LR Turns out I wasn't dead in the water

[thedude]

So this is the girl I had a first date with in FR+: Sexy Black Chick- More to learn

So this girl just had a belief that she doesn't have sex with guys on the first date.

The second time I saw her I went over to her place and we watched some movies/ workaholics(hilarious show) on netflix.

TLDR, I get her naked but we don't have sex because of her beliefs.

Then, two days later we meet up again but this time at my house and we bang.

Turns out this girl has never had an orgasm during sex and it appears her clit doesn't work . It's not a pleasure spot at all for her and she says when she masterbates she rarely orgasms.

Scary stuff man

On a related note, I still have trouble having a hard dick when using condoms. I'm a more "feely" person and condoms kind of kill any feeling that I would have...

So 2 question,

1. how do I make this girl orgasm?
2. How do I maintain my erection when using condoms

 

[WayOfHand]

Seems like you did a good job the first time you met her. From my limited experience it could prove to be a long process of getting her to orgasm and takes time to get comfortable with. Take it as a challenge to better yourself aswell

What I'm trying to improve myself with at the moment is the psychological side of sex. Big part of sex isn't just the mechanical stimulation but all the dirty talk, teasing and dominance around it. Mayby you could try to arouse her more through this route!

Have had problems with condoms and erections too! I think part of the solution lies in making yourself more present in the moment. I suggest trying meditation if you still arent doing that. Also try decreasing porn if you are into that.

 

[adi13]

I don't like condoms either, you can't feel a damn thing , but like @WayOfHand said, don't watch porn because it really messes you up. I don't even watch sex scenes from normal movies, I just skip that part of the movie, or when going out and see a poster in the city with a sexy chick, I just look the other way. I had porn-induced ED, and it was baaad.
Try to masturbate max one or two times a week. I tried this and it works great even with condoms.
Now on the sex part. If she's not into clit orgasm she must be into penetration one. Try to hit her G spot with you penis during intercourse, and do a lot of touching. Be a lover not bunny.

 

[Ambiance]

@adi and @wayofhand

I full-heartedly agree with both of you. Porn + Condoms = RIP Boner. In My latest LR, I would overcome the feeling of a rubber by just really taking in the girl with all my senses. I've tried refraining from fapping, and I actually now think it is best to just do it once a week to keep yourself "awakened". At least until the porn desentization goes away, and you are getting laid so often that it becomes the default.

 

[lux7]

It's not "scary shit" man, it's just how she is, and you shouldn't have that mentality around her or you'll make her feel guilty or bad about it.

Also, it's quite common for women to never have had an orgasm while having sex.

Most of the times, I didn't worry about it, most of them still have a good time having sex (that plus most of the times I ain't looking for relationship and don't wanna be "too much" for them, but this might be different for you).

 

[thedude]

Thanks for the replies guys.

I dug deeper a little more and it turns out..

Whenever she masterbates she uses a vibrator and from what she told me... When it builds up she stops every time because she thinks she is going to pee.

For this reason she's never had an orgasm and nothing but her vibrator feels REALLy good to her.

@Lux I understand that, it just seems weird to me that she never did research on this

As for as our relationship, I'm cutting her off because I don't think the juice is worth the squeeze on this one. I could work toward "awakening her vagina" but it seems like a metric shit ton of work.

Besides the fact that she's a dead fish in bed :/

So back into the field for me, I need to test out patterns anyway.

As for my boner problem, no more weed and it will be fine especially as I put into practice Hector's Freaky shit into my reportoire.

 

[spadepoker]

Sounds like she could be a squirter. A lot of girls are embarrassed by this, although it's actually one of the most potent orgasms a woman can have. I've come across many girls that squirt. Actually, I've made over a third of the girls I've ever hooked up with squirt, which is higher than the reported national average. The technique is to find the g-spot and use the come here motion with two fingers steadily. You'll actually feel a space inside of her swell, and continue to use the come here motion as it grows. My finishing technique that makes girls erupt I picked up from a National Lampoon movie, the finger tornado. Use your two fingers and go in full tornado spirals until she gushes. It also could help to encourage her to squirt, saying things like "I want you to fully release for me" or if you're a dirty dude like me, "I want you to squirt on my face."

