Tom Torero-“ DayGame” Book Review

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Tom Torero-“ DayGame” Book Review

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In the years leading up to his death Tom Torero was seen as a controversial figure – 1. Due to hiring a prostitute for a kiss close – 2. Allegations for plagiarism in his book “street hustle” which seem quite justified. 3. For voice recording taking a polish woman’s virginity – for the record because I’m reviewing his books and im a fan of them doesn’t mean I don’t condone anything he’s done or think that his previous wrong actions should be ignored due to him writing some good books and giving good advice to me – which I believe personally resulted in me getting laid from daygame.

I think this book is great for beginners, gives good advice and is available for free. For those reasons it’s worth the review and despite his flaws I think this serves well to preserve his legacy. Despite Tom’s disadvantages of looking like an alien, being relatively low income compared to those around him, dealing with mental health issues and the disability of being Welsh (I’m joking) he pulled through to write some fantastic journals and give great advice to beginners of the daygame craft. He was also an extremely hard worker – something which I believe is missing in this generation of day gamers – his “can do” attitude was certainly something I didn’t see much of when I hit the streets between 2017 and 2022- People were either not approaching at all , stuck on telegram groups discussing approaches that they were never going to do, stuck reading “self help” procrastinating like Jordan Peterson books, pretended that they were a lot better at seducing than they actually were by taking pics with other people’s girlfriends and using them to look cool akin to Michael Sartain .

“Daygame” was is an important book in Tom Torero’s catalogue it begins with a very in-depth story about his life including his earlier battles with depression – Tom is actually one of the only pua coaches to marry younger than 25 before entering daygame. A unique insight into a life which had love albeit scarcely . His university life seems to be that of the classic nice guy- always wanting to make women happy and laugh but seemingly never getting laid and often friend zoned . However it’s not a complete dry spell that some pua coaches claim to have prior to becoming coaches. He did actually have a marriage whilst at Oxford university and shows enough smv to seemingly get laid and lose his virginity albeit he marries out of scarcity very young at 21. I mean this is young for anyone in the UK really as a white British man I’ve rarely met anyone marry at 21 even my ultra conservative religious friends were marrying more so in their mid 20s rather than their early 20s.

His story then hits deep after his divorce and being hooked on anti depressants – similar to Johnny Berba he had a somewhat isolated childhood being diagnosed with anxiety and depression but unlike Berba who was an academic failure Tom was an big success making it to Oxford and graduating in biochemistry – up there with the likes of Paul Janka (who went to Harvard) Nick Krauser ( who landed a 6 figure job after graduating and also was an academic succeess ) he can certainly qualify as a uber intellectual prior to pickup he wasn’t a complete bum akin to someone like Berba who failed school and became a postman prior to becoming a life coach.

There are lays as well as failures but he sets to it like a duck to water moving on from his divorce pretty quickly. There’s not much emotional attachment to any of his numerous lays which is a bit strange as opposed to Krauser who’s divorce seems to plague him throughout his journals ( I don’t see this as a sign of weakness by the way – divorces are tough and its entirely understandable to see it playing on someones conscious mind for years) He also never seems to particularly “fall in love” with his lays in contrast to James Marshall who In his autobiography A Natural History Falls deeply in love with a Ukrainian girl who uses him for a passport to get to Australia and then cheats on him. Tom appears to be extremely vanilla and indifferent throughout the book even when he courts a 10 or a catwalk model- which maybe could be why some people regard him as a sex addict. He seems to be on the chase throughout the journals – there’s never any time for attachment or feelings.

Therefore with this book what you see Is really what you get – its a raw insight into Tom Torrero’s life as a day gamer – it highlights his successes from the early 2010s- but most of these are continuous hookups with different women – there’s no relationship development akin to James Marshall’s A Natural History as mentioned prior which follows the end of Marshall as a day gamer and into a wedding and marriage that ultimately failed. Neither are there deep rooting connections like Nick Krauser’s Balls Deep nor does Torero really dwell on his divorce or failures for too long . I guess that was part of his strengths that he was good at moving on diligently but this leaves the book to offer little guidance for those who want real development on their relationships with women into girlfriend’s and wives but rather serves beginner day gamers better as guide on how to open, hook and close interactions. Its straight forward in it’s appeal which is what makes it good for those looking for more hookups off the street- but for those looking for the “next level” it could be seen as too one dimensional – I know that Torero spoke poorly of LTRs in his podcast but the fact that there’s so little relationship development between the girls could leave certain readers who want wives and girlfriends left wanting.

