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Tips on improving day game (and game in general ) when busy as f**k

Ronnie

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I am currently managing a small business and I am also trying to grow it (getting new clients, expanding my team etc) Being again out gaming after long relationships is both exciting and frustrating.

One reason for frustration is that I feel like I am trying to do two things that would require a full "work" day each. One is building a business another is getting good at day game (which requires both going out there and studying materials like these blogs, infields and other video tutorials). Not to mention finding time to work out and for my favorite hobby (cooking) as well as traveling from time to time.

I'll be frank, there are days where it's 11 pm and I have done only 50% of what I had set my self to do.
Any tips from guys who are constantly improving their game while also being super busy with their life would be gold! Thanks!
 
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Police dog

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Time management and optimization.
-Move to a denser populated area, so you can incorporate approaches in your daily routine. If you live in the US, I can only think of Chicago and NYC. Any large European city will do the trick as well.
-Get a remote/hybrid job, so you don’t have to spend time on commute every day. Incorporate gym in your lunch break, so pick a condominium with gym, so you don’t have to spend extra time on it.
-Optimize your diet, it should not take long to buy, prepare, eat, and clean. Also, the food you eat should not overload your stomach, you should not feel sleepy and needing a rest after you are ate. Ditch regular dishes in favor of disposable ones, best decision in my life.
-Daygame doesn’t have to be a full time job, it’s a long term commitment to get good at it. And quality over quantity. If you can make 10 solid approaches per week, it’s a whopping 520 over a year. Since most of them will last less than a couple of minutes, it’s not really that much time. Unless you plan to heavily spam approach every single girl in your city.
 

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If you live in the US, I can only think of Chicago and NYC.
Respectfully this is BS…I can attest that LA is hundreds of square miles of DG opportunities…I’m sure there are a couple dozen other large cities that are decent, heard good things about a bunch.
Also frankly I don’t know where you’re getting Chicago from…it has some perks but overall I haven’t heard much game wise and I can’t imagine it being particularly appealing…
Ditch regular dishes in favor of disposable ones, best decision in my life.
Just keep in mind, plastics + food = bad. Especially constant exposure (body usually clears it in hours to days, doesn’t matter if more keeps coming in)
Plus plastic is just damaging to the environment in a very immediate (unlike say climate change) way. I hate to go all Greta but don’t be a part of the problem, it’s bad karma for your seducer vibe.
-Daygame doesn’t have to be a full time job, it’s a long term commitment to get good at it. And quality over quantity. If you can make 10 solid approaches per week, it’s a whopping 520 over a year. Since most of them will last less than a couple of minutes, it’s not really that much time. Unless you plan to heavily spam approach every single girl in your city.
The key is maximizing your lessons from each approach.
 

ulrich

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If you live in the US, I can only think of Chicago and NYC.
Respectfully this is BS…I can attest that LA is hundreds of square miles of DG opportunities…I’m sure there are a couple dozen other large cities that are decent, heard good things about a bunch.

I think he is referring to the fact that those cities are walkable which is not the norm in the USA… unlike in Europe.

I guess you can still approach in not pedestrian cities but it will make you get out of your way to do so.
 
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Teevster

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If you want to be time-efficient go for nightgame.

-Teevster
 

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I am currently managing a small business and I am also trying to grow it (getting new clients, expanding my team etc) Being again out gaming after long relationships is both exciting and frustrating.

One reason for frustration is that I feel like I am trying to do two things that would require a full "work" day each. One is building a business another is getting good at day game (which requires both going out there and studying materials like these blogs, infields and other video tutorials). Not to mention finding time to work out and for my favorite hobby (cooking) as well as traveling from time to time.

I'll be frank, there are days where it's 11 pm and I have done only 50% of what I had set my self to do.
Any tips from guys who are constantly improving their game while also being super busy with their life would be gold! Thanks!

Daygame is to some extent the hobby of someone who has spare time. Because sometimes you go out and walk around a lot and opportunities are few and far between.

You can improve things by finding hotspots of places where women go to chill and have lunch or walk around, there are definitely places that are way, way better than others.

But probably the best thing you can do is learn to effectively use sparse opportunities - for example if you have a lunch break and go and get something to eat, talk to at least one or two women on the way. It's not easy to get quickly into the right headspace from work, at least I'm not very good at that, but it does push you to keep your mind clean and tidy and free of baggage so that you are ready to put on a good impression on short notice.

Something I've learned when it comes to managing my time and resources is that when you are in a sub-optimal situation the best thing you can do is advance toward any small opportunity and strategize on how to best take advantage of it, because as you do, you naturally perceive more and more ways to capitalize on it that you didn't realize before. Whereas if you take one look and go 'it's not worth it', 'I'll wait for something better' etc your mind has nothing to adapt toward. Humans are adaptation machines, but to get there you have to put yourself in that spot and begin activity first.
 

DoWhatWorks

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+1 to Police Dog and Teevster's suggestions.

I posted a very similar question and got some great responses here

Most useful feedback I got was:

  • Have a main goal and another side one you add as "maintenance" it's extremely hard to grow & excel in new areas at the same time
    • e.g. if biz is higher priority than girls and you have appointments for both at same time, you re-schedule the date

  • Divide your year into quarters and decide what you'll focus on for each month. I also split my month into 3 weeks work mode, 1 week off and it worked really well for me personally too. On a macro level, Q1, early Q2 is amazing for dating while December is dead. Adjust your schedule/priortized time based on patterns of how people behave. It's why I only go out Saturday & Thursday now.

  • Make friends with "connectors" I.E people who're always sociable/going out. It means when you're in fun mode you have a reliable rolodex of people to go out with and you aren't starting from scratch when out of work mode
 
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