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Hey guys,
Two years ago I visited a counselor because I thought I had depression, and throughout the session, I noticed something he did that got me to open up and that is the "silent vacuum". At that time, I didn't know what's going on. But whenever I said something and he just sits there looking calm not saying a word, I would go on and explain more. I had always seen it on TV but that was the first time I've experienced that kinda pressure. Now, in seduction, sometimes I noticed I'll do the same thing to a girl without realizing it, and it's usually when I'm in a sort of meditative state. The girl would just open up and tell me more about herself without prompting. Whereas sometimes I have the bad habit of replying her comment a little too quickly with "yea" or "cool", and the conversation dies down. It was almost like I was cutting her off unintentionally and didn't allow her to pause. There were also times when I tried to force myself to go silent and it didn't work, the girl would leave the conversation. I think maybe the vibe behind it and the timing is very important. If anyone has figured out the psychology or mechanism behind this for it to work, I would be keen to hear it. =)
Cheers!
Two years ago I visited a counselor because I thought I had depression, and throughout the session, I noticed something he did that got me to open up and that is the "silent vacuum". At that time, I didn't know what's going on. But whenever I said something and he just sits there looking calm not saying a word, I would go on and explain more. I had always seen it on TV but that was the first time I've experienced that kinda pressure. Now, in seduction, sometimes I noticed I'll do the same thing to a girl without realizing it, and it's usually when I'm in a sort of meditative state. The girl would just open up and tell me more about herself without prompting. Whereas sometimes I have the bad habit of replying her comment a little too quickly with "yea" or "cool", and the conversation dies down. It was almost like I was cutting her off unintentionally and didn't allow her to pause. There were also times when I tried to force myself to go silent and it didn't work, the girl would leave the conversation. I think maybe the vibe behind it and the timing is very important. If anyone has figured out the psychology or mechanism behind this for it to work, I would be keen to hear it. =)
Cheers!