The Whizzy Journal

[Whizzy]

A little about me:
I'm a senior in college at a small liberal arts school just outside of Boston. I recently rediscovered my love of playing football and have used that as the perfect excuse to get into better and better shape. I first came across this website roughly a year and a half ago but only started taking it seriously this past summer as I realized I could do so much better with women. I have tried online dating, cold approaches, social circle, you name it. I didn't really put too much thought into things at the time as getting rid of my approach anxiety was the major problem. Once that was gone I just had to be more normal self and girls quickly fell in love with me. I am not so sure it matters but I am aiming to become an actuary after graduation, once i nail the exams of course!

My strengths:
Genuinely care for others, but don't let this hold me back (this was tough to learn at first)
Don't put women on pedestals
I often know what a girl wants before she does
Natural calm and powerful demeanor
Decisiveness and sticking to what i want to do

My weaknesses:
Texting too often
Displaying too much value
Need to screen harder
Cut ties faster if they flake, etc
Work on the speed/tone of my voice

Goals:
Develop abundance mentality (or further it)
Advance into more social circle
Cut ties fast if she isn't what im looking for
Cold approach 5 girls a day minimum
Minimize texting to dates only

 

[Whizzy]

Recently: Met this cute blonde girl as school, she kept flaking due to studying reasons or issues at home. Should have cut contact after the second flake but will chop this off as experience. On the flipside this other short blonde girl is just about giving everything she has to be with him, pretty sure she would do anything that I asked her but I'm trying to minimize contact to keep her strickly as a fwb...her birthday is this weekend though so will see how that pans out.

This past weekend I met up with this girl brunette Kristen, not particularly attractive or unattractive, but for the sake of improvement I advance things anyways. After Friday she has managed to flake with me 3 nights straight and then got mad when I brought up living town tomorrow for a business trip that could last up to 2 weeks. I made it clear implicitly that I am not the kind of guy to wait around, which is why she got so mad at me for "giving up" already. I found this interesting and ended up discovering daddy issues, alcoholism and a few other things....red flags abound! This morning she mentioned stopping by before I leave, but when I told her the time it didn't work out for her. Sadly my brother ended up telling her that my flight got cancelled till tomorrow and that she should still see me tonight so I am unsure how I will play this off yet.

Mental note: I need to go through my phone and get rid of past girls numbers that didn't work out

 

[Bacchus]

Hey Whizzy nice to see you starting a journal!

Mental note: I need to go through my phone and get rid of past girls numbers that didn't work out

Personally I'm not really sure about that, I have deleted a few numbers in the past and regretted it because I lose all memory of past texting mistakes. So my advice to you would be to keep the numbers in your phone so that when you get new ones you don't make the same mistakes.

"One who does not know his past is doomed to repeat it"

-Casanova

 

[Whizzy]

Hey Whizzy nice to see you starting a journal!

Personally I'm not really sure about that, I have deleted a few numbers in the past and regretted it because I lose all memory of past texting mistakes. So my advice to you would be to keep the numbers in your phone so that when you get new ones you don't make the same mistakes.

"One who does not know his past is doomed to repeat it"

-Casanova

Hey Casanova.Jr! I've been thinking about making one for a while but kept putting it off because I've been so busy

I've kept numbers in my phone in the past, but once a situation falls through I am less likely to try again and build bad habits that way if her number is no longer in my phone.


As an aside: Tonight with Kristen fell through, i'm pretty sure she is at work but don't plan on waiting all night to find out. Due to a heavy work/class schedule today I wasn't able to do any cold approaches but still managed to make progress with a girl who already seems like she can't get enough of me. We had dated once a few years ago but after seeing how much I've changed (think no fashion sense etc) she is drooling over me. She leave for her spring break this weekend though so may try to set something up beforehand or just put it out of my mind altogether

 

[Whizzy]

Today is a new day and new opportunity to meet some cool people. I've been IM-ing my ex while programming today and am wondering if I should break things off before she wants them to get more serious as I've already told her that is not what I want. I've been busy between work and school but have my first experience with public sex in a clothing store beforehand, Kohls to be precise. This was actually pretty fun as there was people in both changing rooms to our sides and I swear, people should hear themselves talking outloud sometime. The sex was very good, no foreplay was needed and as she was very light slamming her against the wall and thrusting upwards with her legs around me was a cinche...talk about a leg workout though!

