Things that are CURRENTLY stopping me from being successful

[George Hustle]

I have already read quite a lot of articles in the website (not all of them tho), but I still need some help with a couple of things. I couldn't seem to find an answer so far, but I may have missed something. Some of the question below are situational others are not. So here they are. The things that are CURRENTLY stopping me from being successful:

1. I will start with the one I am mostly struggling with. It's my summer break and I am working as a lifeguard. The thing is that I see A LOT of pretty girls which I would like to approach. But there are 2 problems facing me:
1.1. I can't quite choose which ones to approach since I am not that good with women to meet them and go to bed with them in 1-2 days. And I don't want to approach all of them in order to get better since the ones I already met can see me and think something like "Ye he is just the typical guy who goes around and tries to get women in bed". And then act like we haven't met.
1.2. One other big problem is that the amount of women(at about my age - teenagers) mostly stay with they parents since they do not know anybody (they are on vacation). I feel shy and weird about going there in front of her family and saying something like "Hey I saw you sitting here and I had to come and tell you how beautiful you look". I will probably blush and most likely she will feel the same way and won't be very comfortable to say anything around her parents. Any tips?

2. Again one I feel REALLY weird about. My posture. And I mean the one when I am not moving. I spend quite a lot of time standing in one place. And I am struggling with finding a way to stand. I know that I should follow the same rules as in walking (shoulders back, chest to the front, chin parallel to the ground). I don't want my hands to be in my pockets (always knew it's not that polite and cool). Also I don't want my hand to be crossed in front of me, since I am not defensive - I don't mine people coming to me and start chatting. But I really don't feel that normal when I just stand there with my hand dropped in neutral position and I don't do a thing ?!?

3. I remember that I read an article which said something like "You should look over the crowd". I also read an article on how to walk more confidently (which also included this watching over the people who walk around you). But the thing is that I feel kinda weird walking around and looking right over the head of the people and just staring in the sky or whatever the object above them is. Maybe someone can specify this a little bit more.

4. Can anyone tell me some kind of exercises to improve my peripheral vision. I can't quite tell if a person is looking at me while I am walking down the street looking above them.
4.1. And sometimes I think some people are and I feel like a star and I start smiling there on the street at nothing like a retard ?!?


If I can get an answer to these questions I really thing I will be much more successful with women and people in general. I really hope the topic won't be just passed by and I think it may help others too.



Best wishes,
George

 

[Drck]

1.1. I can't quite choose which ones to approach since I am not that good with women to meet them and go to bed with them in 1-2 days. And I don't want to approach all of them in order to get better since the ones I already met can see me and think something like "Ye he is just the typical guy who goes around and tries to get women in bed". And then act like we haven't met.
>>>> Well, you have to chose, you can't approach all of them. Actually, if you approach all of them they might see you as bold, friendly guy (which is good). Don't worry about getting them to bed for now, just talk to them. Make some plan, for example: Monday you approach one. Tue 2, We 3, Th 4 and FR 5. Next week your minimum approach per day will be 3. See how you are doing. LEARN TO MAKE CHOICES, it will help you with girls, girls like guys who can decide.

1.2. One other big problem is that the amount of women(at about my age - teenagers) mostly stay with they parents since they do not know anybody (they are on vacation). I feel shy and weird about going there in front of her family and saying something like "Hey I saw you sitting here and I had to come and tell you how beautiful you look". I will probably blush and most likely she will feel the same way and won't be very comfortable to say anything around her parents. Any tips?
>>>> The same. If you actually do it you might appear as quite a bold guy, which is attractive. Or simply chose girls that don't have parents there, that are alone. Just say something, you don't have to comment on how beautiful she is at all. Aim for having a conversation with her, not for giving compliments.

2. Again one I feel REALLY weird about. My posture. And I mean the one when I am not moving. I spend quite a lot of time standing in one place. And I am struggling with finding a way to stand. I know that I should follow the same rules as in walking (shoulders back, chest to the front, chin parallel to the ground). I don't want my hands to be in my pockets (always knew it's not that polite and cool). Also I don't want my hand to be crossed in front of me, since I am not defensive - I don't mine people coming to me and start chatting. But I really don't feel that normal when I just stand there with my hand dropped in neutral position and I don't do a thing ?!?
>>>> Yes, don't cross your hands in front of you. Practice till it becomes natural to you. Stand up straigtht but relaxed, both feet on the ground, your hips sligtly forward. Even better: forget the whole posture, focus on CONFIDENCE.

3. I remember that I read an article which said something like "You should look over the crowd". I also read an article on how to walk more confidently (which also included this watching over the people who walk around you). But the thing is that I feel kinda weird walking around and looking right over the head of the people and just staring in the sky or whatever the object above them is. Maybe someone can specify this a little bit more.
>>>> Forget that article. If it feels weird it is weird. You don't want to look weird, you want to look normal. You don't want to "look confident". You want to "be confident". Work on confidence, look where you want to look, don't look away when people look back at you (you can smile so you don't look like a weirdo). Walk through the crowd with confidence. Confidence is the key, not the walk and not the look.

4. Can anyone tell me some kind of exercises to improve my peripheral vision. I can't quite tell if a person is looking at me while I am walking down the street looking above them.
>>>> Why are you looking above people? Don't look above, look at them. Look where the action is. For peripheral vision you can look little bit lower, say to the chest level. There are tricks to it, e.g. look "through people" but I would not recommend that at all because unless you are doing it really good it just looks weird. Very weird, you can look like a psycho. Again, don't worry about where you are looking and how. Just look where you want to look, don't move your eyes away when people look back at you, and as long as you don't stare you should be just fine. Don't stare! Smile instead...

4.1. And sometimes I think some people are and I feel like a star and I start smiling there on the street at nothing like a retard ?!?
>>>> I don't know what you mean, but if you look above poeple, look at nothing and keep smiling, well, some people may think you are a retard. Just don't do it.

If I can get an answer to these questions I really thing I will be much more successful with women and people in general. I really hope the topic won't be just passed by and I think it may help others too.
>>>> True. Just forget about all the weird stuff, there is a lot of crap on the internet. Observe how likable people THAT YOU KNOW behave, how they look and stand, what they say, and then go with that. Learn directly from people that you know...

 

[metomeya]

You are over thinking it. If you have an opportunity to talk to a lot of girls, then just do that. Since you are a teenager you are building a base level of confidence when it comes to girls. Plus, the more you talk to them the more patterns you'll see that you can use in the future.

Just focus on being friendly and talking to them. Don't try to sleep with them. The more experience interacting with girls the better.

I believe Chase was a tire salesman and he used that experience of convincing people to buy to help his game. You can do the same. Use this opportunity to get over talking to hot girls in public. Do it to the point where it is second nature.

I understand the family thing, but there are always groups of only girls at beaches and pools (wherever you are working at). And when there are enough people around, you'll eventually see girls all alone. Take advantage of this time while you can.

Good luck