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First of, please excuse the excessive attention seeking title, I just wanted as many people as possible to read this.
There's been quite a lot of victim mentality around the forums lately, particularly from men of ethnic minority and as a black guy myself, I wanted to show what is possible and how
The only thing limiting your success with women is yourself
Who am I? A normal 19 year old studying in London. However most my lays are from a small town in the south west of the country. Whereby being black I found was an advantage as I was seen as "exotic" and different. I've stalked this forum for years, and silently got to work but I feel its only fair that I should give back.
Take it or leave it, but if at least one person can take value from this, it would have been worthwhile.
The best way to receive is to give.
If you internalise and understand those 8 words, you don’t need to read this post.
If you aren’t 100% sure on what I mean by the importance of giving value… Read on
(*If you’d rather just look at hot blonde girls feel free to skip this and scroll down lol*)
Spend 95% of your time, becoming that guy and only 5% of your time, getting that girl
This one is huge, but have you noticed how some guys literally get girls with so much ease? While everyone else begs and leaches for the scraps? The worst of this is in college, it’s literally brutal.
Instead of the old school pua method of faking it with made up stories,false time constraints blah blah blah (I was also guilty of this in my early days) just go out there and live life. As GC says you want to be magnetic and have girls attracted to you naturally – Instead of having to force things to happen.
-Maximise your looks, go to the gym etc etc you’ve heard this all before, so just do it.
-Grow your hair out and keep the sides trimmed low. IMHO 90% of guys look a lot better just by doing this... No homo
-Dress better, this is honestly as simple as getting clothes that fit you well and aren't baggy. While colour coding in a way that fits your skin tone but if you're too lazy to do that? Just wear all black,
its fashionable at the moment and if you do it right, it’s a classic look with a lot of gravitas. I personally don't bother with trends however as they are always coming and going... Better to just stick with classics that will always look good e.g. Black Overcoats , Oxford Shirts, Chelsea Boots, slim jeans etc. Makes your investments go further.
Create a life that you love
-This can’t be faked, but is absolutely worth achieving. Things will just start to click with ease.
-Get a circle of cool like minded guys, who are on the same level as you're. This one is also big... If you do the above 2 things alone, you will get laid just by the natural process of girls finding you attractive and putting themselves out to you, As long as you posses enough basic social skills to pick up on them doing so.
-Do cool shit, where are the best bars in your town/ city? Where would you go for a good night on a Friday, Saturday or even Wednesday? What building do you have to go up in order to get a beautiful view of the skyline, that the tourists have no clue about? What small Japanese shop serves the best ramen? Where’s the nearest beach you can go to, for a summer night BBQ etc etc.
-LIVE YOUR LIVE…. I want this to stick so I’m going to repeat it LIVE YOUR LIFE
What are your ambitions? Goals? Dreams and visions for your future? What wakes you up in the morning and has you feeling thankful to be alive, to actively move towards your greater purpose?
If you can’t answer those questions with absolute certainty than your lack of desired results with women is honestly the least of your problems.
Invite and Enjoy
-If you’ve done the above right, all that’s left is to expand your circle ( the girls will come by themselves ). Then invite people who you think might fit well into your life. That simple.
-In fact if you’ve done this right, you’ll practically have orbiters asking you to get involved in the things you get up to ( My mind was blown when this happened to me, as it was only a few years earlier when I was trying to do the same with other people) Just give value to people who you think are able to reciprocate e.g. invite someone over to a party, if you know they regularly host them.
People who have received usually feel obliged to give- Human nature
-Cold approach also becomes so much more fun and easier, because believe me, the majority of people are bored with their lives. The mere fact that you know you can meet people and drastically improve their lives, beyond just good sex for a girl, is extremely empowering and trust me, it will show naturally, without you having to work or think about it.
BLONDE GIRLS
Right, for those who don't care about the process and just want to see hot blonde girls. Here they are...Most of them were either at parties, random cold approach, same day lays or facebook messaging over the space of a few months, enjoy...
- Messaged her on facebook, and got her round my house within 2 hours. How? I was just chilled out, lightly flirty and non needy. If I’m honest probably helped that she was younger and not that well known, while I was quite popular, and which seems to be a big thing for party girls lol.
- Enjoyed this one the most tbh. Was walking back home from work and spotted her on the street. Went up and spoke to her. Fast forward some light funny conversation, she missed her last bus home to a nearby village, so she stayed at my place in the city centre. Combination of solid fundamentals, excellent logistics and a spot of luck got this one.
