Tinder App (Android/iPhone)

[PinotNoir]

So this is the current rage right now. I figure GC should stay on top of current trends

After 2 of my friends constantly nagged me and after reading this post, I decided to give it a try.

Basic idea:
You log in using Facebook, but it never posts on your timeline, etc.
You choose a few pics from your profile, and then edit or leave the description.
It searches for women based on your settings in your area.
You'll see the same type of profile that you set up for yourself for each new girl, and then you click like (heart icon or swipe right) or not (X icon or swipe left).
If you both like each other, then it initiates conversation between you two.

Like most new technology, lots of young people. I liked a few, but then got tired of seeing only young people, so I changed my settings to 26+ (I'm 26).

I haven't gotten any responses yet, as I just started today. It's pretty dependent on how many people use it in your area. There's a lot of group pics that are super annoying, typical stuff with online dating I assume. If a girl has a bunch of group pics or has no pics of their full body, I usually skip, else I have no idea what they actually look like fully. That may be shallow, but the app is designed for that..

How my profile is setup:
I was feeling humorous, so it's pretty much funny pics and a funny description. I figure if a girl responds to me, then she'll have to be a pretty special girl haha. I plan on just using it for that, where you both have strong similarities in humor/personality, else I can just ask out any random beautiful girl that I see on the street like I currently do.

EDIT: pics I'm using: 1 humorous, 2 on vacation (to showcase my travels), 2 that look good and looking away from the camera (as suggested by GC for online dating)

Anyone else use it yet?

 

[gijas04]

I'm on Blendr not Tinder but I believe they are similar in nature. So far I had a couple responses and a mutual attraction.

Blendr seems to be well.. a mixed crowd. Not that I'm too good for what I'm seeing but ah.. you know its seems like I just might be one of the few without a street look.

I only posted one photo. I do this because I'm not there to be popular and like a challenge with women coming to me. On the other hand by adding more pictures my response rate should go up slightly.

Right now I'm not sure if I want to invest this much into a site I know little about. Another thing is I'm not on Face Book since deleting my account. So I can't be verified and show I'm popular that way.

I did join Twitter however, now I have to start over making friends. I guess it doesn't hurt to have a profile as a go to when you get a little dry.

 

[Just_Dave]

Hey Pinot,

I actually had a LR- about my experiences with Tinder. It's not a bad app to use in your free time and when you're bored haha. When you do have a match you want to move quickly and escalate as soon as possible.
LR-: Snow Storm Fun
https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=4667

It's a great tool to use when wrapping up your night, or just kicking back while waiting in line at the grocery store, bookstore, etc ...

Dave

 

[gijas04]

Just Dave,
I recently lost a contact by not escalating quickly. I had a match and we started to chat. She said she was not on often so I pushed for a date. However, after she accepted by giving me her schedule I didn't reply with a meet up until an hour or so later. She never responded. Was the delay enough for her to have second thoughts?

 

[NaturallySmooth]

I've used this app before and gotten girls off of it and tbh, I really don't like it.

First off, often if you do meet girls in person they will be less attractive than in their photos because girls choose the best photos possible and this is a real turn off

I also think that in terms of a connection between you and the girl, tinder promotes a kind of 'fake' connection. Since you're just talking over text, there is so much less communication (physical, emotion, etc.) and when you do meet in person it's a little awkward.

I'm not saying that it's terrible, but i would personally rather spend my time meeting girls in person because that way you can tell far faster if a girl is into you and 10 minutes of in person talking is so much more connection-forming than hours of messaging back and forth.

 

[PinotNoir]

I've used this app before and gotten girls off of it and tbh, I really don't like it.

First off, often if you do meet girls in person they will be less attractive than in their photos because girls choose the best photos possible and this is a real turn off

I also think that in terms of a connection between you and the girl, tinder promotes a kind of 'fake' connection. Since you're just talking over text, there is so much less communication (physical, emotion, etc.) and when you do meet in person it's a little awkward.

I'm not saying that it's terrible, but i would personally rather spend my time meeting girls in person because that way you can tell far faster if a girl is into you and 10 minutes of in person talking is so much more connection-forming than hours of messaging back and forth.

Yes, I tend to agree with this, but I'm basing this off of assumptions and haven't connected with anyone on it.

I think a lot of people build so much hype over these things, and then you try it and feel limited and like a different experience. It's like doing seduction with two hands tied behind your back (which is probably easy for James Bond). Like, in person, you can get a yes/no and go about your day. With this, even getting a yes/no wastes your time, as the person may never reply back; it's like you're chasing from the very beginning.

If I get a date from it, I'll post a FR on it or something, but my expectations are low for actually finding someone. In LA or NY, it may have more possibilities, just based on sheer volume of people open and using new stuff like this. I am still curious though.

 

[Just_Dave]

Just Dave,
I recently lost a contact by not escalating quickly. I had a match and we started to chat. She said she was not on often so I pushed for a date. However, after she accepted by giving me her schedule I didn't reply with a meet up until an hour or so later. She never responded. Was the delay enough for her to have second thoughts?

