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I just had an Ah-ha! moment while listening to this awesome song. (Gravestones by Hawthorne Heights)
I hope you may find this helpful.
For a while now I've been mulling over two ideas in my head, one positive and one negative .
#1-Wondering how I can provide more value to people.
#2- Thinking how much I need a girlfriend so she can help me with what I'm lacking.
First off, I usually catch myself when having such needy thoughts, but this one slipped by.
These two ideas are almost opposite of each other, seeking value from others and providing it.
I would often have thoughts of how I want to find a girl whose as into healthy lifestyle as me so she can prepare food with me since I'm lazy and that she'd have good taste in music too and show me a whole new world of tunes.
The thing is I already make most of my food myself and am not as lazy as I think, I also know A LOT of underground music that is pretty awesome.
My mind was just looking for the easy way and for some reason this did not click until now.
If you find yourself thinking needy thoughts, I hope this jars you!
In other words, if you are seeking something from someone, that is probably what you should bring into your life on your own and then provide it to others.
The benefits of this is it's something you genuinely want and when you bring it into you life yourself, then you no longer have a "hole" that needs filling and you now have a good way to provide value.
Just make sure your lady friends work for it
I must give credit to Chase's post today. I think a good note on this subject is the reality of becoming a high-value man; you WILL have to put in energy and effort to make a change! Just in case you have any doubts on this. Trust me though, it's better this way.
When I first started my healthy lifestyle I was burning with passion and the excitement of novelty. I would have girl mesmerized by the intensity of something they could not put their finger on. After a couple years that started to wear off and I forgot something important, it was hard work and I loved every minute of it. Now I am (read:was) lazy and wondered why it's starting to get boring.
Growing pains, they hurt so good.
I want to add I have a lot more growing to do, so know me as a sapling.
Good luck out there - Japandy
I hope you may find this helpful.
For a while now I've been mulling over two ideas in my head, one positive and one negative .
#1-Wondering how I can provide more value to people.
#2- Thinking how much I need a girlfriend so she can help me with what I'm lacking.
First off, I usually catch myself when having such needy thoughts, but this one slipped by.
These two ideas are almost opposite of each other, seeking value from others and providing it.
I would often have thoughts of how I want to find a girl whose as into healthy lifestyle as me so she can prepare food with me since I'm lazy and that she'd have good taste in music too and show me a whole new world of tunes.
The thing is I already make most of my food myself and am not as lazy as I think, I also know A LOT of underground music that is pretty awesome.
My mind was just looking for the easy way and for some reason this did not click until now.
If you find yourself thinking needy thoughts, I hope this jars you!
In other words, if you are seeking something from someone, that is probably what you should bring into your life on your own and then provide it to others.
The benefits of this is it's something you genuinely want and when you bring it into you life yourself, then you no longer have a "hole" that needs filling and you now have a good way to provide value.
Just make sure your lady friends work for it
I must give credit to Chase's post today. I think a good note on this subject is the reality of becoming a high-value man; you WILL have to put in energy and effort to make a change! Just in case you have any doubts on this. Trust me though, it's better this way.
When I first started my healthy lifestyle I was burning with passion and the excitement of novelty. I would have girl mesmerized by the intensity of something they could not put their finger on. After a couple years that started to wear off and I forgot something important, it was hard work and I loved every minute of it. Now I am (read:was) lazy and wondered why it's starting to get boring.
Growing pains, they hurt so good.
I want to add I have a lot more growing to do, so know me as a sapling.
Good luck out there - Japandy