Tonight my goal is to finally catch up on some sleep after getting out of work at 2am then after catching up on sleep hitting the cold approaches hard tomorrow before my new date. Beforehand I need to finish redecorating my room to give it a little more life and seeing if it makes any difference. With spring break approaching I still need to decide if I want to grab a friend for the week or fly solo the entire time. Leaning towards the solo idea beause I don't think any of my friends would be able to up my game at all, and if anything could end up hurting it.

 

[Whizzy]

Another mental note to myself. While it sounds awesome that most of my ex's still want me (must be doing something right I guess!), it's starting to become more of an annoyance than anything. I have nothing against them and am still physically attracted to some of them, I just don't want to go down that road again and would rather start fresh with someone new.

 

[Whizzy]

Tonight should be an interesting night, I may have overbooked myself with dates so we will see how that ends up. I am still talking to the girl with daddy issues more than I feel I should, but as it's not stopping me from meeting new women or going on dates I'm not too worried about this. I'm still tempted to remove myself from this situation as I am wondering if it can inhibit my ability to be fully there with other girls. I know what to do and have no problem having fun and making connections with them but it feels a little off. I don't think I'll be able to get any cold approaches done today as I am booked solid between work, a birthday party and dates but i'm hopeful and opportunity presents itself. A girl that I had liked, and slept with before, asked me to be her boyfriend today and I had to politely turn her down because I know that I can't give her what she wants (exclusivity in this case). I've noticed that as more girls have started to show interest in me that I have almost no urge to be friends with girls unless they can provide outstanding value to my life.

Random aside, I am starting to wonder why is country so popular in the US among college age girls especially. I always found it funny how often girls say that is the man of their dreams, particularly when many don't have a clue what real country is like. Just another fad perhaps?

 

[Whizzy]

Tonight I have a date planned with the girl from before who flaked a lot, turns out my persistence payed off and that she was just shy about cancelling. I have an overwhelming hunch that tonight I can rise to the occasion as she sounds primed for it. However, talking to my brother about her last night was interesting. Her being fiercely independent again came up when they were talking and it just clicked, she was so full of crap and probably the opposite. Turns out I was right and after calling her out on it she admitted to just not wanting to be clingy. Definitely not girlfriend material but could be a fun fwb type of situation as long as I manage our time spent together. Lately when I try to break it off with girls they try to hold on tight, giving me insight into what its like being with a needy guy. Too much neediness and it's a massive turnoff and ends up hurting their cause. I know that this would stem from a lack of abundance mentality of sorts but am confused why many people are okay settling for this type of mentality. I assume part of it attests to laziness more than anything, since admitting faults is something a lot of people try to avoid. That being said recognizing ones weaknesses and rising above them is the key to self improvement and becoming a better person...aka suck it up people geez

 

[Whizzy]

Going to write down a lay report from last night when possible later, also found out that another girl that I'm seeing is starting to experience her sexual awakening. I am the 2nd person that she has ever had sex with, and am interested to see her peak before her curiosity gets the better of her and we go our separate ways. After seeing her for six months I am apparently the only thing that she thinks about and she says she would do anything for me. While this sounds unconditional and I do feel like she means it, I'm not entirely sure how I feel considering I am extremely secure and she is starting to get jealous.

