Truth's Newbie Assignment - 14 Day Challenge

[Truth]

Two days ago my roommate (who I consider to be a natural) let me in on a little secret, after we had had a few beers. He told me that he had been chatting with some of our mutual friends, and they had said to him, "Yea, Truth is really attractive. If only he had game." That comment has haunted me.

It's time I finally admit to myself that I really don't have any game - all of my success can be attributed to my attractiveness (sorry for the lack of modesty). But I'm not here to complain; I'm here to fix it.

Starting today, I'll be doing the 14 day newbie challenge. I'm fortunate enough to be a freshman on a college campus, where beautiful girls are plentiful and are trying to meet interesting people. I can't wait to get started, and thank you all in advance for your advice and accountability.

 

[Truth]

Day... 0?

Day 0
It's funny how the world works. Sometimes you have a burning desire to get something done, and the universe seems to conspire against you.

Today, I woke up and realized I felt like shit. I had a fever and felt pretty nauseous. I skipped both of my classes and spent the entire day trying to rest. I'm feeling a bit better now, but unfortunately I wasn't able to start the challenge today. However, that's not to say I didn't put any thought into it.

I'm pretty sure that two of the four venues I will choose are going to be all-you-can-eat food locations around campus. Both have the right kind of atmosphere and location to make it perfect for meeting new people. What's awesome about these places too is that people are almost hoping that you'll come introduce yourself - I know my roommate has done it multiple times already.

The next venue I think I'll try is the gym. We have a pretty sizable fitness facility here that's pretty crowded throughout the day. Not only could I meet women by just talking to them as they walk on the treadmill, but the fitness center also offers group classes here that are pretty social themselves.

Finding a final one is giving me trouble. I could do the library, but I know I don't like to be disturbed while I'm there, even if it was by a cute girl. I could choose the popular paths around campus, but most people have a place to be which would make it pretty hard to stop a girl and start a conversation, plus I'd have to stop biking everywhere which is something I'd prefer not to do. We have a place where people play games in our student center, and I'll check that out tomorrow to see if there are enough girls who go there to make it worth it. I guess the final option is to choose another dining location on campus, but I want to try to diversify as much as possible... I'll think on all of this and get back to y'all!

 

[Mr.Rob]

Fuck yeah someone doing the Newbie Assignment!

Don't puss out! Pimp it son!

Lol

Good to have you on board.

-Rob

 

[ray_zorse]

Agreed -- props to you for tackling this

If you are gonna try the gym check out Chase's recent article, something like "3 unconventional but great places to meet new women", apologies that I'm lazy and can't be bothered coaxing my phone to embed a link but as you're a high value man I'm sure you can find the article the upshot is the gym is more like social circle, you have to go under the radar a bit and use hit/run or comfort building strategies rather than just burning it down. Although in the early stages of the newbie assignment you only have to compliment a woman etc and you can do this fine in the gym eg. The other day "I could not help noticing your coordinated outfit, the top works really well with the sneakers"... it would be best to use the early days to get yourself comfortable in places with more long term prospects for day game.

I'd suggest --
shopping mall &/or specific places in the shopping mall, department store, supermarket, bookstore etc
shopping street -- go where there's lots of boutique stores up and down the street, probably there will be food places and all manner of other shops mixed in, or if its a pedestrian only mall
main train station, especially if it's multi use, has shops etc above it
on public transport
Starbucks -- choose a large busy one
anywhere on campus -- library sounds fine as you suggest, except silent areas

The advantage of these places is they are really completely anonymous so you can totally just burn it down and experimentcwith crazy stuff such as taking a woman's hand and leading her someplace, etc. Even though I'm somewhat calibrated after hundreds of approaches I still fucked one up the other day and creeped a girl out, was a bit worried she might call security (in the shopping mall) and burn me, even though it was an innocent misunderstanding. So it doesn't hurt to think ahead a bit and choose your location with this in mind.

cheers, Ray

 

[Truth]

Fuck yeah someone doing the Newbie Assignment!

Don't puss out! Pimp it son!

Lol

Good to have you on board.

-Rob

Thanks! Really excited to get this started

 

[Truth]

Agreed -- props to you for tackling this
I'd suggest --
...
on public transport
anywhere on campus -- library sounds fine as you suggest, except silent areas

cheers, Ray

Hey Ray, thanks for the advice. I definitely want to keep my locations on campus, primarily because I don't have a car and it will be far easier to hit all of these locations if they are close... however I may make an exception for public transportation. We have a free bus system here for students that loops around the campus that gets pretty heavy traffic from walkers and commuters. I've only been on it once, but I'll check it out again today and see if it's worth it.


Another thing I forgot to mention in my Day 0 post...

I plan to completely stop reading all the theory that's out there. While it's all great, I think it takes away from actually going out and DOING something. Plus, I don't want to be constantly inside my head thinking of what I should be doing. So for now, I'll only be going back to readings if there is a specific situation I encounter that I'm not sure how to address. I believe this will be the most efficient route.

