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Railer

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Recap of the past ten days:

The other day I ask one of the girls in my gym if she'd like to join me for groceries. She denies and now she seems uneasy in my presence.

The same night I notice one of the waitresses staring at me as I pass by. She's obviously not on duty. I return to her: "You are the waitress who's working here, right?"
Her friends leave in the moment I show up. We chat a little, I touch her when possible and at some point I pull her in for a kiss. She then suggests to go outside for a smoke. As she lights her cig I suggest sitting down on one of the couches. She complies, we talk and kiss. She hands me her WhatsApp. I explain that mine is broken, so she also gives me her local number. She says she has to go back to her friends, but that she'd be back with me later on. Then she disappears.

There's a drunk girl. She's trying to talk to me. At a certain point I manage to isolate her for a walk. We kiss, but she refuses to join my to my apartment. I let her go and stay in the street, relaxing. She returns a couple of times until I finally decide to join her again to the bar. She clings to me closely, but I avoid kissing her. After all that's the bar where that waitress is working. Instead, I write "Where are you?" to the waitress.

The drunk girl and her friends leave and there's never an answer from the waitress.

The following week I text the waitress from another bar and ask if she'd be around. Later, I see her, open her and she goes "Oh hi, how are you?" as she leaves. I wonder: Why bother handing me two numbers and then act like this?

That night, I see a girl I had known here about a year ago. She greets in a friendly fashion, but seems uneasy. Later, while she's dancing, I give her a funny smirk and notice she's suddenly looking at me a lot from that moment onwards. At the beginning she had stated she was "working", so I *suppose* she might be prostituting herself (as her friend tried to that year before). Maybe she's just hoping to make business with me tonight. For the first time in my life I actually consider it, but I never find out, as she leaves before I have the guts to talk to her again.

I see another girl from last year - I had slept with her once back then. She acts friendly, but appears uneasy too and bails shortly after.

There are several HB's around that I'm really horny for, but I'm too afraid of opening any of them. It's morning and one after another they leave.

Today I call one of the girl's I had met some weeks back. Contact broke when my WhatApp ceased to work. As she realizes who I am she quickly explains that she is at work at the moment and that she'd quit at nine. As I say "I'll call at nine then", she does not confirm and we end the call. I just tried to figure out for about an hour if I should actually call her again or if she just wanted to "get rid" of me quickly. If her work is really that stressful that she is unable to talk for a second, there's no reason to pick up the phone in the first place and otherwise there's no reason to chop me off like this. Thus I decide not to call. I strongly desire to find out where I went wrong, but she would probably not tell me if I asked.

There was one thing positive too - surprise, surprise: At some other party these days, we passed a group of girls who looked at me strongly. Normally, I'd not open them out of (some screwed up) respect for the other girls I'm with (though nothing ever happened with any of them). Being sufficiently drunk I take the opportunity for some quick small talk. As I state "I'll have to go now, but I hand you my number", two of the three girls pull out their phones and want me to enter my details. I give it to my favorite one and tell the other she could get them from her. Yesterday I call that, but she's about to leave the country. She notes that she'd be back in about a week. I don't really know if and how to go about this, but at least I ignored my social constraint that night and opened her.
 

HellAtlantic

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You're getting hits bro, and chipping away at it little by little. Congrats.
 

Railer

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HellAtlantic said:
You're getting hits bro, and chipping away at it little by little. Congrats.

Thanks. I'm just getting angry at ... myself ... every once in a while when I realize I have no form of finding out what repelled a girl.

It would be "so easy" if any single one of them in all those years just told me straight away *once*. I don't even care too much about "that one girl" dropping me, but any experience is just plain worthless if it leaves you off worse than before - without any info why.
 

Sophisticated Gent

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id10t,

Write detailed reports of your meetings with the ladies. Include the conversations, circumstances, attitudes, reactions and such. We need this to evaluate what is going on with your interactions.

SGent
 

Railer

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the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake
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