There is no way to get this girl.. I'm so f#ckin depressed

[MisterX]

This is the worst thing that has happened to me since I started
In a nut shell - I met the absolute most perfect girl for me and have absolutely NO chance of seducing her..



So I've had a list of a 100 things that would make the perfect girl for me. And after 5-6 years (since I started with my list) I found her and she covers everything. And I mean everything. Considering that i made this list about looks, personality, sexuality knowing full well that all those things in a single girl are impossible. And yet

looks:
- age - 20 - check
- body type - very in shape - check
- butt - perfect shape and size - check
- skin colour - pale white (i don't like dark skin or tanned so the really white - porcelain that looks amazing and is perfect) - check
- eye colour - beautifully grey eyes - check
- hair length and type - really thick, wavy, mid back length - check
- hair colour - most amazing blue(richest most amazing full blue haired girl not looking trashy, i mean the most amazing, rich shade of blue you can imagine) - check
- lips - the perfect shape/thickness
- voice the perfect high but soft pitched

- talking exactly the way I love (using certain words and expressions)
- really funny and with great sense of humour
- silly at times and makes super cute faces

- is super sexual - I mean when she turns it on, she makes the most experienced man-killer look like a prude
- super sexually open and kinky - in conversation here are some of the toys she has: handcuffs, a few vibrators, different kinds of dildos, butt paddle cause she loves her butt slapped with it, butt plugs cause she likes a bit of anal play,
- has lots of sexy lingerie and loves wearing it
- is bi-sexual and has a girlfriend that they have sex together from time to time
- is open for everything in the bedroom from what we talked about
- the best part after sex if you make her cum 3 times she said she passes out from exhaustion and is no condition to talk, so you can just both fall asleep

- is super cute but also wildly sexy/erotic I have no idea how she mixes those two together but it drives me crazy

- she's the shy-excited type that made me fill up with so much good energy (and I'm usually very dark and look at the world as a dark place)

- there are lots of other things like her world views and future plans and ambitions but I'm not getting into those cause it'll get to long.


And here's where my horror begins:
[/size]For the past week
- it's so bad that I haven't been able to look at another girl and feel any sort of attraction.
- I passed opportunities to have sex with 2 of the girls that I'm friends with benefits and they almost begged me to fuck them.
- I can't get an erection unless I'm imagining her
- have absolutely no motivation to go out and even talk to another girl
- even tried some porn with super attractive girls... and not even an erection



- she must have literally 1000 guys approach her every single day - she's that attractive I mean she makes Victorias Secret models look like Turkish lesbians

- she has some rich guys that buy and send her expensive lingerie/jewellery. Some live in other continents and they send her this stuff..

- I see absolutely no reason why she's single - she can have a movie star probably is she wanted to

- And for the cherry on top for all of you that say: just forget it and don't get mixed with her - There is absolutely no chance that I see of me seducing her. She's just so out of my league... Maybe if I was like a billionaire with a 350 foot yacht and looked like a GQ model with a 12 inch penis and has lots of fame..

I've never really felt that I couldn't get a girl soo much(or thought that those things like money/fame mattered) but I've never wanted a girls this much.

I don't believe in god but now I wish it's all real so I can sell my soul to the devil just to be with her for a while. That would be worth spending eternity in hell. So f#cking bummed that religion is only a fairy tail.



Honestly I've never felt this bad about my life (when I was suicidal 2 years ago I had better hopes about the future). I really wish I'd jump of a bridge and get it over with. AND I'm not a guy to get fixated on a girl EVER. Never has such a thing happened to me. And we're not even together or haven't slept together or even kissed.. I'm pretty sure if I have sex with her I'd get a heart attack.




Mostly I'm writing it down so my brain will have just a little bit of peace. I literally met my dream girl, and all those things I mentioned - I bet there are probably no other girls sharing all of those qualities.
I guess there is no real advice you can give me, except to start drinking till I pass out and go like this for a few months till my brain forgets or actually jump off that bridge.



I'm taking some sleeping pills to have some rest.


-X

 

[Drck]

You made a list of 100 things that describe perfect girl... She meets all these 100 things, so she is perfect....

Basically you idealized her, you put her on a pedestal, you made her your princess, she is way above you... Whatever you do to seduce her is chasing, every one of your attempt is chasing... Then you wonder why you can't get her, and you fall into depression...

You placed her so high in your mind, and you put yourself so low, you put yourself so down that you are even thinking about suicide....

IMO, there are definitely great girls, really good ones, and I met some. None of them is perfect though, being pretty, sexy and sweet doesn't make her perfect. In reality there is no such thing as perfect girl, they are just humans like the rest of us...