 

[ray_zorse]

Yes, I totally agree, I pretty much stopped reading articles around the time I started approaching, for the exact same reason. I have however found Chase's book to be a useful reference, will probably read it for the 3rd or 4th time soon. One tip, maintain your fundamentals, I was thinking last night that not doing this might be a reason I haven't been hooking lately. It is incredibly important to keep an eye on this.

Good luck bro!

cheers, Ray

 

[Truth]

DAY 1

Yes, I totally agree, I pretty much stopped reading articles around the time I started approaching, for the exact same reason. I have however found Chase's book to be a useful reference, will probably read it for the 3rd or 4th time soon. One tip, maintain your fundamentals, I was thinking last night that not doing this might be a reason I haven't been hooking lately. It is incredibly important to keep an eye on this.

Good luck bro!

cheers, Ray

Thanks! I know how that goes... It's so true when you're developing any other skill. Sometimes you get too caught up in the new material that you get thrown off the foundations that you had developed. Something definitely to keep in mind!

Day 1

Day 1: Observation. Your first day's assignment is to go out and scout your area for places that have the kind of women you'd like to meet. Keep in mind that you're looking for places that have A) a decent amount of traffic and turnover, so that there are enough women there for you to approach any given time you go out, and B) are convenient for you to go to and get to so you'll have less mental resistance to overcome when you're starting out. Find at least four (4) different places you can go that have foot traffic from women you'd like to meet (e.g., NOT hired guns like waitresses, bartenders, or store clerks). You can do research online before you go out - e.g., find out where there's a large bookstore or nightclub near your home - but you MUST visit these places in person. These can be shopping malls, coffee shops, cafeterias, bars, nightclubs, or the street.

So the assignment for today is pretty much a prep job: figure out your four locations that will you'll be meeting women at for the next 30 days. I had already decided where three of my locations were gonna be at, so today was basically me figuring out the fourth.

If you haven't seen my earlier post this is what I had decided:

1) Campus Dining Location One: This place is probably the most popular location to grab a bite on campus. Huge turnover rate and a really social place to be.

2) Campus Dining Location Two: Although I really want to diversify my venues, I think this one is good enough to be one of my four. The biggest benefit of this place is that it has prime times where it is crowded as hell, and you basically need to share a booth with some strangers. Perfect opportunity to talk to people. Plus it has a really nice outside area that will be fun to hang around while it's still nice out.

3) Gym: I am choosing the fitness center here on campus because I'm there all the time, making it easy to get to, and also because it is one of the best places to find attractive girls in bulk. It also helps that there are always girls stretching, cooling off, or otherwise not engrossed in some high-intensity workout.

And finally my debated fourth decision...

4) Library: So I know I knocked the library in an above post, but it turns out that there are a few places where I feel it would be okay to chat up some strangers. I'm going to avoid the more focused study-places, and I'll stick to the more social areas. I'll admit that this one isn't as good as the first three, but I think this is the best option for fourth place. I checked out the game room and it didn't have nearly enough traffic for it to be considered a legit venue. I also considered the public transit, but I feel like I'll wait to hit that up until the public transport challenge coming up later in the 14 days.

So these are the four places. Tomorrow I have Day 2: Posture. I'm super excited to get started, although I'm hoping that I'll get more out of tomorrow than I am expecting (I did this to talk to women, and 2.5 days have passed and I still haven't had to!

Bah I'm just being eccentric, I need to remember to be patient . I'll get to that part soon enough!

 

[Truth]

Another sidenote: I found Chase's free quiz to determine your level with women. I'm sure it won't surprise too many here that I got the second tier: The Journeyman. I've decided that I will be doing that 30 day challenge after finishing the newbie assignment. Shoutout to Chase for the great free material! Like I said before, I'm trying not to consume any unnecessary material while I'm doing this newbie challenge (it will just take away from the action that I need to be doing), so I haven't purchased the book yet. That said, I know that I will be afterwards, if for no other reason than to show my support for this community.

That's all for now!

 

[Truth]

14 Day Challenge

Day 2
Learning about body posture

Day 2: Posture. Your assignment for Day 2 is to go back out to the places you found in Day 1 and both practice walking around with better, more confident posture, and to observe the posture of those around you on the street, in stores, in coffee shops, and other places. How straight are their backs? How confident are their walks? What impression do you get from the different people you see? Is your impression of someone walking down the street slouched over different from your impression of someone walking with his or her chest puffed out, back held straight, and head held high?

Next, improve your own posture: arch your back, lift your chest up (imagine there is a fish hook underneath your breastbone that is pulling your chest up and out), throw your shoulders back, and hold your head parallel to the ground. Do people react differently to you when you walk down the street with great posture? Do they step out of your way more, and do women cast more glances your way? Spend at least twenty (20) minutes walking about with improved posture and get a feel for the difference in how people react to you.