Yes, and in the future I'd recommend getting the girls phone number to cement the actual date. I actually found a really attractive girl on Tinder last night she hit me back instantaneously and we started going logistics for a date. She's headed to Ghana at the end of the month and will be gone till May. She's given me the "I'm not a ho" speech lol, I told her I was just interested to meet cool girls and see where it would lead. She stays about 35 miles away from me, so I'll do a Skype call to better set up logistics instead over text. Given the fact that she lives a good hiking distance away, I also want to clarify what she's after. The good thing is my fraternity has a chapter house (which I'm cool with), so I could always use that as my exit door should things go awry.

 

[PinotNoir]

Eh, I deleted my account and uninstalled the app today. I decided it wasn't my thing. I can always re-install and re-create my account again in the future.

There are some attractive, decent chicks, but most girls on there -- at least in my area -- just give off a bad vibe. One girl's description was about the exact pictures you should put in your profile and how you shouldn't comb your hair a certain way (control freak, I assume). Another girl's description was all about "I promise I'm not this desperate" and went on and on about how desperate she isn't. Another girl's description was about how she will not have sex with anyone on here.

Seems like a lot of bad precedent from the beginning that I don't want to deal with.

I think I'll try again in the future, but maybe it's just too immature right now. There are decent girls on there, but just not worth the hard drive space on my phone currently.

 

[Amadeaus]

I used an article about these types of apps for a homework assignment last semester.

The article was trying to make a point that certain races are more attractive than others. Whats sort of funny though, when you look at the percentages... All men are getting somewhere close to 5% responses from women. Which is about what GC says to expect when you start cold approaching. If one group was getting %60 responses and another 2%, then yes write an article about it. But if they are all around the expected %5, this is not newsworthy.

Women were all getting between ~10% to ~20% response rates across each group. That was a little lower than I was expecting, but I don't know what the quality of women on these apps are.

Also note that human beings can be classified into 4 races, according to this article.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/ ... mance.html

 

[gijas04]

Just Dave,
I recently lost a contact by not escalating quickly. I had a match and we started to chat. She said she was not on often so I pushed for a date. However, after she accepted by giving me her schedule I didn't reply with a meet up until an hour or so later. She never responded. Was the delay enough for her to have second thoughts?

Yes, and in the future I'd recommend getting the girls phone number to cement the actual date. I actually found a really attractive girl on Tinder last night she hit me back instantaneously and we started going logistics for a date. She's headed to Ghana at the end of the month and will be gone till May. She's given me the "I'm not a ho" speech lol, I told her I was just interested to meet cool girls and see where it would lead. She stays about 35 miles away from me, so I'll do a Skype call to better set up logistics instead over text. Given the fact that she lives a good hiking distance away, I also want to clarify what she's after. The good thing is my fraternity has a chapter house (which I'm cool with), so I could always use that as my exit door should things go awry.

Thanks Dave. These online sourses for women can be a lot of fun but at the same time can be very frustrating if your a beginner like me. I just started approaching women about a month ago and have a long way to go until I see the results Im wanting. I also wanted to comment on response rates in the above post. For me the percentage was about 10%. I messaged about 10 women and 3 responded. There was one that responded to me first and that was a new experience for me. But after losing this one due to hesitation, I deleted my account as well. Real approaches should be my main concern right now and when I get good at these by taking numbers and dates then I will visit online approaches again to see if I have more success.

 

[Marty]

Just Dave, PinotNoir, I'd be interested to hear your opinion. It actually concerns the HotOrNot app, but I think that works on almost exactly the same principles as Tinder, so your recommendations can apply to both.

I started using HotOrNot purely for rating purposes, on the advice of another GC member, but of course if a girl likes you back (mutual attraction) she becomes a "connection".

Here's what I'm wondering... what's the best way to start the online conversation? Would you go for:

• A standard GC icebreaker, like off of a cold approach: "Hey Julia, good to meet you! "?
• Or do the cats-and-sushi spiel that Chase outlines in his Plenty of Fish article (anyone who's read that will know exactly what I'm talking about)?
• Or something else entirely?

Interested to hear your thoughts. At the moment I'm still relying on physical, in-person cold approach to seek dates, but I figured if you get this prescreening on the app (meaning you know she likes your pics), might as well give it a go too to see what happens.

Thanks!

-Marty

 

[Smurf]

I'm using hot or not right now, and I've been connecting with a lot of girls and just basically seeing what works well. I've gotten responses using Chase's POF opener and I've also used a generic: Hey Name! You're really cute . I honestly haven't kept track of my hit miss ratio but I'm basically opening like 20 girls a day, and I usually get like 5-7 to respond to the first message right away.

The fun part is that connecting is almost like a screen in itself because if a girl liked your photo she must be somewhat interested.

Jake.