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"There's no reason why you're not enough" - AlexSocial
Such a simple mindset, yet pretty powerful for those on their journey to become a better man. This doesn't mean you stop improving yourself. It means as long as you're working towards being the best version of yourself, there's no reason why you're not enough. No one lives up to your values better than you.
Often guys would think a hot girl "rejected" them because of external things, such as their looks, hair..etc. so they think they need to saying incredibly witty things and do "more" to keep the girl attracted.
If a girl, who you think is below you, rejected you, you would probably think that girl doesn't know what she's missing out, but on the other hand....if a hot girl, who you think is out of your league, rejected you, your ego would come up with a thousand reasons why you are not enough and even worst it will reinforce your negative beliefs!
Let's take this further, if a hot girl is attracted to a guy who thinks very low of himself, very often, the guy would screw things up by trying to do "more game" instead of leading the interaction and take her to bed. And when the girl gone cold on him, he would blame his "game" wasn't good enough.
On the other side, "there's no reason why you're not enough" doesn't mean you don't take action. You still have to work on your fundamentals (although when you're coming from a place of fulfillment, your body language automatically improves). You still have to participate. You still have to lead. You still have to be sexual and make your move. But when you're coming from this place where you're enough, you no longer have any fear of the girl rejecting you. You're free from outcome.
Of all the "inner game" mindsets, I would say sorting out in your head that you're enough is the hardest. I still struggle with it from time to time, especially with a girl who I think is "way out of my league". There will be some unconscious behaviours that you do occasionally that signals your insecurity. Be aware of these, and dig deeper into yourself and sort it out in your head.
Hope this helps
Such a simple mindset, yet pretty powerful for those on their journey to become a better man. This doesn't mean you stop improving yourself. It means as long as you're working towards being the best version of yourself, there's no reason why you're not enough. No one lives up to your values better than you.
Often guys would think a hot girl "rejected" them because of external things, such as their looks, hair..etc. so they think they need to saying incredibly witty things and do "more" to keep the girl attracted.
If a girl, who you think is below you, rejected you, you would probably think that girl doesn't know what she's missing out, but on the other hand....if a hot girl, who you think is out of your league, rejected you, your ego would come up with a thousand reasons why you are not enough and even worst it will reinforce your negative beliefs!
Let's take this further, if a hot girl is attracted to a guy who thinks very low of himself, very often, the guy would screw things up by trying to do "more game" instead of leading the interaction and take her to bed. And when the girl gone cold on him, he would blame his "game" wasn't good enough.
On the other side, "there's no reason why you're not enough" doesn't mean you don't take action. You still have to work on your fundamentals (although when you're coming from a place of fulfillment, your body language automatically improves). You still have to participate. You still have to lead. You still have to be sexual and make your move. But when you're coming from this place where you're enough, you no longer have any fear of the girl rejecting you. You're free from outcome.
Of all the "inner game" mindsets, I would say sorting out in your head that you're enough is the hardest. I still struggle with it from time to time, especially with a girl who I think is "way out of my league". There will be some unconscious behaviours that you do occasionally that signals your insecurity. Be aware of these, and dig deeper into yourself and sort it out in your head.
Hope this helps
