Typical friendzoned situation

[relevantusername]

There's this girl in my class that was my study buddy. I invited her home and moved too slow (missed escalation windows) and by the end of it already sensed that she's near auto-rejection. This happened 4 times until we made out. Needless to say, she has put me in the friendzone, acted cold, coy and all sorts of things towards me but always comes back saying things like "If you stop trying to kiss me maybe i'll talk to you again" or even "I like someone else" and "if i died would have any regrets towards me?", i dont chase, she comes back, i try to progress things and she gets frustated. Rinse and repeat. I have other girls but I see her in class all the time and my ego won't let me jus write her off. What should i do?

 

[Dude909]

NEXT

 

[HellAtlantic]

I'm in a friendzoned relationship (at work). Ugh. I hate the whole concept of "next", I like to think it's more "next her as a viable option of someone you want to invest time to escalate with". You can't "next" every girl who rejects your advances, some of them are actually cool girls. But yeah your ship has sailed, it's best to move on. I hate having to listen to that advice but I'm learning some things are never meant to be. It's sad but that's the way it is.

One thing I've learned, since you wrote you stop chasing and then she comes back - is this: when a girl friend zones you but let's you remain in her life but on a leash or on her own terms and pops up whenever you stop giving attention, it's cuz she enjoys orbiters. She likes the attention from males she has no intention of banging. It validates her. But all relationships are a two way street - you both have to get something out of it. She gets your attention. What do you get from her that makes this relationship worth your time? A question only you can answer.

 

[Metalus]

Okay i guess first you will have to realize something:
You are chasing her. You say "i dont chase" but in reality you are chasing her. Woman are experts in making you feel ur holding the strings in your hand while they control your actions. She obviously likes the fact that she is having control and she loves your attention. This is not something cruel or negativ in her personality; I mean everyone loves attention right? How do I know you are chasing her ? Well you just opened a thread in this forum but if u are constantly reading G.C. (I assume you do) you actually know the answer. "NEXT"
She might seem frustrated towards your actions - this could be either because she wants to play the game a little longer or because she is really pissed that you just dont get it.

So lets get to the point. Is there a chance to turn this around? I'd say in most cases there isnt. It is not impossible but its not done within a week or even a month. This might cost you 3 or 4 months or even more. And even after that and considering u did everything right there is no guarantee that she will "fall in love" with you. Thats the main reason to better go for someone else who likes you right at the start. Dont waste your time on something like that.

So what should you do:
First forget about her. Girls absolutely like attention but they dont respect the guy giving them attention for no reason and in your case i think its the "no reason" category. (since she even stated that kissing is no option)
Second remember: Girls love what other girls love. So if u are an attractive man with options she might be open next time u go for her. So just go for improving even further.
Sometimes when im really not sure what to do I just ask myself "what would James Bond do?" I know this sounds silly. But James wouldnt ever go for her right ? (why would he waste his precious time with a girl that doesnt want to kiss)

Im far from being an expert. And im no native english speaker but I still hope I could provide some help.