Tom's journey

[Tommy]

So today after reading articles and purchasing Chase's book I decided to start a journal to keep track of my progress. So first of all about me:
I'm a 20year old white upper middle class guy who lives and studies (3rd year) in a university town in the New Zealand. I'm above average in looks especially due to working on my fundamentals. I'm fit due to a bit of a gym addiction and from playing rugby. I have a large social circle which is where I have meet most of the women I have slept with. I've slept with about 30 odd women and recently, again due to this site, have been performing well!
Weaknesses though: admittedly, I don't have the thickest member :/ oh well, just have to work harder I guess! I have a natural low confidence deep down, but that's certainly improving. I have a bit of a 'worthless player' vibe about me as chase describes in one article. Also due to playing the 'jock' sport around here and being otherwise enveloped in uni or else out partying I feel as though I'm not particularly interesting to a really interesting girl. That's one thing about my town the drinking culture here is notorious! So avoiding getting roped into heavy drinking can be tough. But by far my biggest weakness is my lack of smoothness. Dialling down my reactions has been a real struggle so that is really my biggest focus.
So my goals are:
Dial down reactions, work on smoothness and effort
Become a fantastic lover, to fantastic woman (raise standards with woman! But still take plenty of lovers without damaging my value.)
Develop mystery and maybe expand my lifestyle to be more interesting.
Raise my value to those around me in general.
Develop a day game!
Will soon post a complete run-down of my plan of attack, as well as an initial report into my recient activity as things have been very interesting, but I'm on my phone at the moment so I'll do that tonight. Cheers!

 

[Tommy]

So in the end i just totally forgot about my big plans to keep an updated journal going, useless from me! But tonight I start again! So much has happened since my last post but the main things that you need to know are:
I'm regularly sleeping with 1-3 girls, but never with anyone exceptional, and with very little turnover of girls (both of which I'd like to change)
I'm half a dozen off having laid 50 different girls!
I'm getting rather sick of drinking, so I'm really keen to get into day game.
I've found Hector Castillo's articles really inspiring, I'm trying to add some arrogance to myself which is really tough, and I'm meeting some pretty serious resistance(?) from my friends.
Major focuses are smoothness, eye contact, approach anxiety (during day game mostly) and voice. Conversation skills are a constant work on too.
I get a lot of attention for girls when I'm walking around, but talking to them (unless I know them) is another story.

Today I did my first truly cold day game approach at the university library. I saw a cute girl checking me out from across the room and I decided to have a go. I walked off pretending to go toilet or something, but once i was in position to approach I'd built myself up way too much and chickened out! I sat back down and felt like an idiot. Then I thought fuck it, stood up again (she notices me and knows somethings up i think!) and walk right up to her:
"Hi, I saw you from over there and I just had to come and tell you, you're really cute! I'm Tom" -said as a wispier haha
"oh hey! I'm..." The rest is a total blur, I can't even remember her name! disaster! I remember fumbling through some conversation, completely failing to show any intention, and otherwise making a real mess of the situation. She was nice about It and just seemed a bit confused really. So weird because once I was next to her I realised she wasn't even all that pretty. I suppose I just built up the situation too much in my head by not approaching sooner. Thing is though, that rush is was awesome. I was buzzing afterwards and I can't wait to have another go at this tomorrow! I'll be focusing on having a bit of a process for next time and I'll try the street or campus instead of library!

cheers brothers
Tom

 

[ray_zorse]

Cold approaching will really do wonders for your conversation, you may have to speak to a few hundred or more girls to level up but it really does help. I recall a post of Chase's in which he noted "I nearly always know the right thing to say in any given situation" (although this sounds egotistical he was actually being self deprecating in noting that plenty of girls reject him despite his good game), and practice really does make perfect. I can certainly help with some suggestions for how to conduct yourself, but I suggest you search my recent posts for keywords like "cold read" and "suggestion" and "conversation" since I posted on this a lot.
Ray

 

[Tommy]

Thanks man really appreciate the reply, will be doing a bit of research so I have a good POA

 

[Tommy]

Done a few more approaches over the last few days with mostly good results; I'm certainly smoother and more confident. I've got one more day in a big city so i guess i should probably go out and do some day game?! After that i head to china to meet my dad. I have no idea about what kind of opportunities to practice game I'll get there, so I'll make the major focus conversational and non verbal I think. If anyone has any tips for Beijing and Shanghai let me know!

Cheers
Tom

 

[Tommy]

Been a while since I made a post, but I've come across an issue in my love life and I would love your guys help with it.

Ever had one of those girls who you know can orgasm and has done so before, but you just can't seem to do it for her? that's what I'm getting with this one girl I'm seeing. Thing is, my fundamentals are really tight (she's always telling me I'm super hot and sexy etc) and I'm obviously not bad in bed so she still invites me round, but what i really want is to watch her scream and come for me like crazy. Has anyone had any issues with this situation before and ended up solving it? keeping in mind I'm using adapted missionary mostly, what was the key you found? thrust angle, was your rhythm off or too slow, did you start talking dirty to her more, prolong forplay?
DO i just pound her harder? I just can't see how you could pound as hard as you could for 15mins straight without getting tired, sweaty and keep a full blown hard on.

I don't just want to be another guy she's fucked because even though we are secret lovers at the moment, our social circles overlap and this could potentially give me some very promising pre selection.

Any ideas you have are appreciated, till then I'll be trying on my own

Tom

 

[ray_zorse]

My girls generally don't come from vaginal sex, I have read the article on adapted missionary and it says they should be able to do this, however I have my doubts. I'm sure I could get better at adapted missionary/vaginal sex but at the same time, the amount of concentration and sustained buildup and uninterrupted stimulation/rhythm they need to come in the normal scheme of things convinces me that the article may be glossing over some aspects.

I don't think I am a bad lover, I always attend to her pleasure (even when she thinks she doesn't want me to), and make her come, usually by licking her clit with or without fingers in her cunt (some girls require this, some do not), sometimes with manual stimulation and/or a toy, however, usually not at the same time as my pleasure. I often but not always come from vaginal sex but I require slower, deeper thrusts to get there, I will give her a pounding also, like you described, but it doesn't get me where I need to go, so maybe she's picking up on this?

Anyway, I'd recommend you concentrate on making her come by other means, like I do atm. Another thing not to neglect is the dominance (tying her up, slapping her, calling her a slut or cum slut, having her beg for your come on her face and that kind of thing) as this will make her much hornier. (There may be exceptions but I haven't encountered any, nobody has used the safe word etc, they love it). Look up the orgasm torture too, this really helps her come.

Ray