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Just a funny observation today...
"Abundance" comes up a lot in articles here... and also the idea of only really pursuing girls of a high caliber, as girlfriends.
There's a funny trade off here though... when you REALLY begin to filter out women who you don't consider to be of that caliber, it begins to limit your options more, or at least your interests more.
Having said that, Abundance is a mentality so sometimes it's almost about a little ego boost by knowing you can have these girls rather than actually having them. Even more, and this will sound very egotistical... but it's almost FUN as a guy to be the one to have the control and actually turn a girl down for a change! This is where this post came from... guys can't understand the idea that you'd actually turn down a girl who is into you!
Something that's come up a lot in the past 6 months in my social group is this.
I'm not actually perceived as someone who is crazy good with women! The reason is 2-fold. Firstly, I tend to be very discrete about women I meet. I only really introduce them to my friends if I see some sort of longer term potential with them. And I now only really pursue women I really want to.
When I go to a bar with friends, they aren't really into game and they aren't very good with women, appart from one friend who sadly has moved out of town recently. To be honest, one or two of them actually hinder pickup. Mainly because they generally wait for someone else to actually open a group of girls as they won't approach themselves but then immediately focus their attention on the hottest girl... which is obviously the target of the person opening (i.e. me!) and tend to just blow the whole thing out quickly... that or a lack of skills means their friends just aren't into it and you get a lot of "eyes" between the girls to get out of the conversation. My friends tend to be either too "try hard" or too "won't try at all!". Picking up by day or alone almost seems easier unless you are out with guys know what they are doing.
But it's funny...
I've HAD plenty opportunities within my social circle to score more but I declined as it would either mess with the group or I really had no interest in the women beyond just sleeping with them, and I didn't really have the option of keeping it casual within the group. Sure, I could have manipulated things to work, but I didn't really NEED to go there.
But I now often find myself in situations where girls within the group are really trying it on with me... even sometimes girls we just met but I don't really rate... 5,6,7's...
The reaction is funny.
Because I usually decline they tend to think of me as shy or quiet.
Or maybe I'm not good with women.
Or even sometimes when it's been glaringly obvious to everyone there I could be scoring the girl... I've been asked "You know she's into you... are you into women???"
Sometimes it bugs me... like if people see a girl into you and you are obviously deflecting the attention, they start making comments about you being gay, clueless or bad with women...
On the other hand I sort of have a chuckle to myself... if only they knew! I don't want this girl because she's nowhere near what I'd usually get outside this group.
It's both annoying and sort of awesome at the same time... having the ability to actually turn down an opportunity with a 6 or 7 because you know 9's and 10's are what is now in your reality.
"Abundance" comes up a lot in articles here... and also the idea of only really pursuing girls of a high caliber, as girlfriends.
There's a funny trade off here though... when you REALLY begin to filter out women who you don't consider to be of that caliber, it begins to limit your options more, or at least your interests more.
Having said that, Abundance is a mentality so sometimes it's almost about a little ego boost by knowing you can have these girls rather than actually having them. Even more, and this will sound very egotistical... but it's almost FUN as a guy to be the one to have the control and actually turn a girl down for a change! This is where this post came from... guys can't understand the idea that you'd actually turn down a girl who is into you!
Something that's come up a lot in the past 6 months in my social group is this.
I'm not actually perceived as someone who is crazy good with women! The reason is 2-fold. Firstly, I tend to be very discrete about women I meet. I only really introduce them to my friends if I see some sort of longer term potential with them. And I now only really pursue women I really want to.
When I go to a bar with friends, they aren't really into game and they aren't very good with women, appart from one friend who sadly has moved out of town recently. To be honest, one or two of them actually hinder pickup. Mainly because they generally wait for someone else to actually open a group of girls as they won't approach themselves but then immediately focus their attention on the hottest girl... which is obviously the target of the person opening (i.e. me!) and tend to just blow the whole thing out quickly... that or a lack of skills means their friends just aren't into it and you get a lot of "eyes" between the girls to get out of the conversation. My friends tend to be either too "try hard" or too "won't try at all!". Picking up by day or alone almost seems easier unless you are out with guys know what they are doing.
But it's funny...
I've HAD plenty opportunities within my social circle to score more but I declined as it would either mess with the group or I really had no interest in the women beyond just sleeping with them, and I didn't really have the option of keeping it casual within the group. Sure, I could have manipulated things to work, but I didn't really NEED to go there.
But I now often find myself in situations where girls within the group are really trying it on with me... even sometimes girls we just met but I don't really rate... 5,6,7's...
The reaction is funny.
Because I usually decline they tend to think of me as shy or quiet.
Or maybe I'm not good with women.
Or even sometimes when it's been glaringly obvious to everyone there I could be scoring the girl... I've been asked "You know she's into you... are you into women???"
Sometimes it bugs me... like if people see a girl into you and you are obviously deflecting the attention, they start making comments about you being gay, clueless or bad with women...
On the other hand I sort of have a chuckle to myself... if only they knew! I don't want this girl because she's nowhere near what I'd usually get outside this group.
It's both annoying and sort of awesome at the same time... having the ability to actually turn down an opportunity with a 6 or 7 because you know 9's and 10's are what is now in your reality.