Most guys do exactly the same like you, they idealize her. Most likely none of them will ever sleep with her, and if they do it will be only because she'll get tired of being that ideal girl and will want to fuck... As a matter of fact, she already hates being on that pedestal...

Honestly, I wish she were your GF for a while, then you would see that she is a great girl - but really not that special at all...

I woul burn that list of 100 things. Burn it and never come back to it. Then create a list of 100 things - that make YOU the great guy, so great that girls like her would be silly not to chose to be with you...

 

[ThrowDown]

I agree with Drck..

In response I'd like to quote my jovial friend, Buddha..

"It is better to conquer yourself than win a thousand battles"

You must erase this image of perfection that you paint of this girl, and in turn, erase the disease of a portrait that you paint of yourself. You CAN get this girl.. Beneath the depths of our minds within our consciousness we posses these negative thoughts that plague our inner selves, preventing us from achieving our true endeavours. You must digress and understand what you are thinking and push past it. I'm sure with due time, and determination you will achieve this woman.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/cant- ... rls?page=1

Believe me, with strength.. You will.

 

[MisterX]

Drck, the thing is tho I've never done this ever beefore!

I've never put a girl on a pedestal or like one soooo much. I've got no idea what or why I did it.


And I won't be sleeping with her because - she was here in Europe for a few days only when we met and she went back to California.. So that's the major reason why I can't have her. Cause we live thousands of kilometres/miles apart.

The suicide part was a joke. I realised 2 years ago that it's the easy/cowardly way out. I'm kind of a masochist and love to torture myself mentally so no matter how bad things get I always embrace it.

Honestly, I wish she were your GF for a while, then you would see that she is a great girl - but really not that special at all...

You might be right. Honestly I'm good at going out and getting girls, BUT not getting really quality girls. Not just looks, I can get hot girls but not girls that make my jaw drop or to really get me nervous. You can say I have abundance that I know I can get girls but not Absolute Abundance that I can get quality girls. So I still am in danger of putting a girl on a pedestal when she's better than the ones I usually get. Basically I've never dated/slept with/ been in a relationship with a girl that I really like so I have no idea if she's as great as I think or not.

I woul burn that list of 100 things. Burn it and never come back to it. Then create a list of 100 things - that make YOU the great guy, so great that girls like her would be silly not to chose to be with you...

That's actually a great idea. I'll definitely do that. No idea how I haven't thought of it to write 100 things that make me awesome. And things that I must work to improve.


- X

 

[Franco]

MisterX,

I agree with Drck here. It sounds like you built her up extremely highly in your mind, but I was just telling Estate the other day in this thread here that there really are no perfect women out there. All of them have their flaws, and the "best" women are really just the women who are best at "hiding" those flaws when they meet an attractive man. But relationships always bring out the flaws in people. And since you won't have this woman in a relationship, you won't get a chance to see those flaws.

That's not to say that she wouldn't make a great girlfriend. My current girlfriend is amazing, but several "flaws" (if you want to call them that) have popped up during the course of our relationship, and they are things I would have never realized had I not been in a relationship with her. Just to give you an example, my girlfriend is VERY unorganized. She's constantly leaving shit all over the place (including leaving her bath towel in my sink, which I think is kinda gross, but it's a "small" flaw as you can call it), and she always forgets to bring things that she really needs. She's also gotten robbed a few times because she's parked her car in sketch places or left her purse in her car. I usually get upset over things like this because I tell her beforehand to be careful.

Anyway, that's just one small example of something that you would NEVER know about a girl unless you were in a relationship with her (or at least seeing her casually in a sexual way). Every woman is still just a human. Some of them have more compatibility with you (which this girl might have had), but she wasn't the "perfect" woman because that woman does not exist.

It sounds like you've already understood all of this though and accepted it. I would burn that list also, and learn to just enjoy the women that you do meet (rather than thinking about the one's you pedestalized to a level that doesn't exist). =)

- Franco

 

[Drck]

Franco: "my girlfriend is VERY unorganized. She's constantly leaving shit all over the place"

LOL, you make it seem like she is some exception Franco. I think it's the other way - most of them are just like that, and the exceptions are girls who can keep the place clean and organized.

 

[Franco]

LOL, you make it seem like she is some exception Franco. I think it's the other way - most of them are just like that, and the exceptions are girls who can keep the place clean and organized.

Haha, I wouldn't doubt it! They spend so much time getting ready to go out... and yet they put absolutely nothing away after getting ready. And they wonder why they lose their shit half of the time. =P

- Franco