Trivial, but curious.

[OldSelf]

My father and I were on the phone recently, and he asked me about my job at some restaurant.

Him: Still working at the _____?

Me: Eh, Kinda. It's been really slow.

Him: Ah, okay.

--

I see his friend later that week and he starts off with, "Oh, you're father told me you got fired from your job?"

I replied with, "Fired? No, I left it, it was too slow."

My question is, why do people try and fish out information by changing what they heard? When I hear things like that, I instantly want to discriminate against them. It sounds manipulative.

How would you answer this question?

 

[Chase]

ST-

It's all communication problems...!

You think you're communicating one thing. Your listener hears something different. He communicates what he heard to someone else, who hears something still more different.

e.g.:

• ST says: "Kinda, but it's been real slow lately."
  
  ST's Dad hears: "The restaurant's been cutting ST's hours."
  
  ...
  
  ST's Dad says: "They've been cutting my kid's hours."
  
  ST's Dad's friend hears: "They're firing ST's kid."

Chase

 

[OldSelf]

Thanks Chase.

Sounds a bit like victim mentality (paranoia) kicking in. Up to me to stop it!

Cheers,

ST