This post is too general. A more detailed response containing the interaction in detail with said females would help give a more nuanced response.
For now, it appears to want a short answer so here it is:
Search for 'attainability' on the GC website. It'll give you nail on the coffin answers/articles.
For now, it appears to want a short answer so here it is:
Search for 'attainability' on the GC website. It'll give you nail on the coffin answers/articles.
Just be a bit nicer. You can be a sweetheart and get laid. Also deep-dive and make them feel like you care about them, that you don't do this with everyone, even if you do. Everyone wants to feel special.
Then again...don't take that too far and be a bitch. It's all about dat balance.
Then again...don't take that too far and be a bitch. It's all about dat balance.
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Are you a dick to women because you think it'll get you laid? If so, stop that. Unless you know exactly what you're doing and its a part of your actual personality, this won't work for you.
Are you being aloof/distant in order to seem higher status or to make her work for it? If so, stop that as well. Not only is this needy, but it also doesn't work on 90% of women.
Do you just not give a shit about these women thereby causing you to give off a vibe of attainability? If so, figure out why that is and resolve it.
So what should you do?
Confidence+Warmth. You can keep whatever it is that makes girls like you. But also radiate warmth, and kindness.
For a more specific answer, you'll have to give us more details.
Are you being aloof/distant in order to seem higher status or to make her work for it? If so, stop that as well. Not only is this needy, but it also doesn't work on 90% of women.
Do you just not give a shit about these women thereby causing you to give off a vibe of attainability? If so, figure out why that is and resolve it.
So what should you do?
Confidence+Warmth. You can keep whatever it is that makes girls like you. But also radiate warmth, and kindness.
For a more specific answer, you'll have to give us more details.
BBoy basically gave you the lowdown on your issue. Figure out which one of these it is, and solve the root problem. Might not be a quick fix, but as long as you're aware of the cause, you can work on fixing it.
I used to tease the **** out of girls, but it didn't work because it discourages emotional connections. You're doing way too much push, and not enough pull. The better looking you are, the more valuable, charming, attractive you are in her eyes, the more you need to pull. If you push, it just creates distance.
It's easier to push (eg. tease, make fun of, break rapport, etc) because it's easier to hide behind a pretense of being disinterested. It takes more emotional strength and security to pull someone in (ie. complimenting a woman sincerely, showing your interest with no subterfuge or apologies) and doing it in a way that is smooth and natural to her.
It's more effective to pull more often than to push her away. You want her to feel connected to you, not emotionally distant. It's probably difficult for you to express yourself honestly without any pretenses or jokes or teasing. That's because it requires vulnerability. You don't have to be vulnerable when you're teasing a girl. It takes vulnerability to signal your interest, especially verbally.
I used to tease the **** out of girls, but it didn't work because it discourages emotional connections. You're doing way too much push, and not enough pull. The better looking you are, the more valuable, charming, attractive you are in her eyes, the more you need to pull. If you push, it just creates distance.
It's easier to push (eg. tease, make fun of, break rapport, etc) because it's easier to hide behind a pretense of being disinterested. It takes more emotional strength and security to pull someone in (ie. complimenting a woman sincerely, showing your interest with no subterfuge or apologies) and doing it in a way that is smooth and natural to her.
It's more effective to pull more often than to push her away. You want her to feel connected to you, not emotionally distant. It's probably difficult for you to express yourself honestly without any pretenses or jokes or teasing. That's because it requires vulnerability. You don't have to be vulnerable when you're teasing a girl. It takes vulnerability to signal your interest, especially verbally.
