FR tinder scheduled date feedback

[naturalmikey]

this is specifically for @JacobPalmer i do have to be persistent to tie her down. i’d say this ones like 50/50 at best. would be more close. she is 27 miles away. i never thought she’d come meet me so asked her this stupid pua question because of something someone posted on here saying it was cringe. anyway this convo is much more drawn out than usual. every time i get girls to come 20+ miles this is the case. 27 miles even on a saturday is like an hour at least here. i know it requires a huge amount of investment from her. so i’m wondering if i should continue to text her every day at least one exchange to keep her on the hook or leave her hanging. what are your thoughts. my next message will likely be “well if you use everything i say against me maybe we won’t get along. you are SASSY!”


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[JacobPalmer]

Oh man, you're definitely a persistent one here mikey. Overall the texting on your end is very animated/gamey, not particularly my style but hey if it's working for you great. Just be sure you don't fall into "dancing monkey" category. Not a fan of the "pua" question personally, doesn't further your goal in anyway. Maybe you get some slight intrigue from it but that's it.

One thing you keep missing is the "she wants to get to know you" bit. Each time that comes up somehow you don't address it, and I don't know why. That was her biggest objection to meeting up initially. Seems like you blasted through it using humour/fun messages, but just be mindful of that in the future. At the end, I also would have made harder plans instead of saying "I think we're going to get along." Would have set a place to meet as you're already in that part of the seduction, so we're moving a bit backwards now.

Going forward, and keeping congruencey in mind, I think a better text would be: "Well ultimately how great we get along depends on how good this chicken will be . Let's meet at XYZ, sound good?"

As for texting, I'd just do one follow up text on Thursday, just a small exchange, and then an anti-flake text Saturday morning. You don't need to text her each day, in my opinion.

Let me know if you were looking for more feedback than that.

 

[naturalmikey]

really good point about her wanting to get to know me. i sent a couple comfort texts and found out she’s from brazil. might explain why the aggressive persistence worked. in the moment it felt right even though out of character.

i never make definite plans of where we’re meeting until the day before when i send a confirmation text. it’s just the way i’ve found works best for me in my city. ymmv.

i’m surprised you called my text gamey. i mean it is. but the reason i liked your texts is because they seemed gamey. i noticed a few rsd lines “in the gym to look good on our date” or something like that. and “what fun things are you up to?” one thing you did that i don’t do enough is got her to tell you about herself. i like that.

 

[JacobPalmer]

Ahh yeah fair enough. Even I am trying to tone down the gameyness and just make things more natural haha, otherwise I just try to flirt and make things seem smooth/sexual. Unless we have different definitions of what gamey is?

I really only use those lines when they fit, and the flow seems natural. The "gym" line isn't gamey, it feels like a natural thing to say.

And they're more playing with fire lines, not RSD. I'm not into the RSD stuff in any way. They are gamey to the max, just doesn't work in my opinion.

 

[naturalmikey]

@JacobPalmer i got those lines years ago from rsd. one of the best when traveling is Jeffys “i’m only have time for a short (but intense) romance.” it also scares some girls off. they had really good text material.

 

[JacobPalmer]

Ahh interesting. The short but intense romance bit would be good for travelling, but yeah would definitely scare girls off. Keep us posted on how things go with this girl, unless there's anything else specific I can answer right now.

 

[naturalmikey]

@JacobPalmer i think i may have lost her by trying to get to know her honestly. it’s driving an hour plus to hook up with a stranger. i think all she really needed to know was that i’m cool. i’ve got my methods i should not be asking for feedback. what you do clearly works for you. but we are not the same.

 

[JacobPalmer]

Huh? Why would you start getting to know her now? That was just something I noticed at the beginning, but you were past that point now. What did you send her? Because something doesn't make sense with this most recent post.

 

[naturalmikey]

yeah it doesn’t matter. just a girl. there will be more. there always are. plus i’m not sure she’s not coming. i just asked where she was from and told her where i was from. then there was another exchange to which she didn’t respond. doesn’t mean it’s not gonna happen plus i’m never counting on any chick, especially one that lives that far away.

but for me the enigmatic mysterious shit seems to work best. idk why. plus i hate getting to know people. i’m very selective with who i get to know.

 

[JacobPalmer]

Mikey that is not what I suggested to do at all...but post the screenshots if you want my opinion, as from what I'm hearing now it went from "scheduling the date" to...her not responding? Obviously something has happened there. So again, something doesn't add up. But hey if what you're doing is working for you then great. Being congruent is more important.

 

[Cody Lyans]

If you feel she will lose her passion, text her to make the meeting earlier and earlier, that way if she rejects she reassert the set day and if she agrees you also win

 

[naturalmikey]

If you feel she will lose her passion, text her to make the meeting earlier and earlier, that way if she rejects she reassert the set day and if she agrees you also win

i like that, but i actually think she might really come. definitely a record distance for me. i'm gonna use that in the future. based on the conversation she said she gets off at four and then has to drive 1.5 hours to get here. so realistically i already know she's cutting it very close and don't want to see like i'm an obstacle.

 

[Cody Lyans]

i like that, but i actually think she might really come. definitely a record distance for me. i'm gonna use that in the future. based on the conversation she said she gets off at four and then has to drive 1.5 hours to get here. so realistically i already know she's cutting it very close and don't want to see like i'm an obstacle.

Build her up then once she arrives, throw her a Lil party for being a champ and to ease your guilt lol

I'd pay for her or give her a silly gift, cookies, a corny Lil flower toy, just a Lil thing to make it appreciated

If she wants to backout be like, I got u a surprise cuz I know it's far, I don't just ignore things like that and I think it is cool

 

[naturalmikey]

Build her up then once she arrives, throw her a Lil party for being a champ and to ease your guilt lol

I'd pay for her or give her a silly gift, cookies, a corny Lil flower toy, just a Lil thing to make it appreciated

If she wants to backout be like, I got u a surprise cuz I know it's far, I don't just ignore things like that and I think it is cool

that is fucking money. i may hit her like that. guilt her into coming. i already told her i'd get her a cupcake. i usually don't pay for all a girls drinks, but i will since she came this far. it's so much compliance on her end if she comes i have a lot of leeway with how much i can comply with her.

 

[Cody Lyans]

Exactly