Long-Term Uncertainty about LTR

[Aykan]

I lost my virginity within 2 weeks of discovering this site at the age of 25, and now I'm in a long term relationship with the girl. I'm having doubts as to whether she is someone I would like to build something long term with.

She is pretty, ambitious (she has a good career as a lawyer) and thoughtful. The only thing lacking that I see is vivaciousness.

Also I don't know if you guys believe in MBTI matches but she is not one of my ideal matches, and I believe it shows. I once dated an ESFJ girl (one of my matches, I'm an INFP) and things were more natural.

Nevertheless she is a great girl and I'm not sure whether to LTR her or move on.

Would love to hear you thoughts,
A.E

 

[Frost]

I don't know if you screened her from the start or not, but if you seem to enjoy her company, and hanging out with her (sex excluded) then why not?

 

[Fuck This]

How long, is the relationship at this point?
What are her thoughts about your situation?
What is her relationship background?

Would you rather have four women in rotation at one time or four exclusive relationships in a row?
Is having a girlfriend or having frequent sex more important to you?
Do you feel like you are under a deadline to get married and have a family?


I thinkyour answers will clarify your goals at this point.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Aykan,

Depends on your life goals and what is your age...

If you are still young, she leave you because she smell it. If your need to improve is strong, she will smell it and either let you off or stay with you if she can.

Enjoy the relationship by day. It can end tomorrow.

Zac

 

[Aykan]

I think if you're questioning it this much then it's time for you to get out and experience more things. You will probably be putting yourself in a "tougher" situation. But it will be worth it to know what you can accomplish. Move on, let her go, and discover more about yourself. Beautiful and amazing women are abundant and you can and will find another if you put the work in. If you're lazy tho, it may be good just to settle down, depends on what you want out of life. I'm not saying that condescendingly either. You may have goals that just make more sense to accomplish in an LtR.

Radeng

Thanks Radeng. I'm thinking of approaching lots of other girls for 2 months while still staying in a relationship with her, and not telling her anything. Then deciding at the end of the 2 months.