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Hey guys,
Recently met a girl, who looked a lot like my first crush in high school (so many years ago) in terms of look and personality, and I accidentally bumped into her today.
Would appreciate any feedback!
So I bumped into this girl I opened two days ago, who already have a bf. I was just wondering whether I should send her a text to ask her out, but glad I didn't.
At first, she was across the road waiting for the traffic light to turn green and she waved at me, but I didn't recognize her. There was a guy standing next to her, who didn't look too pleased. I was hoping it's not her bf.
So I smiled and waved back. Then as she crossed the road. we made eye contact again. I stood still for a few seconds after she walked past, then I turned my head back. To my surprise, she was standing a few meters behind me looking at me, as if waiting for me to engage her. (the guy has disappeared) I smiled and she waved goodbye.
I took a few steps forward and right when I'm about halfway crossing the road, I turned around and ran after her.
For some reason, I wanted to see her again so bad. She looked a lot like my first crush.
I caught up to her.
Me: "hey!"
Her: "oh hey!" She smiled and seemed pleasantly surprise
Me: "what are you doing this weekend?"
Her: "um I'm gonna visit my parent. They live 30 mins away"
Me: "right! What are you doing now?"
Her: "I was just teaching that guy some stuff. I met him last week" (so probably just an orbiter I see)
Me: "Actually, I was heading that way, but I had to come back..."
Her: "yea u looked confused back there"
Me: "haha oh did I? yea just wondering when you're free to get a coffee or hot chocolate"
Her: "You're really forward."
I smiled
me: "How about this? Let's get hot chocolate now and we'll see what happen"
She seemed hesitant and mentioned her bf but complied anyway as I started to walk towards the cafe.
We had a bit of chat before we got to the cafe, but since the cafe was full. I grabbed my hot chocolate and we took a walk to the mall. On the way, I accidentally spilled my drink and she offered me some tissue paper. She didn't order any drink btw.
On the way to the mall, she told me that she told her bf about me.
Her: "My bf is really down to earth (blah blah blah). So I told him about u yesterday... you're really forward. I feel a bit pushed"
Me: "oh really?"
I was surprised, but I assumed she's talking about right now (not when I met her two days ago, that interaction was pretty smooth) , so I guess this insta-date was a bit pushing it. What do guys think about this?
I feel I had to push it in this case. If I had texted her, it wouldn't have work anyway because she was gonna visit her parents and her bf will be pissed.
Her: "He said I should just man up and tell you to go away , because I'm too nice. and there was this incident last week as well when I was approached. I must have looked pretty approachable haha"
Oh wow! I've seen girls giving me harsh rejections, and believe me, if you didn't want me to be there, I can tell lol
This girl was all smiling and telling me about herself when I met her two days ago. I asked about what happened when she was approached last week, and she mumbled some shit I couldn't hear.
Me: "well do u want me to go away?" said it in a matter of fact tone and with a bit of smile. I honestly didn't care if she said yes.
She didn't say anything.
As we got to the mall, we just looked around some random shops selling random interesting stuff. It turned out we had a lot in common.
We saw some interesting birthday cards, and found out that we actually have the same birthday! it was really funny the way we found out.
Her: "I'm pretty good at remembering people's birthday"
Me: "yea? So when's your birthday?" checking out a birthday card.
Her: "December"
Me: "No kidding"
Her: "U?"
Me: "December too"
Her: "Ohhhh" She looked suprised "first half or second half"
Me: "first half"
Now her eyes widen a little bit
Her: "I'm at the middle of the first half"
I cracked up laughing. and now her eyes were wide open
Me: "Oh. MY. GOD!"
I didn't believe her and told her to show me her license.
Me: "well that's easy to remember"
Her: "hahaha"
would u fking believe it? but she's a few years older than me though.
It was fun hanging out with her, and if I wasn't meeting other girls, I would fall SOO hard for her, but I controlled my emotions.
Time flies, and I've to go meet my date soon. I didn't tell her about this, but she told me she had to go pack her stuff and drive to her parent's place.
As we stood on the street about to say goodbye.
I put on a sexy smile and looked thoughtfully
Her: "what are you thinking?
pause
Me: "that you have a bf"
She then told me that she's happy and her bf is really down to earth (oh really? the guy who told u to tell me to fuck off? I wanna meet this guy already haha)
She told me she's not the type who plays around and we can only be friends, but she can feel I won't be comfortable. Hmm. True. No intention to be friends here.
But if she's happy, I'm not gonna intervene. So I told her I understand.
Her: "I was surprised to see u again today. If we meet again, it will be another adventure =)"
Me: "haha right! we've been living in the same town for 4 years, and I only just saw u for the first time two days ago."
She then told me where she usually hangs out, and funny enough, I have walked past her lab so many times before.
She had to go right and I had to go left.
I watched her walked to the end of the street and as she turned left, she turned her head around, we made eye contact, and she disappeared.
Then I walked to the cafe to meet my date.
Our conversation was great! and there was strong attraction at the start when we both maintained strong eye contact, but I started to get tired and the conversation started to become a little bit impersonal towards the end, and there was a short silent after about an hour and 20 mins.
I realized I probably should've pulled about 20 mins ago haha.
I kinda lost interest in her towards the end. could be due to fatigue, or she's really not my type. But she did get my mind off the previous girl.
I still ran into the same problem of missing an escalation window. I think I probably could've pulled her in the first 20 mins, but I saw she still hadn't even touched her coffee!! So I decided against it. Anyway, the date ended pretty average. Not my best work.
Feel free to give some feedback. I've realized that I need to work on my sexual frames and not missing escalation window.