Prepare for clean up. It's difficult to get a girl to squirt in the shower, so you'll likely be in a place you'll need to clean up. Laying a towel down can help, but squirting orgasms are extremely powerful and she could very likely roll around mid-squirt. Just toss your sheets in the wash afterward and they'll be good.

There's videos on youtube on how to make a girl squirt that might be worth watching. It's very exciting, and she won't forget you. I'm usually the first or second of all guys a girls been with that has made her squirt, and they love it. Have fun mate, get ya some.

 

[lux7]

@Lux I understand that, it just seems weird to me that she never did research on this

Yeah, it's funny how so many people just go about their lives without caring much about what's going on with themselves in such important areas .

Can happen to us too though, as you do new cool things and pick new passions in life you could think "how the hell did I go all my life without getting into XYZ before.. ".

How many of us take care of eating healthy for example, even though it impacts our lives so strongly?

There's videos on youtube on how to make a girl squirt that might be worth watching. It's very exciting, and she won't forget you. I'm usually the first or second of all guys a girls been with that has made her squirt, and they love it. Have fun mate, get ya some.

That's cool man.
I probably haven't had a girl come with my mouth/fingers in like 7 years, too much trouble and time .
But it's a great skill one should have, and since you've done it many times, could you recommend a good video on that (there are many)?

 

[spadepoker]

This video is quick and extremely accurate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLGxQHCzLHM

It also mentions that the girl will get the need or the sensation that she needs to pee, and just to keep going through that anyway. Squirt isn't piss, and makes her extremely lubricated and receptive to anything else you might want to try with her.

I don't find it takes too long to make a girl squirt. I'd guess about 7-15 minutes on average, but depends on the girl. I make it a point to always make sure a girl orgasms. So what, if it takes you 30 minutes, whatever, she deserves to cum too.

It's rare to find a girl that squirts from oral alone. A couple little tips to add on top of the video--- Eat out the clit while you're in the beckoning motion step, before going into overdrive. At the end of overdrive, and while she's at the peak, and you'll know, she'll be screaming at the top of her lungs or biting holes into your sheets at this point, go with the finger tornado. Lastly, don't let up until she's completely done orgasming. You can make this orgasm last 30 seconds, but be prepared to ride the bronco with some girls since it's a powerful overwhelming experience that is going to cause her entire body to convulse. Ease up slowly and continue to rub the clit for 10-15 seconds at the end.

 

[lux7]

This video is quick and extremely accurate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLGxQHCzLHM

It also mentions that the girl will get the need or the sensation that she needs to pee, and just to keep going through that anyway. Squirt isn't piss, and makes her extremely lubricated and receptive to anything else you might want to try with her.

I don't find it takes too long to make a girl squirt. I'd guess about 7-15 minutes on average, but depends on the girl. I make it a point to always make sure a girl orgasms. So what, if it takes you 30 minutes, whatever, she deserves to cum too.

It's rare to find a girl that squirts from oral alone. A couple little tips to add on top of the video--- Eat out the clit while you're in the beckoning motion step, before going into overdrive. At the end of overdrive, and while she's at the peak, and you'll know, she'll be screaming at the top of her lungs or biting holes into your sheets at this point, go with the finger tornado. Lastly, don't let up until she's completely done orgasming. You can make this orgasm last 30 seconds, but be prepared to ride the bronco with some girls since it's a powerful overwhelming experience that is going to cause her entire body to convulse. Ease up slowly and continue to rub the clit for 10-15 seconds at the end.

Fair enough, I just don't feel it's worth the effort most of the times to be honest considering that :

1. You might not be willing to be in a relationship with her or even see her again and you don't want her to be too attached to you;

2. It sets a precedent, if you make her come and it took you 20 minutes of fingering.. Then that's gonna be your job from then on every time you meet

3. She is enjoying the time with you anyway.


Thanks for sharing man, I'll look at the video and get back to you if further questions