There is a good bit of info on entourage game with a lot of compliments towards one of his wingmen Beckster – his night game techniques are very highly rated by Tom and he clearly is a social circle expert – even viewing some reviews on the dating review website literally named “dating skills review” https://www.datingskillsreview.com/basic-bootcamp-pua-method-rob-kingy/ it’s clear that his students have big admiration for them. Tom shows a large degree of work ethic- really relentless teaching at a primary school during the day and day gaming until 10-11pm – a good eliminator of the weasel excuse that daygame takes “too much time” Furthermore Tom builds his social circle – approaching women in Leicester square before courting them at the club which Beckster works at . One time he even gets an entourage of 12 women from central London entirely from cold approaching on himself . The entourage game segment prevents the book from being too one dimensional and all about daygame but bearing in mind a lot of this was done in 2011-2012 before the era of instagram and Tinder it’s hard to see if the entourage game segment of this book is practical for the majority of readers- nevertheless Tom proved that with sheer will he was able on numerous occasions to create a great social circle out of nothing and show that he was more than a one trick pony day gamer.

It would’ve been nice to see some character development of the women like we saw in James Marshall’s book and Liam Mcrae’s Rapid Escalation – also a development of Tom’s emotions which we get in the first couple of chapters seems absent by the third and just evolves into a endless string of lay reports – I know this is not meant to be a fiction novel but the appeal of Liam Mcrae’s Rapid Escalation and Nick Krauser’s Ball’s Deep was that you got to really see the insights of the good women and bad women and their behaviours – I feel Tom could’ve developed this a bit more other than calling the Russian women “princesses” .Tom even states in the book that same day lays and quick rapid escalation may harm the potential to convert a relationship to a long term relationship and I tend to agree here. He gives some very important advice on the importance of building comfort when escalating and shows his progression through going thorough lmr really well.

Its clear that tom is very anti LTRs – which again is probably his weakest aspect of a coach – his advice will lead you to the hooks, to having sex, push pulling well on dates and bouncing but in terms of making a long term prospective relationship there is most likely better advice out there than there is here . I made the mistake in 2018-2019 in being too inundated in Tom Torero’s advice, being “too fuck boy” and ultimately not really developing my hook ups into something more tangible – always being afraid of being too needy. As a result the women I had sex with and wanted to make girlfriend’s ended up ditching me for other men after not trusting my “fuck boy” lifestyle and its important to differentiate that Tom Torero’s game to hook up is a lot different to the game that can cultivate proper – meaningful long term relationships which is what I was confused with as a beginner I was just stuck In the London daygame model tangent and didn’t manage the women’s expectations well – so before partaking in it be honest with yourself what you want from the women you game – whether you want short term flings or something more substantial you need to adjust your game for your own unique different relationship expectations .

The approaching advice is really practical and easy to read for newbies, throughout the book he drops good tidbits – this is practical , easy to apply advice that most beginners can quickly utilise. Bar the entourage game where I believe you really do need a good social circle to make it work in the modern world in 2025 – the rest I believe can be incorporated quickly by your average joes.

Tom spends little time talking about daygame blowouts- something which Nick Krauser and Liam Mcrae looked at exponentially to give people a realistic outlook – Tom bounces quickly from success to success ignoring the toughest part of daygame which is actually dealing with the rejections and the emotional battle that they entice. I think its important to emphasise statistically speaking that the majority of approaches will end up as no and in-between each daygame success is a lot of suffering and blow outs- so be sure to know this. The problem with “lay report” books is a lot of them don’t emphasise the tough mental challenge in-between the successes. The amount of mental discipline required should not be understated and Tom shows huge amounts to be able to balance a full time job and to do this at the same time really isn’t easy and his immense work ethic should not be understated. As I stated in previous blogs the majority of men simply give up too soon – they have a couple days of blow outs and they pack it in after a a few tough days. Daygame’s drop out rate is insane and you need to have a long term viewpoint of approaching of 1-2 years instead of just a single day or a couple of sets or you feel frustrated. Don’t expect to match Tom Torero’s results instantly – the learning curve of the first couple of months of daygame is huge/ mentally antagonising and brutal which should not be understated.

One of my favourite daygamers Nick Krauser makes an appearance towards the end of the book – he doesn’t get the big praise as his wingmen as Beckster gets however. Sasha Daygame also gets a bit of praise at the beginning for his funny style securing some phone numbers. I’d say they those three are the biggest “guest appearances in this book.

