Thor's Newbie Assignment

[Thor]

Hey everybody.

So I gave an introduction about myself and my past over on the Beginners board. Here's the link so you can all check it out.

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=7253

But just a brief introduction here. I have been reading on this site for probably a good year and a half or so. (I started reading in November 2012) Needless to say, I've got a lot of Chase's information swimming around in my head and finally decided that it was time to put it to use. I've been working on approaching for a little more than a month now but I figured it would be good to have some more specific direction so that I can really focus on my weaknesses and improving my social skills and my game one step at a time. So that's why I'm here! Hope you guys can get something out of reading my newbie assignment journal. I'll do my best to provide as much detail as I can!

Getting started today with my Newbie Assignment. I'm not going to have the time to do this 14 days in a row. Most likely 2 or 3 days a week at the most.

Here we go!

Day 1

I went out for about 2 or 3 hours this afternoon to scout out some good places for daytime approaching. I know the night life in Baltimore pretty well but don't have as good of a handle on where the ladies like to be during the day. So with a few ideas in mind, I set off to find them!

Before I get into the actual assignment for day 1 I would like to share an encounter I had at the bus stop and on the bus on the way down to the inner harbor. As I was walking up to the bus stop there was one girl sitting on the bench waiting for the bus. So I told myself "I'm going to approach her, no matter what." What a fantastic decision that was.

I walked up to the bench and she made eye contact with me as I was coming up to her. I smiled and said "Going anywhere interesting today?" She said "Yes! I'm meeting a friend in the harbor to watch the World Cup game!"

We bantered for a while. It went really well. I was asking her who she wanted to win, what she was doing in Baltimore for the summer, etc. Turns out, she lives in the same neighborhood that I do and has an internship in the city for the summer. Living by herself. So we kept talking and got on the bus.

I got on the bus and walked to the back. I was half surprised that she followed me right to where I was standing to continue the conversation. I don't remember exactly the rest of the conversation verbatim but I remember some details that I thought were important. For one, she was twirling her hair with her fingers for almost the whole time we were talking. I've been told that is a big sign of attraction and interest. So I was pretty excited about that. The conversation was great. I was teasing her a bit, we were bantering, and also taking the conversation to deeper levels. As we got closer to the harbor she told me that she didn't exactly know where she was going. So I said that I'd show her around.

As we got off the bus I placed my hand on her lower back and guided her to the direction we needed to go. She didn't really lean into it but she didn't back away at all either. No bad signs yet. As we were walking to her destination I figured "well damn, this conversation is going really great, and if she's in town for the summer, I might as well get her number while we're at a good point in the conversation" so I said, "Hey we should totally hang out sometime since you live so close to me. You should give me your number." And she goes "Sure! That'd be great!" So I gave her my phone and she typed in her number and name. Bingo. Score #1 for Thor on the day!

So I was with her for probably another 30 minutes as I was showing her around a bit and leading her to meet her friend. I know this might have been a bit too long of an interaction as I wasn't planning on escalating today, and I had already gotten her number and an agreement to a future hangout. I probably should have directed her to where she needed to be going and set her on her way after 10-15 minutes or so but the conversation was great, I was feeling a good vibe from her so we just kept on talking and walking. I was trying to lead the conversation topics to sex a few times to see where the sexual vibe was. What I came to find out is that this girl is very, very innocent. At one point she mentioned something about not having kissed a guy in about a year. First of all, this completely blew my mind because this girl was really, really attractive! One thing that I found to be curious was though she was saying she was innocent and hadn't done much at all with guys, she was always responding well to my touch and seemed ok with sexual innuendo and sexual topics were introduced to the conversation. I can't tell if she was lying about her sexual experience or if she was actually just telling the truth and hadn't had the right guy really lead her to open her up to her own sexuality. She mentioned that her parents were strict growing up so that could have something to do with it. Maybe she has some belief systems or some mental walls built up regarding her sexuality. I don't know. I'd love some input here if you guys think you have a handle of what's going on inside her head. So that may be a problem down the road but I just see it as a challenge

She had mentioned that the longest relationship she had was only about 1 month but that she likes going out to meet guys (mostly guys a lot older than she is) but that it never leads to anything. As we were talking she kept insisiting that she was a "good girl." So I used Chase's idea of saying something like "Darlin, you're not a good girl, I can see right through you." She laughed but inisisted that she was actually a really good girl. That was when she told me that she never really does anything with guys and that she hadn't had a kiss in over a year (I totally thought about going for the kiss when I said goodbye, just to see what would happen, but I decided against it.)There was one point where she was looking at her phone map and trying to figure out where to go and started turning in all directions trying to figure it out. So I found this as a good place for more touching. So I was standing behind her and grabbed her by her shouders and said in a very teasing and sarcastic manner, "see I was right. Women ARE bad with directions." She laughed and seemed totally ok with the touching. So I led her to where she needed to go and gave her a hug (a GOOD one too, none of that one armed pussy shit) and said "It was great meeting you. I'll text you soon and we''ll set something up. Have a great day!" She said "you too!" and we both went on our own ways. I texted her later after I got back and did my best to follow Chase's texting guides. Here's the conversation:

Thor: Hey (name). It was great meeting you today - Thor
Her: Hey. Great meeting you too! Thanks for taking me to fellsl!
Thor: My pleasure! I'll hit you up over the next few days to figure out a time to chill soon. Cool?
Her: Yeah sounds good!

I think I have this handled but if you guys see anything that I could have done differently or where to take this from here (especially with her being so innocent) please let me know! You all have complete permission to rip me apart if you see any detail that you feel I didn't do correctly!

