Tinder transition

[Synntillate]

I've been using Colt's tinder guide and over the last two days managed to get a couple of numbers and been having a bit of small talk, I'm not sure how exactly to transition to asking for dates, really nervous as no date experience either so been thinking what I'd do for a date idea aswell.

 

[Bboy100]

Here's what I do on Tinder:
Her: Talks about some topic you were on earlier
You: Relate to her
You: Btw, wanna go out for coffee sometime? I feel like text isn't a very good way of getting to know each other.

This seems to get a yes 90% of the time.

As for what dates? I normally do coffee or drinks. A few articles which might help:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/simplify-your-dates
https://www.girlschase.com/content/date- ... ze-returns

Finally, if you have NO dating experience, I wouldn't worry about any of the material on this site at all on your first date. And definitely don't worry about getting her to like you/accomplishing x y or z with her. Just go in with the mentality "I'm going to do what I naturally do then reflect on what happened". After that first date, figure out what you naturally do right and what you do wrong. Were your fundamentals bad? Were your conversational skills sub-par? Did you miss escalation windows? And also congratulate yourself for any successes you had. Remember, success does not necessarily=results with her. Like, you don't have to sleep with her, kiss her, do anything. A success might be that you naturally Chase Frame. Or you naturally use incidental touch etc. These things aren't necessarily related to how far you get with her.

P.S.
The fact that its your first date means NOTHING. I got laid on my first date EVER. Even though I'm overall a much better seducer now, I still often perform worse than I did on that first date. So don't sweat it! And Good Luck!

 

[Synntillate]

Thanks Bboy100, really helps knowing that I don't have to try and go in with the mentality of "I have to have sex with this girl today" it's reassuring. I somehow did manage to get a coffee date with one of the girls set for this coming Monday. We've been in contact quite a bit and I wanted to post our entire conversation on here this post is just from opening to getting her number, just for a bit of advice really, was wondering of I could have gotten to the number quicker and where I could have done things better. I'll try to outline why I said what I did in parts.

Me: Oooh... We're halfway there! (Song lyric opener)
Her: Halfway to where? (I tend to get this response quite a bit for that lyric)
Me: Halfway to a second date up to you how we get there ___ (Thought this was a good way to be direct)
Her: Second? We haven't even had a first have we? (Kinda thought I was done there lol)
Me: Planning ahead. I work fast ___ wasting time with a girl that's caught my eye as easily as you have, is not the best idea in anyones book. (Edited a bit colt's guide here, just wanted to keep her interested.)
Her: It's ok you can slow down haha i'm not in any rush.
Me: Ok I'll slow it down for you. What's your story Sam? (Again bit of Colt's guide)
Her: Well for the past 20 years and a bit I've been inhaling and exhaling air and so far I've survived
Me: A story without a climax then, we can work on that Sam , we can work on that Sam . When you aren't focused on surviving, what do you like to do in your free time? (Thought the climax bit was good from me lol.)
Her: Hmm in my free time I like to think I'm musical and I literally love eating so much
Me: We talking instruments or singing? and the eating really doesn't show ___, you look really fit. (compliment, I think I may have done too many of those)
Her: Instruments lol I only sing in the shower. Haha I like to exercise aswell.
Me: Ahh that's great, got a lot of discipline then, could do with more of that myself. Have you ever performed in front of people ___? (compliment again but put my self down slightly aswell)
Her: Lol I don't have that much discipline. Yeah I used to perform in front of people but I don't have much time these days.
Me: Yeah daily life tends to get in the way of having fun. What got you into playing ___? (deep dive)
Her: Well it was mainly my mum telling me I had to play my instruments or I wouldn't get dinner but now I just pick it up on my own and play for fun
Me: You must be really good then with those motivations lol. followed by silly tinder chat line (thought now was as good a time as any for the number)
Her: Alright why not.....

For a first time properly trying to get a girl number on Tinder I though that went well. My next post after some advice on this will be the text side after me getting her number. (it's quite long don't want to overload you guys haha)

 

[Bboy100]

I'm not really familiar with Colt's System. The only things I know are the things he says on his Webinars. So I can't really give you too much advice on his stuff. Generally speaking, it looks like you did an ok job though. If you're getting her out on the same day/the same convo, you're probably doing ok.

As for your dates, I wouldn't worry about actually pulling them home for a LONG time.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-g ... king-girls

In that article, Chase talks about setting goals when you go out. Its no different when going on a date. Expecting to close consistently when you're still new to this is suicide. What you need to worry about (after you figure out your sticking points) is specific parts of seduction. Ex. Hold a better convo, move faster, fundamentals, lead her, ask for compliance etc. Tbh, I wouldn't worry about the actual result of the date...ever. When I go out, I'm happy with myself if I did all the things I preemptively decided I was gonna work on. It doesn't matter whether or not I get anywhere with her. In fact, oftentimes, I'll do things which I'm well aware are likely to ruin the date for me (ex being too much of an asshole, doing things which are considered socially unacceptable or just being straight up weird). The reason for this is that I need to see what I truly can and can't get away with (a lot of the things we assume will ruin interactions actually end up spiking attraction and moving them forward).

Once you master these types of things, first date lays will start coming to you pretty naturally.