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I haven't seen a topic like this on GC or any seduction forums so am curious to hear what you all think of it.
I have a name that is quite unusual and nerdy, and characters in media with it are generally portrayed as buffoons/incompetent. It's not quite like Eugene or Gilbert but it's similar. When I make a social faux pas friends will joke that "that's such a (my name) thing to do". Over Christmas some cute girls I was talking to visibly recoiled when I told them my name (and this has happened before, not often but it has)
This got me thinking, we try to improve our fundamentals (fashion sense, body, walk) but what about our names? It makes sense that an attractive name would keep or boost your attractiveness and not deter from it. Imagine a woman meeting a tall, well built, well dressed and charismatic guy and then he tells her his name is Ernie. Then when she tells her friends she met this amazing guy she would constantly be having to bat off the jokes from friends and family about his name. We all know that for women their reputation is everything, so I wonder if something like this could kill off your chances for a good chunk of them (not all of course, I've met some wonderful women who haven't cared, but I always wonder if it's something that is just tolerated because they like me a lot rather than an attractive thing in itself)
At the start of the year I decided I wanted to try going by my middle name, which is more common and traditionally masculine. I told my friends and family to try calling me by it to get me used to it and have started using it on dating apps. The only problem is that the name is a bit too common and there are a few people at work with it. I also feel like a bit of a fraud. I think the ideal is an unusual name that is also traditionally masculine and attractive (like Chase) but I don't have the guts to completely change it to something like that since it might not suit me (my middle name does). And it's also easier to explain to people that you decided to go by your middle name as opposed to a completely new one - I understand that people might see that as being extremely insecure.
Curious to hear your thoughts on this and what you would think if you ran into a guy who did what I did.
I have a name that is quite unusual and nerdy, and characters in media with it are generally portrayed as buffoons/incompetent. It's not quite like Eugene or Gilbert but it's similar. When I make a social faux pas friends will joke that "that's such a (my name) thing to do". Over Christmas some cute girls I was talking to visibly recoiled when I told them my name (and this has happened before, not often but it has)
This got me thinking, we try to improve our fundamentals (fashion sense, body, walk) but what about our names? It makes sense that an attractive name would keep or boost your attractiveness and not deter from it. Imagine a woman meeting a tall, well built, well dressed and charismatic guy and then he tells her his name is Ernie. Then when she tells her friends she met this amazing guy she would constantly be having to bat off the jokes from friends and family about his name. We all know that for women their reputation is everything, so I wonder if something like this could kill off your chances for a good chunk of them (not all of course, I've met some wonderful women who haven't cared, but I always wonder if it's something that is just tolerated because they like me a lot rather than an attractive thing in itself)
At the start of the year I decided I wanted to try going by my middle name, which is more common and traditionally masculine. I told my friends and family to try calling me by it to get me used to it and have started using it on dating apps. The only problem is that the name is a bit too common and there are a few people at work with it. I also feel like a bit of a fraud. I think the ideal is an unusual name that is also traditionally masculine and attractive (like Chase) but I don't have the guts to completely change it to something like that since it might not suit me (my middle name does). And it's also easier to explain to people that you decided to go by your middle name as opposed to a completely new one - I understand that people might see that as being extremely insecure.
Curious to hear your thoughts on this and what you would think if you ran into a guy who did what I did.
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