Took home girl from bar. Ran into her again. Was this a good move?

[pishamunim]

Met a girl at the bar about a week ago. Really cute. Got her number, and she came home with me that night. I only went out to to have a beer and hang out with a couple friends, I wasn't shooting to pick anyone up. She approached me. I actually didn't really remember until after she mentioned it, but she said she knew me from somewhere a couple years ago and that she'd been into me, but because reasons, couldn't get into any trouble with me.

Went out again last night. Ran into the same girl. I was kinda wondering if I'd bump into her, but again I was just going out to hang out with a couple mates and have a beer or two. One guy's like "yeah I seen her up her a couple times since that night, she's been hanging all over guys each time." I don't care, it's not like this chick's my girlfriend or whatever, she's just a lady at the bar I spent the night with once.

So I'm not there for that, but she's got this dude chatting her up. There are a couple times she looks over and waves, I wave back, give her a wink. Later she looks like she's about to leave right as I'm about to get up and pee and grab another beer. So on the way, I come up to her while this dude's working on her, I get in her ear, and I tell her "not tomorrow, but some morning soon you're gonna wake up with me again. I'm not finished with you." I'm not really invested and I don't care, I'm mostly just drunk. She's like "sure, okay" and the guy kinda makes a weird sound. I walked away, went to the bathroom, ordered my next beer, and my buddy's like "damn what did you say" so I told him. I wasn't watching, but apparently the dude got all huffy afterwards and they left together. Buddy says, "damn mate I think you really are finished with her after that though lol"

I wouldn't mind one more roll in the hay with this dame. Think I might text her later in the week, but I've also got someone in the background that I'm working on getting an actual relationship started with. Assuming that doesn't pan out, you think bar girl will be back after that? Like was that a suave ballsy move, or a clowny drunk guy move, or a chickenshit "i'm too scared to talk to you so i'm gonna say something weird in your ear right as you're leaving" move? Not gonna lose any sleep over it either way. Never just brought a girl home from the bar before -- even if she is the kind that apparently does that often, it's still pretty good for the old self-esteem I guess. Feels cool even if it doesn't happen again, but think she'll come back? Do I text her later this week or let it go? If I bump into her again (I guess we're regulars at the same place), how should I manage that?

 

[mist]

Props for your boldness. I personally do not think this was a great move but props haha

If a dude said that to a girl while I was in set I’m pretty sure we’d laugh at him. It’d become cringy callback humor and I’d implicitly place myself as not cringe like him then I’d try to isolate away from him and make a deeper bubble

Creepy dudes are great for moving girls because they want to leave him.

You don’t seem to have oneitis and you’re meeting more women so what I would say is probably already what you are doing.

I would ask if you understand calibration and if you atleast stuck around long enough to hear her tone, see her body language, take note of the eye contact.

I will add this though.

Were you really paying attention to her before and after you said that line? You would know more than us if this went well. Bold moves often read retarded.

It’s because we don’t have context behind the boldness or much detail around it unless given. What we have right now is

You said the line.
She said “ Sure Ok.”
The guy got mad.
You walked away to your buddies.
They left together.
You stayed chilling with your buddies.

I’m not gonna harp on you too much since you were drunk and this shit is funny.

It happens to the best of us and hell maybe this line isn’t dumb. Maybe I am. You’ve only used it on one girl so far. And perhaps I’m reading it wrong since I wasn’t there and I’m playing the scene in my head with my beliefs.

Maybe that guy got mad because her “ Sure Ok.” Was enthusiastic and thirsty. You didn’t really say. It’s up to my imagination.

Plus hey If you’re doing this right you’re bound to have moments like this. Sometimes she likes it too. You essentially said you wanted to see her again and fuck her and she said “ Sure ok.” I imagine this being said in a very creeped out way, but I admit maybe it’s different. Idk

Only time and what you do next will tell if this move was doodoo or gold regarding this girl. I doubt she’ll come for you first, but hey the game can be wild sometimes.

Nice job getting laid and goodluck with this other girl you’re trying to start with.

 

[pishamunim]

Yeah, it's possible her "sure ok" was said in a creeped out way! Could be that they had a laugh and made sport of me quite a bit afterwards, I have no idea! Coulda been a totally shit thing to do, I'll admit. Doesn't affect me either way though. I'm still going back and hanging out, and if we run into each other and she remembers me as the drunk guy who said the dumb loser thing, it's really no skin off my ass. I mean, I told a girl I slept with that I wanted to do it again sometime, I don't think that's too reputation damaging of a thing.

I'll try to provide a little more context. I showed up. I notice she's there. I'm hanging out. She acknowledges my presence by looking over, giving me a smile and a wave. Looking back on it at this point, I guess that shoulda been my cue to say hi, but my drunk ass is thinking that by not doing that, I'm playing it cool and not coming off as overeager or needy.

So when I eventually go and say the thing, I don't honestly know if he was working on her or what (since I wrote the original post my mate told me that he didn't actually leave with her, he saw the dude again later). I said the thing, and now that I think about it I want to say that the "sure ok" had a quality of sarcasm (surrrrrre, oooooookayy) but I've been known to misjudge this exact thing. I didn't stick around to gauge her or the guy's reaction, my drunk train of thought was that I'd put the thought into her head that, hey, the next time we see each other...

You know? It made sense to me at the time. But I've been wondering about it, haha, hence the post. Will admit it is pretty funny shit though, good move or terrible.

 

[pishamunim]

And hey, the goal is to have fun, and I'm laughing about it, so I win either way. She can laugh with me, or at me, it's her business, but I'm still laughing!