and out of place. I finally see one cute girl in line at the bathroom, and I open by saying, "I honestly don't have anything better to say than hi, but I wanted to meet you", yuck. I talked for a few minutes, but my vibe is utter trash. Boring, and I can tell she's being nice because she probably tells I'm feeling shitty, but I just bounce quickly. I open another girl while I'm in line for the bathroom a little later, and she seems warmer, but not interested. Conversation was boring, and she closed off from me. Finally, saw a girl sitting next to her friends at the bar, but she was on her phone. Tried opening, but was too low energy and she quickly ignored me. At this point, it was close to 12, and no new girls were at this bar so I bounced. Tried stopping by a few bars on the way, but was feeling really shitty, and couldn't open anyone. Ended up going home and jacking off by 1.

Complete 180 from how I felt on Friday, but I guess that's normal. I won't feel amazing every day, and as a result I won't have that charisma either every day. Need to work on state independence, and not letting one failure affect me so heavily.

On the positive, I went out by myself, and even if I failed miserably, at least I tried opening and having some interactions. Better than if I'd stayed at home playing video games all night.
 

Kvothe

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Today I wanted to meet upwards of 30 girls, but managed only 2 approaches. For the most part, there just weren't any cute girls where I was walking. I am thinking this might be attributed to it being a long weekend, so people might be chilling indoors or doing day drinking elsewhere.

First approach I saw a girl in a bright orange topcoat. Complimented her on it. She also had startlingly beautiful eyes. I should have said, "honestly the only thing more striking than your coat are your eyes". Her friend sort of tapped her (I hadn't noticed a friend), but the girl seemed hesitant to leave. I think if I'd given that compliment, and had a less dour vibe, I could've had a quick number swap.

Second approach, saw a girl walking quickly. I told her she was dressed incredibly stylishly. She was in a super rush though, late for a meeting. I don't know what I could have done sprezzatura-wise. I think I should have caught up with her and tried walking in her direction and tried for a quick number grab.

Tomorrow will be better.
 

Kvothe

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6 approaches today. Vibe was okay but not stellar. Think I need to try a new outfit also, this look is getting stale.
Honestly no particular girl stood out that I can take too many lessons from. They all seemed uninterested off the bat, so I exited really quickly. The main thing is I did the approaches and building momentum back up.

2020 Totals (Day 47/366 12.8%):
Approaches: 75
Numbers: 7
Dates: 2
Kisses: 1
 

Kvothe

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5 approaches today.

3 girls had boyfriends. But I'm glad I pushed back them being in a rush to try and extend the conversation a little longer.

One of the girls was much less attractive up close, so I just let her pass.

Last girl was on her way to a date. Should have stopped her and asked what kind of date and tried to squeeze myself in there somehow.

2020 Totals (Day 48/366):
Approaches: 80
Numbers: 7
Dates: 2
Kisses: 1
 

Kvothe

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Did 7 approaches today. First 5 I belted out in 30 minutes. Super happy with my decisiveness here. Overall the first three approaches were good, and the fourth and fifth were not as good. Got two numbers and was more pushy/persistent. Had a coaching session afterwards, and can me up with some new exercises. First is to show more intent, Second to persist through three rejections before ejecting, and to ask for more compliance.

2020 Totals (Day 49/366):
Approaches: 87
Numbers: 9
Dates: 2
 

Kvothe

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2020 Totals (Day 50/366):
Times approached: 1
Approaches: 87
Numbers: 10
Dates: 2
Kisses: 2
 

Kvothe

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Went out yesterday night. Joined in on two approaches and approached a two-girl set. First one was bad, but due to being far from the rest of the group. Main thing was I was out with @Grand Pooba and he called me his client, to which I said that he was my pimp, which was pretty funny and a good sexual humor joke. Next one, he and my roommate started talking to two girls, while the third member of the group was getting drinks. I asked her if she was the mother hen. Talked a bit, and set a little bit of premise. One of the three girls wasn't too into us, so she bounced and pulled the rest of the girls away. Besides that, it seemed like it could have been a good lead.

Last girl I saw wearing tiger stripes, so I said she looked fierce, and that I had a thing for tigers. She was throwing a lot of shit tests at me, but I was able to deal with them pretty well, and there was some solid low key incidental touch happening. Unfortunately, my roommate tried to isolate them too early, so it went dead. I should have tried recovering by telling my girl to get her drink, and then we could grab a seat somewhere else.
 

Kvothe

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Did two approaches today. Neither was that good. First one I forgot to persist three times, but I did that on the second one, and might have had a better reaction with a more energetic vibe.

2020 Totals (Day 50/366):
Times approached: 1
Approaches: 90
Numbers: 10
Dates: 2
Kisses: 2
 
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