Tinder profile description

[Lover]

Hi fellas

I recently got on Tinder and I am using Colt's system (LaidOnTinder) as an inspiration. I don't feel like Colt's way of doing descriptions (poetic vibe) applies to me. I want to be straightforward, but keep things lightly at the same time. Is this possible?

My thoughts and observations: most girls in my area write the following in their description

-their education/carrier,
-their height,
-what they are (not) expecting from Tinder
-their snapchat and instagram usernames

I'm not down with any of this. I don't care about her education, height and social media usernames. Expections okay, but I would not consider them worth my time. But can I pull off a description that sends a message like "I want to know you as a person, neither based on your carrier nor your physical beauty, but your personality. I'm not judging, I just want a good time"

I'm not the most creative person in the world. And I think this is a hard one to pull because I don't wanna sound romantic, yet I don't wanna come off as an asshole (though I would prefer this over the romantic guy). I want something light, but to the point.

The best I can come up with is something like "Who are you when you're not defined by your carrier? A fun person? A seductive dancer? Or maybe something entirely else? Let me know!" Going the genuine way, something like this would be my style.

Or a simple description such as "Are you single?". Taking my pictures into account I might seem desperate when doing this description though. Low quality pictures and average looks.

I'm open to suggestions and thoughts.

a-jay

P.S. I'm not expecting my match-rate to increase dramatically because of a change in description. I should do something about my pictures in this regard and I just might. But I still want to have a description though, and I might as well go with something that is my style.

 

[PinotNoir]

My personal style is fun mystery.

But, it's hard to walk the line between so mysterious that you're a nobody to revealing too much.
And the same with fun, you don't want to be some type of clown that she slots into the gay-BFF category.

The basic idea is that you mention something you enjoy to capture a woman's attention, but leave out the important details.

Who are you when you're not defined by your carrier? A fun person? A seductive dancer? Or maybe something entirely else? Let me know!

I don't like this because you're trying to deep-dive about her in the description about you. Also, the last line can seem a bit desperate ("Let me know!").

The problem is that even though I don't care about a girl's education... you have to start with small talk initially, and most important, you can use this to dive deeper.

Me: "What's your BS in?"
Her: "Nursing."
Me: "Ah, so you really care for people... or just like washing old nude men?"

Also, going through small talk, commonalities build attraction, and you'll have chances to build up your yes-ladder.

Instead of putting deep-diving questions in your description, I'd suggest just telling women what you want.

Looking for a woman with a keen sense of adventure and the mind of Plato (but no beards please, too itchy). Love to talk about philosophy over a nice dark beer, but you can drink Piña Colada. Explored all of the best underground spots in town... unless you know one I don't? Maybe go there on first date, not a dinner-and-movie guy. This is where I'd type #yolo, but I believe in reincarnation. #yolf

Not perfect, but you have some fun, spice, and you let her know that you're not interested in small talk.

Questions are fine, but they should be about you or about you-and-her, in my opinion. Or, if it's about her, put in a way that it's something that you like and want her to be/do. "I love dancing under the moonlight, do you?"

 

[Lover]

Hey PinotNoir, thanks for your thoughts. It has given me a more clever idea of how I can make an appealing description. Can you maybe help me out on another issue, also related to Tinder?

Since I made this thread I have done a little searching on the Internet on a certain topic: how race determines your success on Tinder (and online gaming in general). I'm an Iranian guy born and raised in a Scandinavian country. All reserach I have been reading point to race as an important factor when deciding to swipe right or not. As much I would like to go the mysterious route, I think it is out of question when Tinder gaming as a minority. Colt also emphasizes this (as I just found out) in his programme - that you should make a funny and detailed description when you're a minority man.

I am overthinking this, no doubt. I should just write something and go along with it. But now that I have been reading these studies, I know that I'm easily falling into a stereotype: muslims. The main things that could contribute to this stereotype in my Tinder profile are my name, black hair and beard. I don't know if my pictures can change that, but if they can't I have at least my description to back me up (like including alcohol in it, which is prohibited in Islam) - however, I'm sure that the effect of changing my description is insignificant.

Anyway, I made up this one:

"Ass-kicking medical student and martial artist, but having fun is also an essential part of my life. Looking for a passionate and adventurous woman. Love fantastic coffee, but if you can't handle the hot stuff, we can have drinks on first date. This is where I'd type #yolo, but I believe in reincarnation. #yolf "

Basically this description is a lot like the one you suggested, PinotNoir (and the yolo-yolf line borrowed from you, hope it's okay) I have only adjusted it to my preferences and circumstance (race). What do you think of this one?

My own thoughts: the med. student thing can probably set a provider frame, but I'm not sure if it has the same effect when I'm a minority.

a-jay

 

[Bboy100]

Low quality pictures and average looks.

Disclaimer: Idc what your description is and what messages you send. If your pictures are average, your success rate will be almost 0%. I spent 2 years on online profiles with average pictures (and btw, I'm a relatively good looking guy) and I got one date. ONE. And at the time, I was living in a big city too.

As soon as I got better pictures, even after I moved to a smaller town, I started getting 1 sometimes 2 dates a week off Tinder. And I normally only got 3 or 4 matches who were even remotely close to where I live anyways.

At any rate, since your question was about descriptions...check what Chase has to say about it. I use his template, and its bringing me pretty good results.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-m ... lenty-fish

 

[Adam101]

I'd like to re-iterate the importance of pictures. They gotta be great before most will even read your profile. Unfortunately we as men cannot get away with blurry bathroom selfies. That being said, Chase's new "Blonde Bombshell" article reminded me of how women respond to archetypes and thought that might be helpful to you to think about. Ask yourself what types of women are you trying to attract on Tinder? What types of men do you see these women go for / who are they with? What do their pictures look like? What are they into? Then construct a profile that fits yourself into that mold.

My personal Tinder profile is ever evolving. At first I was getting really frustrated because I thought even though I checked off almost every do and don't I still wasn't getting great matches. I couldn't get the right mix of good pics + profile. It's only just now after my 4th photo shoot (solo) and several profile revisions have I been starting to see surprising results. But the great thing is any change yields instantly different results making it very easy to get feedback. It takes a lot of experimentation to figure out what will get you responses from different types of women. I get the most enjoyment out of Tinder by viewing it as just that; an experiment. I have to stress again though you have to have awesome pics. Look at magazines or even TV promos featuring sexy men and take note of how they're shot to get ideas. There's a lot of manipulation that goes into creating a successful online profile so have fun with crafting different images of yourself and see what sticks.

 

[Lover]

Hey guys. I really appreciate your comments. I have not done online dating before (I don't count Facebook as a dating platform), so this is all new to me. I guess that I have to have REALLY great pictures - both in regard to quality and style/fashion. Quality wise, I have put my best pictures out. All my pictures are face and chest (except a cool sport photo). Either way results are still 0. I will have to take a closer look on online dating in general and archetypes as well. Also I can use Colt's tips for pictures in general and for foreigners/minority men.

I guess that occupying myself with my Tinder description first and then my pictures is like trying to walk before I can crawl. And it cannot be done in that order.

Thank you so much Bboy and Adam. Keep your games tight

a-jay

 

[Franco]

a-jay,

If you're serious about making Tinder a platform you want to use regularly for dating, then it would definitely behoove you to scope out Colt's "Getting Laid on Tinder" system available on this website. Here's the link:

• Get Laid on Tinder

- Franco