Throwing Ball in Her Court

[RedNeck]

Let’s say you asked a girl for a date three times and she kept giving you the busy excuse.

You threw the ball in her court. However, you used to see this girl in person regularly. To avoid any awkwardness and not to scare her away if she decided to reach out, you kept the conversation friendly and to the bare mini

When she realized you were for real walking away, she threw a lot of AI’s (proximity, eye contact,…etc..) hoping you would talk to her again like before. However, she never reached out or even hinted about going out with you. She just kept popping up where you were and gave you strong eye contact.

Would you consider her behavior chasing enough and ask her out for the fourth time?

I felt it was a lose-lose scenario. There was no guarantee I would get a yes if I asked for the fourth time. In addition, it would make me look weak as fuck because here we go I am asking her out again when I said I would not.

Also, it seemed she did not have the courage to reinitiate or did not want to completely reinitiate.

 

[Police dog]

She just wants your attention. If she liked you you wouldn’t have to ask 3 times.

 

[Skills]

Guarantee you, no soft closing is the problem... this should not happen...post convos

 

[RedNeck]

No, it was not soft closing at all. I was not familiar with the soft close at this time.

 

[Chase]

@RedNeck,

Give her something she can chase you on, like a social invite. Should be something really fun, with guys and girls, ideally a bit exclusive, ideally where you have some measure of status.

e.g., next time you run into her, especially if it’s close to a weekend:

YOU: “So, whatcha been up to? Doing anything fun this weekend?”​

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HER: “No, nothing planned. Just kind of hanging out. You?”​

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YOU: “Yeah, friend’s throwing a bash this weekend, I’m helping him throw it, bunch of guys and gals will be there. It’s going to be wild.”​

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HER: “That sounds so cool!”​

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YOU: “It always is! Anyway, see you ‘round.”​

If she hints at wanting an invite, you just test her: “Really? Well I know how busy you usually are. I didn’t think you did fun things like parties.” Make her insist she wants to come.

Usually when I’ve done this the girl’s too unprepared to chase right away, and maybe was sort of hoping you’d invite her yourself, but instead you just drop it then leave the conversation and walk away. Once she figures out you aren’t going to invite her, you get her chatting you up about it over the next few weeks:

HER: “So, any parties planned lately?”​

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YOU: “Yeah, depends what we’re in the mood for.”​

​

HER: “You should invite me if you have one of those. I’d go.”​

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YOU: “Cool. Well how big a party does it need to be for you to come? Sometimes we do big ones, sometimes just little ones.”​

She’ll tell you small ones are fine, then you just invite her out some weekend with you and a few friends (hopefully a few of them are girls and not just you and the boys) and while she’s there you get her isolated like it’s just a regular date, while using your friends for social proof. Then you’re all set.

Chase

 

[RedNeck]

She just wants your attention. If she liked you you wouldn’t have to ask 3 times.

Thanks man for your reply, but girls play games, girls play hard to get . There are articles about this on this website . Not every girl who didn’t put up within 3 seconds wanted only attention,…etc .
Plus, I know she likes me because she told a common friend .

 

[RedNeck]

@RedNeck,

Give her something she can chase you on, like a social invite. Should be something really fun, with guys and girls, ideally a bit exclusive, ideally where you have some measure of status.

e.g., next time you run into her, especially if it’s close to a weekend:

YOU: “So, whatcha been up to? Doing anything fun this weekend?”​

​

HER: “No, nothing planned. Just kind of hanging out. You?”​

​

YOU: “Yeah, friend’s throwing a bash this weekend, I’m helping him throw it, bunch of guys and gals will be there. It’s going to be wild.”​

​

HER: “That sounds so cool!”​

​

YOU: “It always is! Anyway, see you ‘round.”​

If she hints at wanting an invite, you just test her: “Really? Well I know how busy you usually are. I didn’t think you did fun things like parties.” Make her insist she wants to come.

Usually when I’ve done this the girl’s too unprepared to chase right away, and maybe was sort of hoping you’d invite her yourself, but instead you just drop it then leave the conversation and walk away. Once she figures out you aren’t going to invite her, you get her chatting you up about it over the next few weeks:

HER: “So, any parties planned lately?”​

​

YOU: “Yeah, depends what we’re in the mood for.”​

​

HER: “You should invite me if you have one of those. I’d go.”​

​

YOU: “Cool. Well how big a party does it need to be for you to come? Sometimes we do big ones, sometimes just little ones.”​

She’ll tell you small ones are fine, then you just invite her out some weekend with you and a few friends (hopefully a few of them are girls and not just you and the boys) and while she’s there you get her isolated like it’s just a regular date, while using your friends for social proof. Then you’re all set.

Chase

@Chase , thanks Chase a lot . Ignoring and freezing up in real life is just a little different than in text , I am glad you touched on this in your reply .

Also I would like to add it seems the girly- girls would rather to die alone than to ask you out even if you threw the ball in her court . I know it is not our fault but it happens.

 

[Police dog]

girls would rather to die alone than to ask you out

That’s very far from true, sorry if that never happened to you. If she likes you, she will. Usually in the form of “are you free tomorrow?” or “hey, I want to go [wherever] on the weekend” or through a mutual friend.

girls play games, girls play hard to get .

Except when they don’t. If she likes you you don’t have to play these games.

 

[RedNeck]

That’s very far from true, sorry if that never happened to you. If she likes you, she will. Usually in the form of “are you free tomorrow?” or “hey, I want to go [wherever] on the weekend” or through a mutual friend.

Except when they don’t. If she likes you you don’t have to play these games.

You are twisting my words . I said girly-girls there is an article by Chase talking about them.

It did happen to me. I had girls message me to fuck me. I had girls asking me out to dates multiple times .

The difference is I know both types exist. I don’t take only one experience and project it over the entire population.

Also, there is an another article by Chase about women games and women who play hard to get . If they don’t exist, why would chase write those articles?

Also, you dragged the conversation into a different direction . The question was not about her interest level. The question was about specific secenrio and Chase answered it.

I am not in the mode of arguing, let’s agree to disagree. I am sure your experience is different. Have a good day