 

[Whizzy]

Today was pretty interesting, tonight may play out to be even more interesting depending. I found out that one of my co-workers at my university (we are both students) has had four boyfriends but is still a virgin. Each of those relationships ended because she wouldn't have sex with the guy, however each one lasted 6 months - 4 or 5 years. I felt kind of bad but excited at the same time, I love helping women achieve sexual awakenings. However due to spring break and a few other factors I'm going to put off asking her out on a date for roughly a month or so. I've got my hands full with women at this point and need to cut a few off in order to make more time for work/hw/projects. I'm not entirely sure how I plan on going about this just yet, should I aim for better sex or better personalities for those i end up deciding to keep around? I'm leaning more towards personalities and what they bring to the table, but who knows at this point.

 

[Whizzy]

Spend about 16 hours with a girl yesterday, maybe 18 and she managed to wear me out! We had sex for roughly 4 or 5 hours, slept for 8 and went out for the rest to grab chinese food. The tricky part is she was cumming nonstop, but I couldn't tell during any of those minus perhaps one. This hadn't happened before, I've had 25+ partners in the last 2 years, and it got to me to thinking. I know the she had or still does watch porn, so as a result she must masturbate which if done excessively could lead to less powerful orgasms? She also has severe disappointed issues so she could be too focused on me cumming instead of having fun herself. Either way I plan on seeing her for a 4th time in roughly a week (1st time was a FU by me but last two rocked).

 

[Whizzy]

Lately I have been considering an exclusive relationship with a particular girl that I have been dating for a few months now. I actually messaged Franco about this earlier because I've grown a lot since my last serious relationship 6+ months ago and wanted to make sure I wasn't developing a settling mindset. She genuinely makes me disinterested in other women, being one of the most gentle and tender people I've ever met..and being a freak in bed never hurts either! This realization helped ease my inner conflicts about what I wanted, as I had lately been sleeping with multiple other women and talking to many more but have narrowed it down to her. We will see how this plays out because its obvious she wants to ask me to be her boyfriend but she is too afraid of rejection

 

[Whizzy]

She is acting a lot more lovey dovey today and I have a hunch after some mind numbing sex she will pop the "I love you line"...I can't really say it back yet as I'm nowhere near as invested as she is so I hope she doesn't take that the wrong way. After a couple cold approaches earlier today I've ended up with 3 new numbers and maybe 5 possible dates for this weekend. I have a lot of catching up to do, both school and actual work, so I may have to make myself scarce for a bit while I crunch that out

 

[Whizzy]

Today was a pretty rough day but hoping I can turn this around this evening. This is the first time that I'll try sleeping with two girls within a few hours of one another, so hopefully my libido can keep up. I'm thinking a good workout and shower should help me get my head on target for tonight with the girl that I am hoping to eventually turn into my girlfriend. If I can manage to give her even better sex than previous, which was the best of her life, than I can tell that she will melt completely. However, I'm not sure I can commit to a girlfriend at the moment with all the work on my plate, only one way to find out though! I'm still trying to avoid doing things as a couple outside of movies-->sex-->chatting until she pops the question. If/once that happens then we can start going out for meals, playing games together, etc. In the past I would already be doing these things with her but I'm trying not to rush things this time around

 

[Whizzy]

Thursday turned out better than I could have hoped, one girl cancelled so I didn't even have to worry about cutting time too short with the other two. The girl I was thinking would ask to be my girlfriend ended up asking me that night and she can hardly stop thinking about me to work. In the past I would normally have cut ties rather quickly with other girls i had been talking too, but I don't see much need to this time around as I want to keep improving my game. Now that I've finally finished replacing 99.9% of my older clothes I can slow down spending quite a bit which will be a relief to some extent too, mostly because I'm so picky now that shopping can take a while. With that I can spend more time on improving myself physically (working out more, etc) and can start experimenting in that area again. I'm thinking of trying a new intensive workout program that only involves 3-4 exercises for the whole thing, as each is a core/full body exercise. Also making a mental note that my new girlfriend still points out the gifts that other girls give to me on a daily basis, ranging from bags of snacks/goodies to Michael Khors things and the list goes on. She can be a bit insecure sometimes so I will need to make sure I don't accidentally push her over the edge on that one, but i'm not particularly worried about it. She has also mentioned how guys have been showing tons of interest in her lately but that's only happened once or twice as I act disinterested/bored so its not a problem what so ever.

