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Too much contact... red flag?

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Cro-Magnon Man
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Hey,

So I need some input on this.
I got this girls number before the weekend. She's pretty cute, I like girls within a year or two of my own age, she's around 3 years younger, not a huge deal or anything and she's pretty cute.

Anyway, after getting the number we shot a few messages back and forth and I set up a meeting for this weekend.
Here's the thing though, she's messaging me a lot the last few days trying to talk. Sometimes just shooting the breeze, sometimes very flirty and sometimes just asking me questions, (things I like and do, the usual...)
She's not being clingy, stalkery, crazy or anything, it's just that she's messaging me a lot so she's obviously very interested.

But what would you guys make of it?
Maybe I'm a little taken a back because I've been dealing with some uber-hard-to-get playing type girls lately so this is like a total 180.

But is this a red flag? Or not?

Like, she's obviously really into me, if I push things fast with her, would she likely become clingy?
Or can this just be a sign she's just into me?

What do you guys think?
 

Little Jester

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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I say no red flag there. Just a girl who likes to text you, her friends, her parents. It's probably just a hobby of hers. When she's bored, she takes her phone out and starts texting people she likes. And she def likes you. Don't read too much into it. Different girl, different personality. Like you said, not a hard to get type, but more a open chatty type. It's okay.

Only advise would be, if you're not into long text conversations (and why would you), just don't be available for them. If you don't get the expectations up that whenever she sends a message, that you will reply real soon, you'll also don't have to be part of them in future and she will start texting you less often as a result.
 

charming

Cro-Magnon Man
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Have you read 20 texting tips? I think Chase gives some spot on advice. A technique I've also used with great success is responding with the following to any non logistical text. "You'll have to save that question till we see each other next." Then ask for the date. This shows your mysterious and you want to see them again.

Remember you're a sexy man with many options and a busy life. You don't have time to sit around all day texting. Don't let them start thinking something different. Otherwise, they'll be happy to be your friend and let a sexy man be their lover! ;)
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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Thanks Charming,
So the reality is, I've cut short the interactions a lot. I genuinely haven't had time these past few days.
I've read Chases article and set the date up right away.

I guess my question was more on reading HER. Like is her acting overly eager any sort of negative sign for what might be to come.

Anyway, I think she's settled down. I said a few times I'll chat to her more in person and kept my answers short and think she's been cool with that since then.
I was just trying to pick up on any needy vibes she might have been giving off.
 
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