- Smith
Recently met a girl, who looked a lot like my first crush in high school (so many years ago) in terms of look and personality, and I accidentally bumped into her today.
Would appreciate any feedback!
So I bumped into this girl I opened two days ago, who already have a bf. I was just wondering whether I should send her a text to ask her out, but glad I didn't.
At first, she was across the road waiting for the traffic light to turn green and she waved at me, but I didn't recognize her. There was a guy standing next to her, who didn't look too pleased. I was hoping it's not her bf.
So I smiled and waved back. Then as she crossed the road. we made eye contact again. I stood still for a few seconds after she walked past, then I turned my head back. To my surprise, she was standing a few meters behind me looking at me, as if waiting for me to engage her. (the guy has disappeared) I smiled and she waved goodbye.
I took a few steps forward and right when I'm about halfway crossing the road, I turned around and ran after her.
For some reason, I wanted to see her again so bad. She looked a lot like my first crush.
I caught up to her.
Me: "hey!"
Her: "oh hey!" She smiled and seemed pleasantly surprise
Me: "what are you doing this weekend?"
Her: "um I'm gonna visit my parent. They live 30 mins away"
Me: "right! What are you doing now?"
Her: "I was just teaching that guy some stuff. I met him last week" (so probably just an orbiter I see)
Me: "Actually, I was heading that way, but I had to come back..."
Her: "yea u looked confused back there"
Me: "haha oh did I? yea just wondering when you're free to get a coffee or hot chocolate"
Her: "You're really forward."
I smiled
me: "How about this? Let's get hot chocolate now and we'll see what happen"
She seemed hesitant and mentioned her bf but complied anyway as I started to walk towards the cafe.
We had a bit of chat before we got to the cafe, but since the cafe was full. I grabbed my hot chocolate and we took a walk to the mall. On the way, I accidentally spilled my drink and she offered me some tissue paper. She didn't order any drink btw.
On the way to the mall, she told me that she told her bf about me.
Her: "My bf is really down to earth (blah blah blah). So I told him about u yesterday... you're really forward. I feel a bit pushed"
Me: "oh really?"
I was surprised, but I assumed she's talking about right now (not when I met her two days ago, that interaction was pretty smooth) , so I guess this insta-date was a bit pushing it. What do guys think about this?
I feel I had to push it in this case. If I had texted her, it wouldn't have work anyway because she was gonna visit her parents and her bf will be pissed.
Her: "He said I should just man up and tell you to go away , because I'm too nice. and there was this incident last week as well when I was approached. I must have looked pretty approachable haha"
Oh wow! I've seen girls giving me harsh rejections, and believe me, if you didn't want me to be there, I can tell lol
This girl was all smiling and telling me about herself when I met her two days ago. I asked about what happened when she was approached last week, and she mumbled some shit I couldn't hear.
Me: "well do u want me to go away?" said it in a matter of fact tone and with a bit of smile. I honestly didn't care if she said yes.
She didn't say anything.
As we got to the mall, we just looked around some random shops selling random interesting stuff. It turned out we had a lot in common.
We saw some interesting birthday cards, and found out that we actually have the same birthday! it was really funny the way we found out.
Her: "I'm pretty good at remembering people's birthday"
Me: "yea? So when's your birthday?" checking out a birthday card.
Her: "December"
Me: "No kidding"
Her: "U?"
Me: "December too"
Her: "Ohhhh" She looked suprised "first half or second half"
Me: "first half"
Now her eyes widen a little bit
Her: "I'm at the middle of the first half"
I cracked up laughing. and now her eyes were wide open
Me: "Oh. MY. GOD!"
I didn't believe her and told her to show me her license.
Me: "well that's easy to remember"
Her: "hahaha"
would u fking believe it? but she's a few years older than me though.
It was fun hanging out with her, and if I wasn't meeting other girls, I would fall SOO hard for her, but I controlled my emotions.
Time flies, and I've to go meet my date soon. I didn't tell her about this, but she told me she had to go pack her stuff and drive to her parent's place.
As we stood on the street about to say goodbye.
I put on a sexy smile and looked thoughtfully
Her: "what are you thinking?
pause
Me: "that you have a bf"
She then told me that she's happy and her bf is really down to earth (oh really? the guy who told u to tell me to fuck off? I wanna meet this guy already haha)
She told me she's not the type who plays around and we can only be friends, but she can feel I won't be comfortable. Hmm. True. No intention to be friends here.
But if she's happy, I'm not gonna intervene. So I told her I understand.
Her: "I was surprised to see u again today. If we meet again, it will be another adventure =)"
Me: "haha right! we've been living in the same town for 4 years, and I only just saw u for the first time two days ago."
She then told me where she usually hangs out, and funny enough, I have walked past her lab so many times before.
She had to go right and I had to go left.
I watched her walked to the end of the street and as she turned left, she turned her head around, we made eye contact, and she disappeared.
Then I walked to the cafe to meet my date.
Our conversation was great! and there was strong attraction at the start when we both maintained strong eye contact, but I started to get tired and the conversation started to become a little bit impersonal towards the end, and there was a short silent after about an hour and 20 mins.
I realized I probably should've pulled about 20 mins ago haha.
I kinda lost interest in her towards the end. could be due to fatigue, or she's really not my type. But she did get my mind off the previous girl.
I still ran into the same problem of missing an escalation window. I think I probably could've pulled her in the first 20 mins, but I saw she still hadn't even touched her coffee!! So I decided against it. Anyway, the date ended pretty average. Not my best work.
Feel free to give some feedback. I've realized that I need to work on my sexual frames and not missing escalation window.
- Smith