 

[Whizzy]

A more recent thought, now that I am with her fully I feel as though saying yes the first time she asked me to be her boyfriend was a bad idea and that I should have waited a bit longer. What I need to figure out is what to do regarding this, stick with it or break up with her and see what happens? I doubt she would be thrilled at the idea of me with other women at this point and would auto reject, but depending on how I handle the situation can make all the difference. My urge to meet other woman is still drastically lower since meeting her so I may also just need time to get used to the commitment.

 

[Whizzy]

The gf keeps on getting more and more attached as she tries to spend more nights with me. Apparently I inspired her to finish school, etcetc since I have such a high drive...however I'm wondering if this is something that she wants to do for herself or to try and impress/keep me around. I decided I'm going to give kegals a try for a month to see if there is any noticeable benefits to them, and its a nice break while sitting in class sometimes. Another not on the relationship, I'm noticing that my girl is starting to shower me with gifts and essentially try to portray herself as the ideal long term wife...but she hasn't realized it yet. Her current roommate, an old ex of hers, and her keep fighting about how much time she is spending with me instead of being there for him. While she keeps saying that he has no feelings for her, I have to disagree and give it two months max until he shows his emotions. In this past this would have worried me, cheating and various other reasons, but now a days I find it laughable if anything. I might create a post to see if others agree with my conclusion later.

 

[Whizzy]

Nothing much to report yet today, one girl that I was seeing before my girl and I committed to anything thought I was in a relationship with her...whoops! By far one of the easiest "break ups" I've had to date. The whole conversation was as follows:
Me: So things have to end with us for now
Her: Yeah? Why's that
Me: Distance, business and a particular young lady I met
Her: Okay
Me: Goodluck with everything
Her: U too

I hadn't had sex with her since December so was an easy call. Pretty sure she is pissed from the short responses but not the end of the world

 

[Whizzy]

Lots have happened since my last posting...definitely a more interesting week. I had a post about one event, an ex walking in on my mostly naked girlfriend when I was in class...definitely did not see that coming but I learned the valuable lesson of locking my door from now on. My new girlfriend evidently hates when guys buy her stuff, so that definitely works for me as I prefer giving her my time instead of gifts. I have cut out a few girls from my life too, particularly the ones that I have had sex with in the past as I would rather not put myself in a position to do something I would regret. On the flipside, I have no problem continuing to talk to other girls to keep my skills sharp and my new girlfriend on her toes. This coupled with a new exercise regime/diet I've been working on and I should still be able to steadily improve as my old sticking point was texting and I dont plan on sending literally any rapport messages outside of the initial 3 or 4 when her number is new in my phone

 

[Whizzy]

Time to put my thoughts down after a couple more weeks into the non single life. For starters my ex, mentioned previously, has repeatedly tried to seduce me and get back together with me. She even tried to make me jealous by saying she had angry sex with someone she works with. That may have worked in the past but I couldn't help but find the whole jealousy game to be silly. We see each other fairly frequently now, just about every night we can, so things are moving fast which I have no complaints about. However, I have considered slowing them down a tad to 3-4 times a week so that I still have the leeway to see her less or more as I so choose before things start to become routine. I am by far the person in charge of the relationship, she even asks me what iced coffee she should get sometimes (cute and silly) and I make 99% of the decisions. As far as the sex, there are maybe 2 times that we haven't had sex since we starting sleeping together but overall its fantastic. Both times were due to it being roughly 3am and us having to be up at 8 or 9am...but I shouldn't let sleep get in the way of her budding addiction. That would just be a mean thing to do