- One of my easiest lays. Was at a house party, found myself in a room with her and a few others… Someone switched the light of and all I did was grab her face and brought it closer to mine, kissed her on a bed – Grinded on her she got horny than ….
Once again combination of good fundamentals, alcohol and just going for it. I was sociable with everyone. Also was the one to start the drinking games, and just bounced around having the most fun.
- Messaged me on facebook first, then invited me to a party she was going to with some friends in my city the next day. Turns out there was no party and they were just out clubbing but ended up meeting her later in the night and took her back to mine. Once again being chill, having good fundamentals and logistics helped me out here.
- Know her hair is purple here, but she is naturally blonde lol. Met this girl of tinder. Light fun, humorous conversation whereby I’m not thirsty or mention sex . I’m strongly against sex talk before actually sleeping with girls… Most of the time it just makes you look desperate especially on a dating app like tinder. Met on a first dates for drinks, walked her back to mine, things escalated but didn’t go all the way. Secured it on the day 2 at her house.
Summed up into 4 points.
1. Cement your foundations first, ability to make conversation,crack jokes with people, make them feel comfortable around you and like you etc etc
2.Be someone that others want to be around, whether that's through looking good and thus making them look good (shallow but true) or just being cool in general
3.Provide fun, good emotions/ Vibes, good sex, things to do etc etc
4.Do this in a consistent non-needy way and the girls 8/10 will come back..and if they don't you're having so much fun you really don't mind.
FAQ
Oh but mr G.V how do I get this 1 gir- I don't want to hear it... sleep with 5 more girls, come back to me and tell me if you still care
For some reason I can't get cool guys to be my friends- Harsh truth is, you probably aren't cool yourself or are coming across too needy. Chill the fuck out
be comfortable in your own company, then slowly branch out in a measured confident FRIENDLY FOR THE SAKE OF BEING FRIENDLY way
I have bad logistics- This one is a bummer... but use it to your advantage. If you live with your parents you should have a job. No excuses. Preferably in sales, that shii teaches you lessons for life. Then use the extra saved income to your advantage e.g. dress better, go out to bars and clubs more. Travel to nearby countries and just enjoy yourself man. Can even take professional pictures and try online dating... but I don't really recommend it - Getting girls in person is a lot easier and more enjoyable
Side note? This journey is without doubt the narrow path.. You will be lonely, face ridiculous amount of rejection and in your initial stages think to yourself,why the fuck am I doing this? Success isn't linear and if you just learn to enjoy the process and stick with it, I promise it's worthwhile
Hope that's useful people!
OH and I've added a picture of me,mid snapchat, that sums me up pretty well... Fun, chill who is all about having fun and helping others do the same.
- I don't wear hats anymore, but this was in the summer at the height of my reckless party days.
All the best young kings,
Mr Good Vibes x
There's been quite a lot of victim mentality around the forums lately, particularly from men of ethnic minority and as a black guy myself, I wanted to show what is possible and how
The only thing limiting your success with women is yourself
Who am I? A normal 19 year old studying in London. However most my lays are from a small town in the south west of the country. Whereby being black I found was an advantage as I was seen as "exotic" and different. I've stalked this forum for years, and silently got to work but I feel its only fair that I should give back.
Take it or leave it, but if at least one person can take value from this, it would have been worthwhile.
The best way to receive is to give.
If you internalise and understand those 8 words, you don’t need to read this post.
If you aren’t 100% sure on what I mean by the importance of giving value… Read on
(*If you’d rather just look at hot blonde girls feel free to skip this and scroll down lol*)
Spend 95% of your time, becoming that guy and only 5% of your time, getting that girl
This one is huge, but have you noticed how some guys literally get girls with so much ease? While everyone else begs and leaches for the scraps? The worst of this is in college, it’s literally brutal.
Instead of the old school pua method of faking it with made up stories,false time constraints blah blah blah (I was also guilty of this in my early days) just go out there and live life. As GC says you want to be magnetic and have girls attracted to you naturally – Instead of having to force things to happen.
-Maximise your looks, go to the gym etc etc you’ve heard this all before, so just do it.
