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TheVale

Space Monkey
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Hello everyone, I'm a 19 years old guy who's just finished high school.
I've very inexpirienced: I've never even kissed a girl. This is because in my early teen i was quite a nerd. I had a difficoult time interacting with others and as a resoult, I was quite shy. Over the years I've gotten far better with people and I now have a good social life. The only big thing to fix in my life now is getting a girl into it. Problem is, I'm completly new at flirting and dealing with girls, so I have to learn it from the but beginning.
The reason behind my decision of doing this assignment is getting more confident with girls and improving my game.

As thigs are as I am writing, I've already done three days of the assignement, but they haven't been a success so far.


DAY ONE
The fist place I've found a shopping centre near my house. This later turned out not to be such a great place for my purposes, becouse, depending on the time of the day, there aren't usually many girls in there.
The second place is a long lane near the lake where people use to go for walks and shopping. It is always crowded, and could be a great place to meet new girls.
The third is a disco near the lane. I'm planning to go there on Saturday, and I probably will be alone, since all my friends are avaiable.
I haven't found a fourth place yet, but I've hear of a disco bar which could tourn out to be good. Maybe tomorrow evening I'll give it a try.

DAY TWO
This was quite awkward. I didn't have the opportunity to check my walk, but I'm sure I was walking around in a way that was quite stiff and forced.
Four months ago I have starded going to the gym adn the physical exercise has straightnened my back and improved my posture in general. Since then I've became more confident in general. I gess that today I was overthinking it, and the result was an innatural walk and posture.

DAY THREE
Once again, it was "meh". I've maneged to make eye contact with very few people. Part of it is because I've been going out during the day and many people are waring sunglasses, wich makes impossible to tell if that person is making eye contact or not. The fun part is that before doing this assignment i usually walked around in a quite confident way and I used to intetionally avoid eye contact by looking above or sideways to the person. This led many people to seek and initiate eye contact wth me. I think that in avoiding their eyes I kind of placed miself at a higher walue than them. But as soon as I tried to recciprocate the eye contact, everybody used lose their intersest, in a "Oh i initially thought you were interesting, guess Iìm wrong, through." way.
I also never managed to initiate eye contact with someone . Everybody simply ignores me, or looks immidiatly away.

Any comments?
 

sneaky_charm

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Hi TheVale!

Congrats on starting young and taking concrete steps! :)

Well regarding eye contact, at this point it is not about raising your 'value'. The reason the newbie assignment emphasizes on making eye contact while walking on the street is because most guys who are starting out find it terribly intimidating to make eye contact with women.

The goal, hence, is to get you comfortable enough to make eye contact with the chicks you date for minutes at a stretch without experiencing even the slightest bit of nervousness.

- Sneaky Charm
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

TheVale

Space Monkey
space monkey
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Aaah, undestood. Well, that's not my situation. I have no embarassment whatsoever at holding eye contact, my problem is only with getting it.
So it's time to move on and approach some girls :)
 
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