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So here's the story:
I met a girl via my friend and she lives 300km from me. We added each other on facebook and talked maybe once or twice a month as freinds. She had a boyfriend back then. Well, they broke up eventually. Fast forward maybe six months and we still talk on facebook every now and then. Somehow things start to get going and we talk more often, exchange phonenumbers and it felt like there's something going on between us. Then I told her that I'd like to meet her and she asks me to come to her home for a weekend and I go. The weekend was wonderful and we got really close. We cuddled alot and talked about everything, felt like we were made for each other. She took me to meet her friends and even her mother. She asked me if I like children. Then I go home. I try to talk her the next day, but she feels really distant and cold. I didn't think anything about it, but the I try to talk to her couple of times again within two weeks, but it's always the same, she doesn't seem to care. Then one night I go out drinking with my friends and when I get home, i text her and ask what she thinks about me. First she says that she thinks I'm really, but then she says she doesn't know how to answer. So I thought that maybe she doesn't want me talking to her, and I don't for couple of weeks. After couple of weeks I text her just to ask what's up and we exchange few text messages, untill she doesn't answer to my last text, and I thougt I'd better leave her alone for some time and continue my life.
Well, maybe two and a half months go by and I go drinking with my friends again. We all get piss-drunk and they all pass out before me. So, being drunk, I got an idea to text the girl. I ask her something like "Have I done something bad for you or am I an asshole in some other way?" She answers me with "Let's talk tomorrow". In the morning I wake up and I regret texting her more than anything ever before. But then I get a text from her saying "I'm not angry at you or think anything bad about you in any other way." I thought that maybe she was just trying to make me feel good and forget about her, but then she tells me that she's thinking about moving to study to the same city where I live. And as I said, she lives 300 kilometers from here. She doesn't know anybody from here except for me and our common friend who she doesn't even know that well. She has lots of friends in her hometown who she would just leave behind. Also the subject that she's going to study could be studied in her hometown in a much better school. Now this was little over a week ago. I have no idea what I should do now. She lives so far away, so I can't just ask her out for a walk or a cup of coffee.
One of the problems is also that I'm not sure what went wrong the first time. Maybe I was too nice to her or maybe it's because I didn't have sex with her during the weekend, I really have no idea.
I've been thinking if I should ask her if she wants to meet me. Or maybe I should just let her be for a while. The problem is, I can't stop thinking about her no matter how much I want to. I would really appreciate some help with this.
Sorry about my english, it's not my native language.
I met a girl via my friend and she lives 300km from me. We added each other on facebook and talked maybe once or twice a month as freinds. She had a boyfriend back then. Well, they broke up eventually. Fast forward maybe six months and we still talk on facebook every now and then. Somehow things start to get going and we talk more often, exchange phonenumbers and it felt like there's something going on between us. Then I told her that I'd like to meet her and she asks me to come to her home for a weekend and I go. The weekend was wonderful and we got really close. We cuddled alot and talked about everything, felt like we were made for each other. She took me to meet her friends and even her mother. She asked me if I like children. Then I go home. I try to talk her the next day, but she feels really distant and cold. I didn't think anything about it, but the I try to talk to her couple of times again within two weeks, but it's always the same, she doesn't seem to care. Then one night I go out drinking with my friends and when I get home, i text her and ask what she thinks about me. First she says that she thinks I'm really, but then she says she doesn't know how to answer. So I thought that maybe she doesn't want me talking to her, and I don't for couple of weeks. After couple of weeks I text her just to ask what's up and we exchange few text messages, untill she doesn't answer to my last text, and I thougt I'd better leave her alone for some time and continue my life.
Well, maybe two and a half months go by and I go drinking with my friends again. We all get piss-drunk and they all pass out before me. So, being drunk, I got an idea to text the girl. I ask her something like "Have I done something bad for you or am I an asshole in some other way?" She answers me with "Let's talk tomorrow". In the morning I wake up and I regret texting her more than anything ever before. But then I get a text from her saying "I'm not angry at you or think anything bad about you in any other way." I thought that maybe she was just trying to make me feel good and forget about her, but then she tells me that she's thinking about moving to study to the same city where I live. And as I said, she lives 300 kilometers from here. She doesn't know anybody from here except for me and our common friend who she doesn't even know that well. She has lots of friends in her hometown who she would just leave behind. Also the subject that she's going to study could be studied in her hometown in a much better school. Now this was little over a week ago. I have no idea what I should do now. She lives so far away, so I can't just ask her out for a walk or a cup of coffee.
One of the problems is also that I'm not sure what went wrong the first time. Maybe I was too nice to her or maybe it's because I didn't have sex with her during the weekend, I really have no idea.
I've been thinking if I should ask her if she wants to meet me. Or maybe I should just let her be for a while. The problem is, I can't stop thinking about her no matter how much I want to. I would really appreciate some help with this.
Sorry about my english, it's not my native language.
