To kiss or not to Kiss?

[Raqimus]

I was in a bar with a dance floor recently, and I had a good night. It was great, I feel like there was a girl I could of pulled. In the back I heard her friends saying kiss her or something( I really starting to think I'm not crazy maybe my hearing is just really good...) So from the start she was over me and I'd moved things forward, I asked her a question about something unrelated to her living situation and knowing behold... she tells me about where she lives.. So i'm like okay should I try and pull? I try to do so, and it doesnt work. But she's still there with me and the tension is rising to incredibly levels. I end up licking her neck very quickly lmao (Afterwards I was like wtf why did I just do that). She still stayed and danced but I think the tension had gotten too high about a song or two later she left.

Main point is should I just make out with the chicks in bars when the sexual tension is too high if my goal is to take the girls back to their home.

 

[MisterTaco]

I was wondering the same thing. I've been stressinnnnnnnnn about whether or not to escalate with these girls in the club or just suggest to her we just bounce and go back to her place. I think it really depends but what I'm getting from these LR's is that he pattern is usually they isolate the girl, and escalate from there. I don't know if it has to do with being seen by the public or not but typically you only escalate and pull the trigger once you and her are alone and can bed her. This is coming from Chase's articles and some of the trends i've seen with guys who close. You never know though. Keep trying different things and it'll help you create better reference points in the future.

 

[Raqimus]

AHhhhh your right, I forgot about the whole isolation thing! Should've tried to move her somewhere else in the bar a bit more escalation friendly (for like a full on make out and shit)

With a quick peck however to lower the temperature I don't think it'll hurt too much maybe help... I'm gonna start trying it

 

[Bboy100]

These should help:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/tacti ... floor-game
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-k ... t-go-great

Basically, the answer is no. Not unless you REALLY know what you're doing (read the second article for more info on this). The reason being that A. kissing is a RELEASE of tension not a BUILDUP. In order to have sex, you want the tension high not low. Additionally, once you kiss her, she knows she "has" you. You lose a lot of your intrigue. Moreover, the main problem is that when you kiss a girl THEN try to pull her, she knows that you are asking for sex. Whereas if you pull her prior to kissing, she can rationalize it to herself that "she's only going to makeout with you" (realistically, she knows that's not true, but it helps her to not feel like a slut).

In my experience, if you still don't have a sexy vibe, and you know you can't pull her THAT NIGHT, it might be in your interest to kiss her anyways. The reason being that if you do nothing, you could miss an escalation window and lose her forever. But this is a last resort. Don't do this every time...going on a second date (or any date if you met her that night at the club and spent a significant amount of time with her)diminishes your chances of ever getting with her to begin with.

 

[Raqimus]

Okay, you two seem to have hit the nail on the head. It wouldnt be a full make out it would be more like the second situation you said Radeng, gonna give what you said a try next time I hit the bar/club scene

 

[mrgil]

I usually dont kiss girls at all when my intention with her is a one night stand, but sometimes I do. Those times its always just a short sexy heavy make out session right before i go for the pull.