It’s interesting that Tom says the majority of his flakes came from English girls and that they played more games and tended were masculine – I found this to be true in my daygame journey as well – the tendency for English women to be a lot more combative , the same with the Australians and the Canadians – though I was able to get the dates and hooks in the interactions the dates and mind games played on the dates made it harder to lead the situation than Eastern European,Latino and South East Asian girls. I just find in general that English/ Australian / Canadian women were more insecure on dates and I found their situations harder to read . I stopped approaching English women in 2019 after a horrid double date with 2 med students left me feeling like I’d wasted my time – I’d rather date more feminine women who actually let me lead instead of masculine English women who are constantly combative and trying to hold the frame. Such frustrating incidents occurred in 2014 when I was day gaming (well It was a one off approach in a hostel rather than proper street game) in Cambodia after making out and securing the number of an Aussie girl she invited me that night out only to take me all the way back to her place and leave me on her doorstep- a similar incident happened in Antigua-Guatemala in 2017 when a hot Aussie blond who I kiss closed in a pub seemingly cock teased me the whole night despite her being the one to call me on the phone and initiate the meet-up (i’d never had a woman directly call me and ask me out before – so i had high hopes) a further date the next day resulted in nothing- she seemed tense and insecure – i’d assumed she’d been lied and cheated on in the paste because she said the most attractive thing about me was my honesty , she also said i wasn’t particularly handsome and if she saw me on a dating app she wouldn’t swipe right which goes to prove that game and vibe can make a difference – in the end i just left it as it seemed like a lost cause.

i’d had many other such incidents with Canadians and English over the years facing a lot more indecisiveness from them on dates making it hard to lead and be “masculine” in the interactions. Of course im not saying all western women are like this indeed in this book Torero achieves some solid results – hooking and closing a professional women’s English Chelsea fc footballer- so his results are there even with “difficult” women. Along with Russians, Turks, muslims etc. he seems to have a wide range of successes with different races and proves that daygame can really push one beyond ones limits.

One surprise is there’s very little that Tom talks about actual SMV, which may leave some beginners readers a bit flummoxed – Tom says on his podcasts that low smv individuals can succeed in the dating world which I really don’t believe in – I think SMV is really important akin to what Krauser does who emphasises the importance of sexual market value to dating success – Tom doesn’t (bar a few pages on the importance of style) which I feel can potentially lead people in the wrong direction . He’s certainly very focused in this book just opening new girls hooking up constantly and moving on to more and more women. He forgets to really mention important shit regarding SMV which other coaches like Krauser and James Marshall build on better in their respective autobiographies. One could say this was a marketing trick designed to give hope to everyone in order to sell coaching to everyone – and I see that in coaches that say “looks don’t matter “height doesn’t matter” ‘Money doesn’t matter” It all fucking matters and the more you have of each thing the better.

But having said that Tom is still tall , a oxbridge graduate , world traveller who had a good strong social circle thanks to Beckster – he had some SMV – not a huge amount but by no means 0 . Some may read this book and deceivingly think all they have to do is approach but I believe that’s a bit too one dimensional a look.

At his peak he fucks catwalk models, Aussie 10s and even a famous Swedish media news reporter. Showing with the smv he has he clearly has overachieved but make no bones to pick about it . Tom Torero’s work ethic and diligence is impressive. He went out every day after work whilst having a full time job for a whole year – proving that Time is just an excuse that people make to avoid doing the hard sets and committing long term – most people quit after a couple of days of game – but Tom keeps going for 365 days a year a feat which barely any of the new “gen z” gamers can achieve . Genuinely it was difficult to find someone who went out 2 or 3 times a week yet alone everyday.

But there are moments in the bookwhere he stumbles – often times being too arrogant and escalating too fast with not building enough comfort- this usually happens ironically after his most successful lays and for me I found my dates which took place after some of my best lays from daygame to be the least successful as the cockiness and ego fuelled by my successful results in coming across as arrogant and not focusing on building enough rapport- Tom is also honest about daygame burnout and how doing too much can affect the quality of interactions and dates – although the majority of men in the pua community usually do way too little rather than too much – its still important to stay humble and show patience sometimes during dates and interactions. Too much escalation too soon can ruin things – cause lmr and potentially turn “promising maybes” into “nos”

To conclude I believe for anyone starting off in the daygame hustle that “daygame” is credible reading material – the events in this book take place between 2011-2014 but I think the vast majority of the information displayed is still very much valuable in todays world. I’d say around 80-90 percent of it – its sad to see no real LTR development here or advice given so for those seeking girlfriends and LTRs as their current dating goal maybe this book isn’t for them but still when it comes to interactions and first dates I don’t see many better in the business than Torero.

The book is available free and is probably more practical than a lot of paid seduction books out there. His experiences hopefully are cherished and inspire the next generation of day gamers to hit the streets.

To Read this book for free: https://archive.org/details/daygame-a-street-seducers-journey

Score: 8/10