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OKay.. I'm trying to get my girl back, I know it will be hard and I kind of know what to do, but I have made mistakes hat will make it harder and the page on girlschase.com is helpful, but I need advice based on this situation. I'll try and be short to save you nice people some time.
I started seeing this girl very quickly after meeting her. So we went into it not really knowing what to expect.. Well we talked a lot for a month before actually doing anything. I'd get invited to her house after a party at which we shared many kisses and spent nearly the whole night in each others arms. I went to her house a few days after. Spent a good few hours there. Because we both thought it was just alcohol that lead us to kiss, we where just watching a film for the beginning. Then i started play fighting and yeah.. we kissed passionately and cuddled for the remaining half hour. We then shared many more kisses after it was time for me to leave. After that day, she'd text me near enough all day if she could and id do the same. Just talking about how much we missed each other. This went on until we organised another day to go to hers (we had to make it when her parents weren't in). Yes, we're young haha. We're 17, nearly 18. Because school is school, rumours started going around before the day i went to hers that I only wanted to have sex with her (well, yeah eventually), but I wanted a committed relationship. During this day, you'd expect us to be all over each other, right? Nope. She didnt move to hug or kiss me when I moved in the door and i thought she heard the rumours and was going to tackle me about it. I was nervous at this point (I know I regret all of this, don't give me such a hard time haha) and basically, we shared one passionate kiss and lots of goodbyes. The rest of the time we were cuddling at which point she fell asleep.
After this she wasn't textign as much and I got scared. Yes, I had low self esteem but I have recovered now. I didnt text her for two days after a week of her not texting like normal and sure enough she texted. Then people started telling me things about her, that she was just using me etc etc, so I asked her what changed between us. I asked her out multiple times and she made excuses. Filled with anger about her apparently using me, i kept pushing for an answer. She didn't want to tell me, but she says she doesnt feel the same. She also says she doesn't know why. She said I was more than good enough and after that message, we didn't speak for two weeks. Then i texted her (another mistake) asking her for a reason and telling her I'd wait for her. I said I'd wait for her because she'd being suffering from anxiety and panic attacks had being coming. She said yet agin she doesn't know what changed and she feels awful about it. I told her how much she meant to me and we haven't spoke since. But when she said she's sorry for it over text, I acted like it was no big deal telling her not to worry about it etc etc which was right, I think?
Now.. It's been roughly a week since we've had contact. We're both going to this party on Friday night and we'll both be drinking. I'm guessing the best thing to do is try and regain control? I want to tell her that i don't know what I'm really feeling, but I still care and would like to remain friends. Is this right? After that I'll be going off to be my mate's wingman haha So I'll be flirting with a lot of girls with her possibly seeing some of it. I don't think kissing another girl would be wise as she'll think I've completely moved on... Or should I try get a kiss?
Next thing is in a month's time, we will both be in a concert. We're both musicians and it's how we met. I don't plan on talking to her at all until this concert, where I'll be normal and just like I was when I met her. Then I was thinking, if i see her completely comfortable with me, I'd take her aside at the end of the night and ask again what changed. When she will probably say "I don't know" I was thinking asking about if it's attraction. Then when she will say "I don't know" or something along those lines i was thinking on saying "so if I did this" and kissing her? As the main reason i lost her being I never kissed her when I should've...
I know this is a lot to read and the information on the main site is very helpful, are these the rigth things to do? If not, what should I do?
I also think I lost her because another guy would've got her attention possibly... But we all think this after a breakup, right?
Please guys, I know I'm young, but help me learn?
Thanks in advance
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I started seeing this girl very quickly after meeting her. So we went into it not really knowing what to expect.. Well we talked a lot for a month before actually doing anything. I'd get invited to her house after a party at which we shared many kisses and spent nearly the whole night in each others arms. I went to her house a few days after. Spent a good few hours there. Because we both thought it was just alcohol that lead us to kiss, we where just watching a film for the beginning. Then i started play fighting and yeah.. we kissed passionately and cuddled for the remaining half hour. We then shared many more kisses after it was time for me to leave. After that day, she'd text me near enough all day if she could and id do the same. Just talking about how much we missed each other. This went on until we organised another day to go to hers (we had to make it when her parents weren't in). Yes, we're young haha. We're 17, nearly 18. Because school is school, rumours started going around before the day i went to hers that I only wanted to have sex with her (well, yeah eventually), but I wanted a committed relationship. During this day, you'd expect us to be all over each other, right? Nope. She didnt move to hug or kiss me when I moved in the door and i thought she heard the rumours and was going to tackle me about it. I was nervous at this point (I know I regret all of this, don't give me such a hard time haha) and basically, we shared one passionate kiss and lots of goodbyes. The rest of the time we were cuddling at which point she fell asleep.
After this she wasn't textign as much and I got scared. Yes, I had low self esteem but I have recovered now. I didnt text her for two days after a week of her not texting like normal and sure enough she texted. Then people started telling me things about her, that she was just using me etc etc, so I asked her what changed between us. I asked her out multiple times and she made excuses. Filled with anger about her apparently using me, i kept pushing for an answer. She didn't want to tell me, but she says she doesnt feel the same. She also says she doesn't know why. She said I was more than good enough and after that message, we didn't speak for two weeks. Then i texted her (another mistake) asking her for a reason and telling her I'd wait for her. I said I'd wait for her because she'd being suffering from anxiety and panic attacks had being coming. She said yet agin she doesn't know what changed and she feels awful about it. I told her how much she meant to me and we haven't spoke since. But when she said she's sorry for it over text, I acted like it was no big deal telling her not to worry about it etc etc which was right, I think?
Now.. It's been roughly a week since we've had contact. We're both going to this party on Friday night and we'll both be drinking. I'm guessing the best thing to do is try and regain control? I want to tell her that i don't know what I'm really feeling, but I still care and would like to remain friends. Is this right? After that I'll be going off to be my mate's wingman haha So I'll be flirting with a lot of girls with her possibly seeing some of it. I don't think kissing another girl would be wise as she'll think I've completely moved on... Or should I try get a kiss?
Next thing is in a month's time, we will both be in a concert. We're both musicians and it's how we met. I don't plan on talking to her at all until this concert, where I'll be normal and just like I was when I met her. Then I was thinking, if i see her completely comfortable with me, I'd take her aside at the end of the night and ask again what changed. When she will probably say "I don't know" I was thinking asking about if it's attraction. Then when she will say "I don't know" or something along those lines i was thinking on saying "so if I did this" and kissing her? As the main reason i lost her being I never kissed her when I should've...
I know this is a lot to read and the information on the main site is very helpful, are these the rigth things to do? If not, what should I do?
I also think I lost her because another guy would've got her attention possibly... But we all think this after a breakup, right?
Please guys, I know I'm young, but help me learn?
Thanks in advance
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