The truth is there are several different states that can work well to meet and attract women… different things work for different people. What’s always going to work best to attract feminine women, however, is the masculine vibe of a sexual man.
The kinds of emotions you want to induce in yourself to properly project this vibe are:
Calm and Serene: A real man does not bounce off the walls like a ping pong ball, trying to get everybody’s attention. Like the alpha male lion, he is very relaxed.
Carefree: Wealth is a status indicator… and women look at your emotional state much more than they do at your Rolex watch to find out how wealthy you really perceive yourself to be. If a monkey raises in status in his troop, the females can tell from very subtle behaviorisms. The same is true if he falls in rank.
These status cues are so subtle that you can't just fix your posture and expect people to believe you are high status… these cues need to come from inside you… and these state exercises can help you accomplish that.
Conviction and Certainty: The most powerful belief one can hold in life is certainty of outcome… period. Reality usually surrenders to the one who is most sure. Or in the words of Andre Agassi, quoted from his autobiography, OPEN: “He thinks it's his day, and when you think it's your day, it usually is."
Masculine and Powerful: A feeling of being an unstoppable, dominant man… get in touch with your brute animal force, that primal energy you might feel after a good, intense workout.
Socially Confident: Be aware of your social skills… remember situations in the past where you have handled social situations with absolute expertise. If you were able to do that once, then you obviously have the skill… so you should be able to do it again, and again. It is merely a matter of tapping into the emotion of feeling socially confident.
Sexually Aware: Just like social confidence, sexual awareness means getting in touch with your masculine sexuality. Remember a time when you blew a woman’s mind, and she was tearing the pillow apart, screaming loud enough to wake the neighbors.
Mysterious: Have you ever met somebody who had a knowing, almost mischievous smile on his lips – as if he knew a secret that nobody else knows? There is something intriguing and magnetic about this kind of aura.
Aroused: This one isn’t always useful on the approach – even though it can be, given the right environment. But the idea here is this: if you are in a highly sexual mood, you can transmit that to the girl… and even if you go to a sexually charged place, your interactions will be more sexual. Moods are contagious.
Compassionate: Wait… compassionate?! That’s right… a confident yet calm state will give you an aura of masculinity, and this will trigger attraction – well, at least in most feminine, heterosexual women. But it is really the ability to relate to other people, and experience the emotions they’re feeling in yourself as well, that will allow you to create an emotional connection with them.
Exercise:
For each of the above states, ask yourself
What could you think about to trigger these emotions inside you? Do you have a memory of a time when you felt like that – can you close your eyes and bring that memory back to life? And how could you play with these thoughts to intensify the feeling? What words could you use to describe it more vividly… how could you give the emotion more depth, the way a poet would? How can you feel them out with the quality quantifiers we discussed earlier?
If you already felt the emotion you are trying to experience, what would your physiology be like? How would you breathe, walk, gesture, look and talk? How would you interact with people, how would you stand and what would your posture be like?
