about a week before christmas i get a friend request on wechat. "hi, i'm sherry, do you remember me?"
i'll provide most of the text convo -
me: sherry who?
her: are you still in town?
me: who are you?
her: oh sorry maybe you are another lao che
me: ...........?
her: sorry about 1 year ago i met a person in xyz street. he gave me the wechat
now, this could be any one of a number of girls. but the one i'm thinking it is, hooked really strong and then faded away.
i saw her walking towards me and she gave me huge IOI, she was like a hungry leopard. so i turned and went after her. she told me she had no time, was in a hurry, with that kind of hard, no-nonsense manner some hot girls have (i guess something like what they call 'the russian minute'). i told her i had to work and would only take a minute. we banter for a minute and i can see her soften already. she mentioned that she was going to live in the US and that she had a BF but i took her contact details and excused myself, and now she doesn't want to leave, but i had to go to work. in fact two of my bosses were in the 7-11 watching this go down.
me: that's probably me
her: really? blabla bla excuse
me: i don't remember you
her: sorry to bother you
me: i can't remember you if i don't know what you look like
she sends pic. in which she looks quite sweet and dainty, not like a cat in heat, but it's the same girl.
her: so?
me: you're kinda cute i'm surprised i don't remember
her: oh thanks
me: how comes we met?
now, i'm being a little bit gamey here, as clearly i do remember her now. but i wanna see what she's thinking.
at the time i'm thinking this completely out of the blue girl is DTF soon. but it's already late on a sunday night so i don't think it's viable but i'm still gonna try
her: just in the street
me: really? what did you say to me? (this is almost a step to far but never mind)
her: you talked to me first
me: oh, you must have really caught my eye. i wonder what it was about you
her: i only remember we talked about the beatles. you said your mom was a big fan (she didn't take my bait, surprisingly)
me: oh wait. was it near the 7-11
her: yes
me: yeah i remember. i saw you crossing the road. you caught my eye. you had a look about you
her: you still work in xyz street? (again not taking the bait!)
me: no.
me: that's a recent photo. your hair was different. in fact that was 2 years ago or more
her: yes time has passed.
me: i do remember you though. the way you walked ...
her: you invited me to coffee, but i didn't have time. (again she doesn't hook, but she does get to the point, i guess)
me: now's a little late for coffee, sherry.
her: so?
me: well, i could do a beer or a glass of wine. you live near xyz street?
her: yes. i'm a graduate student in abc uni
me: is there a curfew?
her: no but if not a student, can't enter after 11pm.
me: i'm putting up my xmas tree. come give me a hand. (here i just decide to jump in with both feet. we'll see where she's at)
her: now?
me: i know. it is late. only 5 days till christmas
her: yes today is late. maybe tomorrow evening i can help you. (now, this is problem, because now i'm sure she wants to get smashed, hard and soon, but the following day i am going to a friend's party, at his apartment.)
some irrelevant talk follows and then -
her: will you need my help tomorrow?
me: i could probably use a hand. send me another pic
then she goes radio silent. it's about 11pm by now.
next afternoon, around 2ish she sends me a pic.
me: you took your time.
her: bla bla excuse
me: better late than never i suppose.
she asks for my pic but i refuse. she can see my profile pic.
some more irrelevance then she tells me she's in a coffeeshop writing a paper.
me: mmmm coffee. somebody owes lao che a coffee
her: do you want to join me?
me: i'm working, and i'm going to a party later.
and here come the fuck ups!
i wanted to cushion this by saying - every step of the way i knew it was a mistake, but i did it anyway just to see if i could pull it off. but after discovering this incredibly motivating video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94MBVD_tZeU i now know that that's just a cowards excuses. i still fucked up. and i lost a lay.
her: oohh you are a busy guy
me: not really. i guess you could come. i wouldn't normally intro a guest to my friends but ... whatever, it's christmas (and, in fact, i have never introduced one girl to any of my group of friends, for obvious reasons)
so she agrees. which surprised me as it's not until 9. kinda late for a monday night.
fast forward and, after some logistical hassles, i meet her at the metro and we go together.
she's dressed well, elegant but sexy. looks good. we go in and the party is kicking off. immediately she is accosted by a couple of the girls, (one of whom i fucked a week later, report to follow ,-) thanks preselection) and everything seems cool. i leave them to it and make the rounds. saying hi to people and getting drawn into conversations with friends and strangers alike.
