Trying to get you jealous

[Cypher]

So, I'm a brand new member to this site, and I have to say I've picked up quite alot (pun intended, and thanks for the hepfull tips Chase and Ricardus) over the past few months! Yet there is one thing I'm still struggling a bit with. Witty remarks by girls trying to make your jealous.

I'll give an specific example. I received the following text:
"I just spoke to this guy that I met at *the bar where I met her too*. He started talking to me too, so... I don't know, I might like you better."

In my opinion there are 3 ways of coping with these kind of remarks:

1. Ignoring

• Downplaying

• Turning their own remarks on them

Most of the time I just shrug it off, saying nothing at all. Then just start on a new topic as if it was never mentioned.

You could try to downplay it. Like I did in this specific instance.
I replied with the following:
Nice! Your new friend and you can go shopping after we had some fun. Trust me, you don't really want me to go shopping anyways...

Or you could just reply with the same, something like:
Aah cool, so we are both still meeting new people!

Just out of curiosity, what remarks have you guys had? And In which ways did you respond?

 

[Nova]

Witty remarks by girls trying to make your jealous.

I'll give an specific example. I received the following text:
"I just spoke to this guy that I met at *the bar where I met her too*. He started talking to me too, so... I don't know, I might like you better."

how very witty of her...

most important thing is that you don't allow these kind of things to get to you and make you look all insecure in front of her. don't make it into a big deal.

 

[Smith]

I replied with the following:
Nice! Your new friend and you can go shopping after we had some fun. Trust me, you don't really want me to go shopping anyways...

I like your reply. I think the best way to deal with tests like this is just don't make it into a big deal like Nova said and reply with something witty.

Something like this "well you obviously have good tastes we might just get along" might work?

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Step 1: Look at the guy in Nova's picture

Step 2: Reply to the girl how he would

Step 3: Fuck her brains out


- Anatman

 

[Eternity]

"Cool. Bring the beer..."

 

[Cypher]

I replied with the following:
Nice! Your new friend and you can go shopping after we had some fun. Trust me, you don't really want me to go shopping anyways...

I like your reply. I think the best way to deal with tests like this is just don't make it into a big deal like Nova said and reply with something witty.

Something like this "well you obviously have good tastes we might just get along" might work?

Yeah, I like yours as well. The dude she was talking to is now firmly stuck in the friendzone... She couldn't imagine him as anything other than a pal to get shoes with !

@Anatman: Working at it bro. Coming thursday, it's on. That's for sure! Getting all the right signals.

@Eternity: Hehe, I like it

She keeps trying btw, told me how guys at the pool were looking at her. Don't really care, I like her trying tho...

 

[Improvementalist]

I've kind of encountered this before. I even commented on the topic in the "When Women Test Men"-thread, in the General-section.

Extracted for simple bullet points:

- Girl whom I vaguely know and who has shown IOI's (an FT-type) asks me implicitly to buy her a nice thing (in this case a blue rose), with the "You know what I'd really want?"
- I play it cool, not falling for her chase frame.
- She later turns for her otherwise an alpha male but in this case a chaser/orbiter, and presumably he buys it for her
- She then goes to this Facebook-group (which I'm part of, amongst other people) to brag how she got this wonderful rose from a certain person (She doesn't mention the name, but it doesn't even need it to know who the person was)
- The message wasn't directed to me visibly, but I wonder.. Maybe she was trying to make me jealous, to show how she's starting to "bond" with this guy, when really she may not even be interested of him? Also, she's showing that she did get the blue rose in the end, from a guy, even though I didn't buy it for her.

Earlier, before CG, I would've gone jealous and fell for it, but now I just see that the girl does seem to know her stuff.

Also, she's testing me, so doesn't this mean she's interested of me - and even more so than of her orbiter-guy?

My theory: She's trying to get me to the chasing mode, but instead all she does is give me chasing indicators, that she's "secretly" chasing me.

I was assuming originally that she's gone cold on me (attraction expiration), but if my theory holds ground she's still interested. The clever girl's just switched tactics.

 

[maximus6004]

Here this is from.the most recent article, anatomy of a failed date.

"You must not trash the competition. High value men don’t do this. It makes you look bad and not significantly above their level. If you are genuinely high above their level, you simply won’t bring them up because you spend exactly 0% of your time thinking about them, and if she brings them up you treat it as an amusing curiosity and move off the topic quickly because it’s irrelevant and boring to you. Sort of like if you were an 8th-degree black belt and someone brought up how pugilistic some of the yellow belts are. That’s a non-issue for you, because you don’t roll in their circles, don’t study with them, and they don’t ever mess with you or any of your friends anyway because they know you would kick their tails. You’d just shrug and say, “Are they? Hm,” and be done with the topic."

So basically when she says that, id personally just go.

Cool, so listen lets meet up for coffee, what foes your schedule look like.

Remember to.keep the texting down to minimum, you are already talking too much on text. Always keep it personal in person. Use texting for setting up dates because your time is valuable. You dont have time to be bullshitting about things like this. Then go out and meet new girls.

 

[Cypher]

Here this is from.the most recent article, anatomy of a failed date.

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So basically when she says that, id personally just go.

Cool, so listen lets meet up for coffee, what foes your schedule look like.

Remember to.keep the texting down to minimum, you are already talking too much on text. Always keep it personal in person. Use texting for setting up dates because your time is valuable. You dont have time to be bullshitting about things like this. Then go out and meet new girls.

Thanks, but I don't really agree with you on that one. I think that response actually sounds like you're chasing her.

By the way, I followed the procedure as Anatman described in his post. Just changed the first two steps...
Now I'm getting texts along the lines of: "I'm just glad that I'm cool enough for you to stick around".

That's more like it!

Thanks for your two cents though!

 

[Vincent Chase]

I've had this a lot from a previous girlfriend.

I would just laugh it off something like "guys hit on me too but I don't brag about it". Then change the subject.

 

[FastRomeo]

Yeah don't let her get to you at all. If she wants you over the other guy then she will make up any excuse. I had one exchange numbers from guys at the bar
when she invited me to the bar. Deep down I was insulted but I didn't react at all. Later when I talked to her she brought it up that the guys offered the
number and that those guys did call her but she didn't pick up.