-Grow your hair out and keep the sides trimmed low. IMHO 90% of guys look a lot better just by doing this... No homo
-Dress better, this is honestly as simple as getting clothes that fit you well and aren't baggy. While colour coding in a way that fits your skin tone but if you're too lazy to do that? Just wear all black,
its fashionable at the moment and if you do it right, it’s a classic look with a lot of gravitas. I personally don't bother with trends however as they are always coming and going... Better to just stick with classics that will always look good e.g. Black Overcoats , Oxford Shirts, Chelsea Boots, slim jeans etc. Makes your investments go further.
Create a life that you love
-This can’t be faked, but is absolutely worth achieving. Things will just start to click with ease.
-Get a circle of cool like minded guys, who are on the same level as you're. This one is also big... If you do the above 2 things alone, you will get laid just by the natural process of girls finding you attractive and putting themselves out to you, As long as you posses enough basic social skills to pick up on them doing so.
-Do cool shit, where are the best bars in your town/ city? Where would you go for a good night on a Friday, Saturday or even Wednesday? What building do you have to go up in order to get a beautiful view of the skyline, that the tourists have no clue about? What small Japanese shop serves the best ramen? Where’s the nearest beach you can go to, for a summer night BBQ etc etc.
-LIVE YOUR LIVE…. I want this to stick so I’m going to repeat it LIVE YOUR LIFE
What are your ambitions? Goals? Dreams and visions for your future? What wakes you up in the morning and has you feeling thankful to be alive, to actively move towards your greater purpose?
If you can’t answer those questions with absolute certainty than your lack of desired results with women is honestly the least of your problems.
Invite and Enjoy
-If you’ve done the above right, all that’s left is to expand your circle ( the girls will come by themselves ). Then invite people who you think might fit well into your life. That simple.
-In fact if you’ve done this right, you’ll practically have orbiters asking you to get involved in the things you get up to ( My mind was blown when this happened to me, as it was only a few years earlier when I was trying to do the same with other people) Just give value to people who you think are able to reciprocate e.g. invite someone over to a party, if you know they regularly host them.
People who have received usually feel obliged to give- Human nature
-Cold approach also becomes so much more fun and easier, because believe me, the majority of people are bored with their lives. The mere fact that you know you can meet people and drastically improve their lives, beyond just good sex for a girl, is extremely empowering and trust me, it will show naturally, without you having to work or think about it.
BLONDE GIRLS
Right, for those who don't care about the process and just want to see hot blonde girls. Here they are...Most of them were either at parties, random cold approach, same day lays or facebook messaging over the space of a few months, enjoy...
Once again combination of good fundamentals, alcohol and just going for it. I was sociable with everyone. Also was the one to start the drinking games, and just bounced around having the most fun.
Summed up into 4 points.
1. Cement your foundations first, ability to make conversation,crack jokes with people, make them feel comfortable around you and like you etc etc
2.Be someone that others want to be around, whether that's through looking good and thus making them look good (shallow but true) or just being cool in general
3.Provide fun, good emotions/ Vibes, good sex, things to do etc etc
4.Do this in a consistent non-needy way and the girls 8/10 will come back..and if they don't you're having so much fun you really don't mind.
FAQ
Oh but mr G.V how do I get this 1 gir- I don't want to hear it... sleep with 5 more girls, come back to me and tell me if you still care
For some reason I can't get cool guys to be my friends- Harsh truth is, you probably aren't cool yourself or are coming across too needy. Chill the fuck out
be comfortable in your own company, then slowly branch out in a measured confident FRIENDLY FOR THE SAKE OF BEING FRIENDLY way
I have bad logistics- This one is a bummer... but use it to your advantage. If you live with your parents you should have a job. No excuses. Preferably in sales, that shii teaches you lessons for life. Then use the extra saved income to your advantage e.g. dress better, go out to bars and clubs more. Travel to nearby countries and just enjoy yourself man. Can even take professional pictures and try online dating... but I don't really recommend it - Getting girls in person is a lot easier and more enjoyable
Side note? This journey is without doubt the narrow path.. You will be lonely, face ridiculous amount of rejection and in your initial stages think to yourself,why the fuck am I doing this? Success isn't linear and if you just learn to enjoy the process and stick with it, I promise it's worthwhile
Hope that's useful people!
OH and I've added a picture of me,mid snapchat, that sums me up pretty well... Fun, chill who is all about having fun and helping others do the same.
All the best young kings,
Mr Good Vibes x