1. Inner Harbor and Light Street Pavilion

Lots of good looking girls here both just walking around inside and outside. Mostly out by the water but also a few inside in some of the stores in the pavilion. This will be a great place to come down during the day to practice approach. Lots of traffic, lots of people. Perfect.

2. Barnes and Noble

Not nearly as many girls in here. I think I was in the store for a good 20-30 minutes and saw maybe 3 girls that I saw attractive. This could possibly be an option but I'm not going to spend much time there. There is another barnes and noble in the city that is close to a big university that I think would be totally worth checking out sometime.

3. Harbor East (outside)

Definitely one of the nicer and more upscale areas of the city. Lots of pretty girls going to eat or shopping in the various stores down here. Worth spending some time here.

4. Fell's Point

Again, a very popular place to go hang out during the day and even more so during the night. Lots of very good looking women around here both outside and inside the bars. One of my favorite spots for going at night.

5. Federal Hill

Similar to Fell's point but this area is much better at night. My favorite place so far in Baltimore to meet girls.

In the future I want to spend some time getting out of the city a ways and checking out some of the malls in the surrounding towns and cities. Day game at the mall is something that I have not experimented with before but I think it would be a valuable resource to tap!

Looking forward to Day 2!

Not exactly sure when I'll be able to complete this. There's a good chance that I won't until next weekend.

And again, if y'all have any suggestions about anything you see here, please feel free to criticize! I want to get better and learn!

Best,

Thor

 

[metomeya]

I think you did a great job. Your diligent study of Chase's material shows.

Bus stops are gold mines.

They play into the whole "I just happened to meet this guy, it must be destiny" kind of a thing for a girl (instead of you having to stop them out of no where and having to get over the initial weird factor).

Your texts were short, laid back, and to the point which were great. It conveys you are a man of value and coolness.

Don't believe ANYTHING a girl says about her sexual history until you have a relationship. Even during the start of a relationship, she'll lie. But if you make her feel comfortable (meaning you tell her about your sexual past first in a non-judgmental way), she'll open up and tell you every dirty, gross detail. But I wouldn't worry about that stuff for now.

When a girl talks about her sexual history early on, she is simply conveying if she is available and her desire for you. And she is clearly showing that she wants you.

Touching her early seemed a little dangerous at first, but she seemed to have given you enough IOIs to be in the clear.

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The best places I find girls are outside (people are more open to random conversation than being inside) and where people are stationary, like a bus stop, but the quality of women at a bus stop will be VERY low unless you are near a college campus.

So I would say do the "Inner Harbor and Light Street Pavilion" and the "University" you were talking about. You can sprinkle in other places from time to time, but I would say know those two places inside and out. That way you can just focus on technique and not worry about where you are going to go.

I've had success with Barnes and Noble, but I would say stay away from the inside locations in general. Your odds are better outside. If you do Barnes and Noble, keep in mind the girls are less likely to be...easy...maybe I should use the term "free-spirited"...and she'll also be self-conscious that other people will be hearing your conversation. So you need to approach in a very non-needy and casual frame. I've found the best success with B&N using that mindset.

Best of luck

 

[Thor]

Hey Everyone,

Just wanted to give my Day 2 report! It's been like a week but like I said, I'll only have time to complete these once or twice per week.

Day 2

So first off, I'd like to mention that instead of going to the places that I had explored previously in day 1, I decided to go somewhere else. But, for good reason.

There was this huge outdoor arts and music festival in Baltimore this weekend with tons and tons of people and beautiful women everywhere. So I figured that would be the best training ground if there ever was one.

I went out and walked around for about an hour and here is what I observed.

I felt very comfortable with my own posture, as this has been something that I've been working on for a while. Back straight, chin parallel with the ground, trying to never look down, arms comfortably swinging, walking slowly, and with smooth movements. I like to think of this smooth powerful walk as almost like gliding. That gives me the best image of what I'm doing so I can really embody the ideas. While I didn't feel like people were actually noticing me or looking at me because of my walk, people definitely move out of the way if your body language communicates that "I am a strong, confident person." I would love to get to the point physically, where I am actually attracting attention and stares from people just out and about. I have been consistently spending time at the gym (lifting 5 days a week, cardio 4 days a week) for the past 6 weeks or so and I am starting to see and feel positive results. Any of you guys out there who are in really fantastic shape have experience with attracting attention from girls based on being in great shape?

It was interesting for me to observe others and they way they walked as well. I found that for one, most men are really terribly dressed. Also, most of them don't have great posture and clearly have never really focused on this or worked on it in their lives. I found that the men that had the best posture were often those who clearly spent a good amount of time in the gym. There were only a few, however, that really stood out and let their walk really scream "Power!" to everyone around them. I'd love to be on that level, where my body language and just energy shines through me and can attract a lot of attention alone. I don't even know if this is possible but I'd like to hear all of your takes on this if you have something related to contribute.

Well, that's about it for now. I took the girl out whom I mentioned in my Day 1 post on Thursday night. We had a really fantastic time, and though I know she was definitely bought in (we had a great make-out session at the end of the date with lots of touching) she is also quite young (but still legal of course) and a virgin with not much experience. So when I tried to take her back to my room and tried to push through her resistance I didn't make any progress. Since then, I messaged her on Saturday to see when she'd be free this week to come to my place to watch a movie and polish off a bottle of wine and she hasn't gotten back to me. I'll probaly shoot her another text this afternoon. Any insight here for pushing past resistance with a virgin who has very limiting beliefs about sex (says she isn't religious but was spouting the typical "I'm waiting for the right guy" and "I want to be in a serious relationship with him" and "I'm not easy like that" though she was very much turned on by the heavy making out and touching) would be greatly apprecated!

Thanks for reading guys. Hope y'all have a great Monday!

Thor