Touchy Feely Girlfriend

[pks391]

How should a guy deal with a gf who is all touchy feely with her close/regular male friends.
The touching includes playful punches, arm pinching, hand tapping and cheek touching.
Should this be a cause for concern????? It really annoys me to no end as she does this alot. I get negative feelings which i don't want to have as it makes me seem weak and also messes up my mind. How should i deal with this like a strong man? Should I be jealous and tell her off or should i just smile and lay back in an amusing way?

 

[ray_zorse]

A few questions...
Are you having sex every time you hang out?
Are you using adapted missionary, grinding into that snatch until she cums every time?
Are you always building compliance "Honey display this parking ticket in the windscreen while I get the gear ready" or "Mix us some drinks honey" etc.
Are you leading strongly, her: "what will we do today?" you: "how about a walk around the lake followed by coffee and chilling at home".
Are you breezing past her tests, her: "your fashion sucks", you: "(laughs) according to you", her: "don't wear the red jumper", you: "the red jumper coordinates with the tan pants and grey scarf, but if u care about coordination go ahead and change YOUR outfit baby", her: "(test passed) I will wear the red coat then" -- and are you setting firm boundaries to her?
Are you regularly getting out, meeting new people, flirting with girls?
Are you also pursuing your life goals such as study, career, financial etc?
If you answered YES to most of these questions YOU are the SHIT, she gets an experience with you she cannot get anywhere else. In Franco's words, do not undervalue the man GC teaches you to be. She won't cheat or leave. Let her touch dudes, it does no harm. Just makes them feel good and her be popular. I really like people who touch a lot. Realize that if you have a gf who is kind and hot it will attract people around you guys. That's a GOOD thing. Don't be jealous. But if you MUST do anything, try to flirt more with the girls in your group. Give her a taste of her own medicine. This is not normally necessary, or at least it's normally a VERY infrequent thing once she knows you can get girls. You must continue to flirt in order to keep yourself sharp and in abundance. But you do not need to do it in front of her... unless u think she is misbehaving.
Ray

 

[ProblemSolving]

If these are guys she's known for a long time then there's nothing really to be worried about. She more than likely views them as male girlfriends at this point - devoid of any sexual feelings. If they are fairly new guys in her life, then it's cause for concern.

The easiest way to determine your relationship health is to look at how much she initiates contact with you. If she's initiating 80-100% of the contact and enthusiastically meeting up for dates, then her focus will be you and only you. If she's not chasing, then it means either you have been chasing her or you've let things get a little stale. In which case, throwing some insecurity her way is in order.

 

[pks391]

A few questions...
Are you having sex every time you hang out?
Are you using adapted missionary, grinding into that snatch until she cums every time?
Are you always building compliance "Honey display this parking ticket in the windscreen while I get the gear ready" or "Mix us some drinks honey" etc.
Are you leading strongly, her: "what will we do today?" you: "how about a walk around the lake followed by coffee and chilling at home".
Are you breezing past her tests, her: "your fashion sucks", you: "(laughs) according to you", her: "don't wear the red jumper", you: "the red jumper coordinates with the tan pants and grey scarf, but if u care about coordination go ahead and change YOUR outfit baby", her: "(test passed) I will wear the red coat then" -- and are you setting firm boundaries to her?
Are you regularly getting out, meeting new people, flirting with girls?
Are you also pursuing your life goals such as study, career, financial etc?
If you answered YES to most of these questions YOU are the SHIT, she gets an experience with you she cannot get anywhere else. In Franco's words, do not undervalue the man GC teaches you to be. She won't cheat or leave. Let her touch dudes, it does no harm. Just makes them feel good and her be popular. I really like people who touch a lot. Realize that if you have a gf who is kind and hot it will attract people around you guys. That's a GOOD thing. Don't be jealous. But if you MUST do anything, try to flirt more with the girls in your group. Give her a taste of her own medicine. This is not normally necessary, or at least it's normally a VERY infrequent thing once she knows you can get girls. You must continue to flirt in order to keep yourself sharp and in abundance. But you do not need to do it in front of her... unless u think she is misbehaving.
Ray

Thanks for your reply Ray, i appreciate it....
Yes she does get a unique experience with me and she has admitted as such......
I was simply concerned if it was something worth the worry....your post cleared that up......

 

[pks391]

I'd agree with Ray on what you should be doing.

But I'd disagree that this alone will keep all girls with you.

My answer here:
It depends.

Some girls are touchy, but won't let guys invade their space. They are in control and keep it that way. Other girls do it for validation and the right guy will know how to capitalize on her flirtatious ways. You have to view the whole interactions and judge. Can't tell from just being touchy feely. Is she doing it from a place of insecurity and validation with guys she doesn't know that well? That's a generally bad sign in my book. Is she doing it only with close friends? Does it make you feel disrespected.

Be careful in your evaluation of this.

Radeng

Thanks Radeng,
The only thing i seen her let other guys pinch her and punch her but thats it.....

 

[pks391]

If these are guys she's known for a long time then there's nothing really to be worried about. She more than likely views them as male girlfriends at this point - devoid of any sexual feelings. If they are fairly new guys in her life, then it's cause for concern.

The easiest way to determine your relationship health is to look at how much she initiates contact with you. If she's initiating 80-100% of the contact and enthusiastically meeting up for dates, then her focus will be you and only you. If she's not chasing, then it means either you have been chasing her or you've let things get a little stale. In which case, throwing some insecurity her way is in order.

Thanks ProblemSolving,
She does initiate a healthy amount of time....i guess judging from the various replies that this mostly was me being a bit paranoid......