Timely help needed...she needs permission to date me

[ray_zorse]

So regarding [L] from the following report:
https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=7840

I'm a bit ambivalent on her because she has very conservative Vietnamese and Catholic attitudes...on the plus side she seems keen, and is extremely direct about things which I find refreshing.

Here is the text conversation in recent weeks:

2014-09-16 10:59:09 out
hey [L]..just wanted to say hi as we haven't chatted in a while..what's new in your life? lots going on here, have been organizing some social events, making holiday plans etc

2014-09-16 11:34:05 in
Hi ray. How r u. Im studying. I applied for a job 3 places yesterday. I m waiting for phone calls

2014-09-16 13:08:09 out
that sounds promising keep me updated..im doing some homework too..talk later on

2014-09-16 13:09:50 in
Ok. C e. Have a good day

2014-09-18 21:57:10 in
Hi ray. How r u. Im so sad.

2014-09-18 21:57:33
I need someone talk to me

2014-09-18 23:17:5
hmm, what's the matter?

2014-09-18 23:20:08 in
Hihi. I miss my mom

2014-09-18 23:24:16 in
Sorry. Im cant talk

2014-09-18 23:24:38 in
Have a good night

2014-09-19 16:46:04 in
Hi nick. How was ur day

2014-09-19 16:55:00 out
good thanks! lots going on! now im making pizza..see pic..I will teach u also how to make pho, although it wont be as good as ur mums how about u, feeling better?

2014-09-28 10:01:56 out
hey [L]..haven't heard from u..bump! I've had an exhausting few weeks but I might be more free the coming wk if u would like to meet up when ru free?

2014-09-28 10:51:07 in
Hi ray. How r u. Im have just finished a mass.

2014-09-28 10:51:52 in
How about tomorrow

2014-09-28 14:17:21 out
tomorrow works for me..how about we go to the pho restaurant near my home and then come back here to watch a movie..I can take u to [her suburb] after

2014-09-28 14:24:21 in
That's good. But i have to ask my aunt

2014-09-28 15:06:40 out
okay. have you seen the film, mùi du du xanh?

2014-09-28 16:51:21 in
Sorry. Watch moive in the cinema or ur house

Well, there's a few things not too good about this. She leaves me hanging for long periods and I have to start things up again...she has also tried to use me as an emotional tampon, after she said she was lonely and sad I waited 2hrs and then tried to call her by voice (nothing I hate more than long emotional discussions by text)...I was planning to say I cannot help with her problems but I can still offer her company and good conversation...but she refused my call which I found a bit offensive, anyhow have given it a fair bit of radio silence and tried for a bit of rapport building in between...now I've asked her for a date (somewhat against my better judgement), decided to go for easy date since it's 2nd date and I cannot be bothered fucking around with this girl anymore...

So it appears her aunt won't let her come and chill with me, this is a bit problematic because she refuses almost any other activity such as bar and club, bowling, etc...I did take her to iDarts which was OK (actually its very cool, very popular with the young crowd) but this didn't fill in more than 45min or so... I dunno how I can arrange to spend time with her. Ideas? Best I can come up with is, there's a drive-in cinema somewhere near our homes. But we can only watch Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles there. haha

If I had better logistics I would arrange to meet her in the day near where I opened her and close the deal without the aunt knowing. On the plus side, my plans to get an apartment in that area are coming to fruition!!

cheers, Ray

 

[ray_zorse]

Have realized I could just tell her its the cinema and not mention its a drive-in. haha think that might be the plan. I've never been to a drive-in, will be like reliving my teenage years in a better way Only need to get the effin radio in my car fixed, it's got a secure code and the dealer's being difficult about it. Hmm will update later.

 

[ray_zorse]

It's on. haha. Answered my own question but thanks for listening guys. The process of putting the question into words often suggests a solution. Well, two issues at this point:
1) I have never tried the whole plausible deniability / withholding the truth in order to isolate / escalate thing. This prob isn't as blatant as saying we are going for drinks / pool and then taking her home. (Well I wouldn't try that w her at this point since she's stated outright "I wont go to your house")... hopefully she'll just be happy about being able to be alone w me while keeping aunty happy
2) Any tips on escalating in car appreciated... at this point I think I'll just try some hand holding to set an intimate frame... then try for straight out compliance... "come here..." point to my cheek "kiss"... and take it from there. It's gonna be a tough one though. I wish I had better skills in normal escalation scenarios before tackling this piece of outright prudery... still hopefully she's so repressed that once the floodgates open it will all come tumbling out. haha

cheers, Ray