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Transition from her ambiguity to a date?

Railer

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Chat her up in a club. Got the number fast after a very short interaction. She may have seen me talking to other girls afterwards. Her messages in bold, last one just came in a couple of hours ago:

"Hey, lets go for ice cream :) when are you free in the next couple of days?"
"Hi :) had a nice remaining evening right.. i don't have so much time now"
"that's ok. in this case we gotta use that little time well by showing up on time ... even if that's tough for me :D"
"haha yeah we could do that :)"
"where are you usually ... and when are you able to schedule something?"
"What do you mean by where I am?"
"I guess we'll find some time this week."
"[I meant] if you were living directly in [city] :) we could go to the lake in the afternoon."
"No i don't live there"
"So we gotta find something between where I live and your 'i don't live there' :D tomorrow early evening or which day during this week?"
"Well tomorrow is impossible"
"Haha :) I live in [town]"
"hehe ok. hm I guess that were three times I asked for a precise day. you're the busy one so planning the next attempt is on you :) once your schedule permits, just let me know when and where."
"Haha yeye i don't plan so much in advance. i'm rather spontanous :) yes i'll do that. unfortunately I really always have somethings to do. it's heavy"
"okay. spontanous is a quality one can work with [smirk] so, get in touch :)"
"aha [smirk] ok. I'll do :)"

Just as in the other interaction (viewtopic.php?f=3&t=14442), you'll notice that I'm very kind (Drck, you calling it "beta"), but since my dating success (actual lays) doubled since I focus on attainability, I'm currently going to this "extreme" intentionally. (I do realize that I may need to re-implement some value-based game for certain types of girls.)

Anyway, the question is how to get girls who are in such an "evasive mode" to a date?

As opposed to the other post I mentioned, maybe this girl just needed to feel a little safer - maybe calling her would've helped. Maybe what I did will work and she'll actually get back in a couple of days. Who knows.

"i don't have so much time now. --- I guess we'll find some time this week. --- Well tomorrow is impossible" ... according to Chase, ambiguity means interest - but how can this ambiguity be overcome to get to actual results (a meet)?
 

Smith

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Yea I think calling right away is a great idea. I have yet to try this out, but something I've heard from RSDMadison is that you want to come from the frame of seeing if this date is going to be worth your time and show empathy as well. so I would text something like "hey I'll call you in 5 mins and we'll get to know each other more so we don't waste our time =)" when she agrees to a date. Here's his video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsYLlwEmT64
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers
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