Sure thing! It sounds like were around the same age and I've had a lot of the experience you look for so its natural for me to answer your posts!
Let me ask tho:
1) Do you go out alone or with friends?
I always go out alone, cannot find friends to go out with and coworkers are a bad choice IMO. Most friends I make are not the type that want to go out.
2) How often do you cold approach when out? How adverse are to approaching?
I make small talk and I talk to some girls but I never go all out PUA like those Simple Pickup guys. I would say that I do it every now and then but I don't do it every day.
3) Do you go to bars on the weekends or no?
Yes, I go bar hopping almost every weekend.
4) Did you keep any of those lays around or are you currently totally single?
I have kept some around but I am not looking for a relationship. My lays usually don't have that big of a social life themselves, their friends are off getting married while they are the ones focusing on their careers and use apps to meet guys on their free time. Some of them have been staying int he city temporarily.
5) How long have you been in your city and do you feel like you can generally connect well with people there or do you feel like more of an outsider? Do you go to bars with mostly people your age or much younger or do you mix it up?
Been here for about a year, feel like an outsider. I go to bars alone.
6) if you have a current social circle, whats your reason for wanting to grow it?
I really don't to be honest. I have some friends but they look down on the bar and club scene.
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The problem with saying "medium sized city" is that this can mean a lot of things and some cities are way better than others. For someone who wants to party a lot, the quickest way to get what you desire may be to move to a bigger city thats known for its party scene. Many party cities, actually cater to a 25-35 year old crowd while smaller college cities may cater to a younger crowd.
I hear you often lament about how you want younger girls, which is totally fine, but big cities usually attract much hotter older women, where as smaller college towns will only have the best pickins from the younger women that have not moved out to the bigger cities yet.
Catch 22 there though, I find that the younger college towns also have a lot of other obstacles that I have issues overcoming. For example, Greek Life is huge at a lot of these college towns and the hotties are usually in sororities. I have always had a tough time breaking into those circles and as have many others I've known. Very tight knit group there.
Certainly anyone can do well anywhere, I truly believe that, but if you want the easiest time, location does matter.
Ya, we need to do a post on which cities are great for guys like me!
Anyway, answer me the other questions, and let me know where your current social circle stands. I can tell you that theres no reason you can't have exactly what you want in your situation, however, you may have to put in some work that your a bit adverse against. However, if you're going out 2x a week in whatever circumstance, your already on a good path and have yourself over a big hump in going from never out to regularly out.
Yup but I am going out alone.
Radeng