the hostess of the party is amazed that i brought a girl, and keeps telling her "he must really like you if he introduced you to us" and saying the same shit to me. i say i don't even know that girl, i just met her.
anyway, i'm trying to keep my eye on her and make sure she's cool while not being anti-social to the entire room but it's difficult as i keep getting side-tracked.
at one point i get her alone on the balcony for a smoke, but some less-socially savvy guy comes out and disrupts us. (he later realized his mistake and apologized)
my girl, sherry, starts to mention about leaving. i get her alone in the kitchen and amp up the wolf vibe. i can tell she is totally fucking horny so i start seeding an extraction. it's only about 10.30 - 11.00 but i'm telling her we can go back to my place. i get in close and start touching her, smelling her neck, going for a kiss but not quite allowing it. all that good stuff. she wants me to kiss her.
then we are interrupted again.
at one point the hostess bullies sherry into not leaving. she aquiesces and everyone cheers. then i'm talking to some rando and i come out of the kitchen and sherry has her shoes and coat on.
me: you're leaving?
her: no i was outside on the phone and banged on the door but couldn't get back in.
so she's just coming in, that's why her shoes and coat are on. next thing, she opens the door and goes back out. it seems, from where i'm standing, that the door is ajar, so i assume that she's gone back out to talk on the phone, but left the door open so as not to have to knock again.
i wait a minute or two. then i look, and in fact the door is closed. i go out but she's not there. i call, my call is diverted. i wrongly assume it's because she's on the phone, still. then i send a wechat message but ........ SHE'S ALREADY BLOCKED ME FROM WECHAT.
BLOCKED
shit.
anyway, i found out from the host several days later ... she "knew" one of the dudes at the party. how and why she knows him i don't know, as he was a stranger to me. apparently she saw him and took off immediately.
so yeah, huge fuck ups on my behalf.
1. inviting a girl to meet friends.
2. not doing a good enough job of balancing my attention
3. not extracting at the right time
4. not realizing she was leaving. (i believe if i knew she was going i could go after her and take her home)
and probably others.
i'll provide most of the text convo -
me: sherry who?
her: are you still in town?
me: who are you?
her: oh sorry maybe you are another lao che
me: ...........?
her: sorry about 1 year ago i met a person in xyz street. he gave me the wechat
now, this could be any one of a number of girls. but the one i'm thinking it is, hooked really strong and then faded away.
i saw her walking towards me and she gave me huge IOI, she was like a hungry leopard. so i turned and went after her. she told me she had no time, was in a hurry, with that kind of hard, no-nonsense manner some hot girls have (i guess something like what they call 'the russian minute'). i told her i had to work and would only take a minute. we banter for a minute and i can see her soften already. she mentioned that she was going to live in the US and that she had a BF but i took her contact details and excused myself, and now she doesn't want to leave, but i had to go to work. in fact two of my bosses were in the 7-11 watching this go down.
me: that's probably me
her: really? blabla bla excuse
me: i don't remember you
her: sorry to bother you
me: i can't remember you if i don't know what you look like
she sends pic. in which she looks quite sweet and dainty, not like a cat in heat, but it's the same girl.
her: so?
me: you're kinda cute i'm surprised i don't remember
her: oh thanks
me: how comes we met?
now, i'm being a little bit gamey here, as clearly i do remember her now. but i wanna see what she's thinking.
at the time i'm thinking this completely out of the blue girl is DTF soon. but it's already late on a sunday night so i don't think it's viable but i'm still gonna try
her: just in the street
me: really? what did you say to me? (this is almost a step to far but never mind)
her: you talked to me first
me: oh, you must have really caught my eye. i wonder what it was about you
her: i only remember we talked about the beatles. you said your mom was a big fan (she didn't take my bait, surprisingly)
me: oh wait. was it near the 7-11
her: yes
me: yeah i remember. i saw you crossing the road. you caught my eye. you had a look about you
her: you still work in xyz street? (again not taking the bait!)
me: no.
me: that's a recent photo. your hair was different. in fact that was 2 years ago or more
her: yes time has passed.
me: i do remember you though. the way you walked ...