I made a few cool realizations today. First is that very few guys have decent body posture! 99% of men were slouched over or looked unconfident while sitting down, and while walking most people lacked confidence. It was really cool to see how just a little change can really change other's perceptions of you.

When I finally did see a confident person, it was pretty shocking. They were comanding. I saw maybe two guys throughout my day who walked with that level of confidence. Those benefits are real, and they are easy to reap.

Another realization I had is that women work fucking hard on their body posture. Almost all of the women I saw had great body posture. Women know that they should sit up straight, and that they should walk with grace. I guess that's just how they were raised, and now it has become a habit.

One important thing I discovered that I think isn't touched on here: Your resting face is incredibly important to people's perception of you. Are you a happy person or a negative one? All it takes for a women to judge you is one quick look. I noticed that a great number of women began to smile back when I started keeping my face "warm", meaning I had soft eyes and a bit of a smile. But I'm getting ahead of myself.

The main thing I noticed when I began to practice my own confident body language was that my own confidence skyrocketed. There's a TED talk out there that discusses this phenomenon, but it's cool how easy it is to see it in practice. Just by acting more confident, I was able to actually BE more confident. Also, I started noticing that girls were willing to offer that pre-opener IOI far more often. A lot of times it was small, like a little smile while at the same time looking away, but a few times girls smiled right back at me. That's a willingness to open if I've ever seen one.... Fuck me I just realized I should have said hi. Hahaha I got too caught up on the mission!

The next challenge is to say eye contact, which I'm hoping will lead to some more awesome confidence-boosting! Can't wait to get started! Talk to y'all soon.



P.S. Tomorrow I have tentative plans to pregame with a girl I hooked up with at the club last week... it'll be me, her, and a few of my friends. Anyone have some general advice I should keep in mind? I won't lie - I'm pretty nervous and a little too results dependent.. My bros see how these girls are into me at first but how they slowly fade away, and I feel like every time it happens I'm letting them down as much as I am letting myself down. Trying to stay positive though: I'm sure it'll go great

 

[Truth]

Day 3
Eye Contact

Day 3: Eye Contact. Your third day's assignment is to go visit the places you scouted out in Day 1 and make eye contact with everyone you can. Men, women, children, old people. If you're new to making eye contact, you'll find that this is harder than it sounds. Pay attention to how you feel making eye contact - does it feel awkward or uncomfortable? Do you feel growing social pressure as you hold eye contact with people? Watch your own reactions and those of the people whose eye contact you get and hold:

Breaking eye contact by moving eyes down: a sign of submission and meekness
Breaking eye contact by moving eyes to the side: a neutral eye contact break - neither submissive nor dismissive
Breaking eye contact by moving eyes up: a sign of dismissiveness and impoliteness

Make and hold eye contact with at least ten (10) different people. See how long you can hold eye contact with each person for; if it feels awkward and they're close to you, you can defuse the tension with a simple smile and head nod toward them, or by smiling and saying, "Hi." Once you reach ten (10) people made eye contact with, see if you can do more. Your primary objectives here will be getting familiar with the different ways people respond to your eye contact, and increasing your ability to handle social pressure from others (in this case, others who are returning your eye contact).

I guess this went over fine... I'm usually pretty good with eye contact anyway. I pretty much focused on eye contact and smiling with attractive women. The most interesting thing I noticed was that most people tend to look away right as I feel the pressure to. Also, you feel pretty powerful when you aren't constantly avoiding eye contact with others. I didn't really get anyone weirded out by my extended eye contact, which is cool.

Tomorrow I probably won't do day 4, because it'll be Saturday and I expect to be busy. But I'm not backing off! I'll be back here with the report soon.

 

[Truth]

Day 4
I may have cheated a bit

Today's exercise was to say hi to 6 women. I did that and more, but I may have cheated a bit...

Today was a rough day for me because I had a big test that I spent the majority of the day studying for. The only way I was able to get today's challenge in was to kill two birds with one stone. Basically, today I had to chill in the lobby of my dorm in order to have people sign up for some dorm-related issues. While I was there, i figured it would be the perfect time to just say hi to people as they walked by. Overall I talked to about 20 or 30 different women, some of whom I basically indirectly opened (not showing any attraction), whereas others I just said hi in a friendly tone. So far so good!

As far as saying as the actual challenge went, I think it went over really smoothly. As I've said, I'm not an ugly guy (and today I wore my best outfit too). I got nearly 100% positive reactions, which is always a good thing. An interesting note I made was that after doing the challenge, I felt really "warmed up" to talk to even more strangers. I didn't realize how good it feels to be able to talk to the people around you without having that social pressure crush you. i'm going to make an effort to keep that up.

By the way, today has helped me decide that I am going to change my fourth location from the library to the reception area of my dorm. I've been to the library at least 5 times now, and I have yet to sense a decent opportunity to open. This new location will be much, much better.

That's all for now folks, tomorrow is when I get serious and start having some actual conversations with people.