her: you invited me to coffee, but i didn't have time. (again she doesn't hook, but she does get to the point, i guess)
me: now's a little late for coffee, sherry.
her: so?
me: well, i could do a beer or a glass of wine. you live near xyz street?
her: yes. i'm a graduate student in abc uni
me: is there a curfew?
her: no but if not a student, can't enter after 11pm.
me: i'm putting up my xmas tree. come give me a hand. (here i just decide to jump in with both feet. we'll see where she's at)
her: now?
me: i know. it is late. only 5 days till christmas
her: yes today is late. maybe tomorrow evening i can help you. (now, this is problem, because now i'm sure she wants to get smashed, hard and soon, but the following day i am going to a friend's party, at his apartment.)
some irrelevant talk follows and then -
her: will you need my help tomorrow?
me: i could probably use a hand. send me another pic
then she goes radio silent. it's about 11pm by now.
next afternoon, around 2ish she sends me a pic.
me: you took your time.
her: bla bla excuse
me: better late than never i suppose.
she asks for my pic but i refuse. she can see my profile pic.
some more irrelevance then she tells me she's in a coffeeshop writing a paper.
me: mmmm coffee. somebody owes lao che a coffee
her: do you want to join me?
me: i'm working, and i'm going to a party later.
and here come the fuck ups!
i wanted to cushion this by saying - every step of the way i knew it was a mistake, but i did it anyway just to see if i could pull it off. but after discovering this incredibly motivating video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94MBVD_tZeU i now know that that's just a cowards excuses. i still fucked up. and i lost a lay.
her: oohh you are a busy guy
me: not really. i guess you could come. i wouldn't normally intro a guest to my friends but ... whatever, it's christmas (and, in fact, i have never introduced one girl to any of my group of friends, for obvious reasons)
so she agrees. which surprised me as it's not until 9. kinda late for a monday night.
fast forward and, after some logistical hassles, i meet her at the metro and we go together.
she's dressed well, elegant but sexy. looks good. we go in and the party is kicking off. immediately she is accosted by a couple of the girls, (one of whom i fucked a week later, report to follow ,-) thanks preselection) and everything seems cool. i leave them to it and make the rounds. saying hi to people and getting drawn into conversations with friends and strangers alike.
the hostess of the party is amazed that i brought a girl, and keeps telling her "he must really like you if he introduced you to us" and saying the same shit to me. i say i don't even know that girl, i just met her.
anyway, i'm trying to keep my eye on her and make sure she's cool while not being anti-social to the entire room but it's difficult as i keep getting side-tracked.
at one point i get her alone on the balcony for a smoke, but some less-socially savvy guy comes out and disrupts us. (he later realized his mistake and apologized)
my girl, sherry, starts to mention about leaving. i get her alone in the kitchen and amp up the wolf vibe. i can tell she is totally fucking horny so i start seeding an extraction. it's only about 10.30 - 11.00 but i'm telling her we can go back to my place. i get in close and start touching her, smelling her neck, going for a kiss but not quite allowing it. all that good stuff. she wants me to kiss her.
then we are interrupted again.
at one point the hostess bullies sherry into not leaving. she aquiesces and everyone cheers. then i'm talking to some rando and i come out of the kitchen and sherry has her shoes and coat on.
me: you're leaving?
her: no i was outside on the phone and banged on the door but couldn't get back in.
so she's just coming in, that's why her shoes and coat are on. next thing, she opens the door and goes back out. it seems, from where i'm standing, that the door is ajar, so i assume that she's gone back out to talk on the phone, but left the door open so as not to have to knock again.
i wait a minute or two. then i look, and in fact the door is closed. i go out but she's not there. i call, my call is diverted. i wrongly assume it's because she's on the phone, still. then i send a wechat message but ........ SHE'S ALREADY BLOCKED ME FROM WECHAT.
BLOCKED
shit.
anyway, i found out from the host several days later ... she "knew" one of the dudes at the party. how and why she knows him i don't know, as he was a stranger to me. apparently she saw him and took off immediately.
so yeah, huge fuck ups on my behalf.
1. inviting a girl to meet friends.
2. not doing a good enough job of balancing my attention
3. not extracting at the right time
4. not realizing she was leaving. (i believe if i knew she was going i could go after her and take her home)
and probably others.
